How to create a drastic life change?

I'm sick of my current life, but cannot just get up and leave.I have a wife in school at the moment and a 5 yr old daughter in school aswell who will not be very happy with me if i pull her outta there.I want more than the daily grind of nine to five.



I am a smoker who desperately wants to quit but tried everything.

I would like to be more fit.

I would like to be a happier person(i am very on edge and easily set off,Angry at the world)

I would like to be more social( but fear and nervousness have control over me)

Want more time with my family

Want to help the poor, weak and oppressed.



I'm sure there's more but i can only take so much self mutilation.

Basically i hate myself, but put on a show for the fam.



I am a diesel tech if that might help any....How to create a drastic life change?
First of all, you are being WAY too hard on yourself.



Second, Rome wasn't built in a day.

People who make an impulsive decision such as a drastic lifestyle change will fail. It is just too much all at once. You need to address your problems one at a time. Start with the problems that are easiest to solve. This will build your strength and confidence so you can go on to tackle larger issues.



If you feel you cannot do it on your own, help is available in your community. In the first few pages of your phone book, you can find your local crisis centres and they can show you wear to turn to seek support.



Take it one day at a time. Take a breath. And begin.How to create a drastic life change?
It sounds as though you are suffering from depression. Moving to another place is not the answer, because you will still be suffering from depression. You need to see a doctor and describe your feelings to him/her. It is possible that medication will help you. Don't make any drastic change until you see a doctor and get some help.
I agree with the first answer. Also check out a church and see if you can go for counseling. Maybe you have a friend who attends a good church and you can attend with him. You've got a lot going for you and it sounds like you're hard on yourself.
If you try to change too many things at the same time, you will be destined to fail.

You have a couple major obligations which you have take on and to default on those will ultimately lower your self esteem even more.

Set down and make a list of things about yourself that you would like to improve upon or change. These should be things which YOU can change and should NOT include World Hunger or any of the current ongoing human disasters in the world.

Try to evaluate each of these improvements or changes you would like to make and give them a priority. Then take the lowest priority item and set yourself a goal and start working on changing that one thing.

Once you have success, then you can build on it. Do NOT let setbacks make you give up.

You might also try a self help book from your local library.

Enlist help from your wife if practical.

Good luck.
Don't get overwhelmed by problems.



Take it one step at a time. Baby steps.