Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Life change after birth?

me and my husband are very close together and always spend time together but however i just birth 2 days ago i felt my life is change after i birth and now i always stay up all night and never sleep i try go sleep but i couldn't and now i felt me and my husband are change not spend together that much like before because i am always spend time with my baby boy, i am kinda depressed because i miss been with my husband all the time. how can i keep my husband spend time with me? i mean we always make a love together but now the doctor told me not to have sex for 6 weeks, i dont know what to do? :(Life change after birth?
Your feeling about the uncertain future is very common and normal. This event will totally change your life, but only for better. You will soon love your baby boy too much to think about other things, and your husband will want to spend time with two of you.Life change after birth?
You had a baby 48 hours ago. Give yourself a break! You haven't spent private time with your husband---it's been literally two days!



And yes, life changes when you have a baby. That baby is 100% dependent on you.



Once you get into a routine, you will be able to adjust your life to your liking. Because you cannot have intercourse does not mean you cannot snuggle and hold your husband.



You just need to have some reasonable expectations. Two days after the new arrival is not a time to be thinking nothing will ever be the same.
Things will get better...remember, a baby grows and you won't always be getting up in the middle of the night...does your husband not help you with the baby? Why don't you have him do some of the getting up in the middle of the night stuff too? He'll appreciate you more. You can also set up a date night (if you can get a sitter) when the baby is a little older, so that you can be husband and wife as well as mom and dad...and whatever you do DO NOT HAVE SEX until the doctor tells you...you will end up pregnant again.



Good luck!
There will be a period where you don't get much sleep at all. Probably until around 3 months or when the baby starts sleeping throughout the night. What I did is was when my son was sleeping my husband and I spent time together. Or I got a babysitter to help with the new stress. After my baby was a couple weeks old I let my mother or a close friend watch my baby so I could get a few hours alone with my husband a week or every other week.



While you are healing I would just try and relax and get to know your baby more. I know how sleep plays a big part on stress and it can seem overwhelming.



I would also try and do things together with the baby, this way you still have your time with your husband and with your son.



I would also wait the full 6 wks until having sex or whatever your doctor told you. The female body can take up to a year to fully heal after having a baby and it takes a big toll on the emotions.



Good Luck and I hope this helps!
sounds like you may have a bit of post natal depression head to the doctor and talk to him if your not feeling more positive in a week. Don't stress to much it is all very new and you will get to spend more time with your husband soon.
please do not have sex wait the six weeks because you could get pregnant very easly in the next 6 weeks and then you would have less time with your husband. once you both get used to having the baby around you will get to spend more time with him too.



You should encourage him to spend time with both you and the baby! you have a little precious gift and enjoy every second of it with the baby and your husband together.



anyways, snuggling with a baby and a husband at the same time is so much fun! ;)
try to give him more attention. like a child loll =)
It is very normal to spend all your time with a new baby at first. It is an important time for the baby and you to bond. Ask your husband to sit with you and you can enjoy bonding with the baby together. Be sure to talk to your doctor if you continue to feel depressed.
this is totally normal. right after you give birth your hormones begin to fluctuate back to normal. right after i give birth, i'm always an emotional wreck and with the lack of sleep, it makes you crazy. soldiers get tortured with sleep deprivation and here as mothers we deal with it graciously.



you are fine. you will spend time with your husband again. give your baby a good 6-8 weeks to develop a sleep pattern. once this happens, you and your husband will have some evening time to bond. it's hard...it's all on you...but, things will get better. you have so much to learn and then you have to teach your husband. you'll do fine.



if you have a calm baby, go out for dinner. i would take our first born in the car seat and we would go out for a nice dinner while she slept.



hang in there...nothing last forever.
You probably can get away with having sex after 4 weeks, depending on your body. And, it's only 2 days. Chidren change the dynamics of a relationship. If you have a good husband you guys will grow together even more, as a family unit. When you are feeding the baby and he's up, talk....You have to eat, you can talk then too. While he's showering, sit in the bathroom and talk. Sex is great but you may not always have that....if you want to go the distance, keep communicating. And, don't panic. It's just been 2 days. You both will get into the routine of things.
your life will change forever.

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