How can I change my life?

I am very depressed on on medication. I am applying for Disability this coming week. I currently have a live in boyfriend. We are suppose to get married. I still love my ex husband although things did not work out. I feel like it is all my fault and it isn't I guess. I just can't get over it. I feel trapped in my mind like the only thing that could help me was him and now he is gone from me.How can I change my life?
You should go to a therapist and get some professional help. It is hard to deal with depression and disability and the break up of your former boyfriend. I wish you the best and here are some tips on how to deal with depression.



10 Tips to Support Your Depression Treatment

By actively working in partnership with your health care professional, you may improve your chances of achieving and maintaining remission from depression.



Taking an active role in your treatment also means taking care of yourself. This page includes tips on managing stress and making healthy lifestyle choices.



Set realistic goals. Increase your responsibilities gradually. Celebrate small victories along the way instead of searching for immediate success.

Try to reduce stress whenever you can. Be realistic about what you can and can't do. Accept that there will always be some level of stress in your life, but take steps to manage it as well as you can.

Break large tasks into manageable parts. Decide what is most important, and do what you can, as you can. Remember, it is normal to have good days as well as bad days.

Let your family and friends help you. When everyone works together to help you get through hard times, everyone benefits.

Open up to someone you trust. It is usually better than keeping your feelings to yourself.

Participate in activities that matter most to you. Don't forget to take time for yourself and your own interests.

Consider talk therapy (psychotherapy). Certain types of counseling, when combined with medication, can help you manage symptoms of depression. Talk with your doctor about these potential options.

Get advice on important decisions. If you have important decisions to make, listen to the advice of family and friends, who may have a different perspective on your situation right now.

Check in with family members. They can point out changes in your behavior that may be signs of progress as you manage the symptoms of depression.

Keep a personal journal of your feelings, sleep patterns, and other activities. This will make it easier to keep track of how you're responding to your treatment. Share this information with your health care professional.

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Go see a therapist, no one on yahoo answers can really help with too deep of issues.
First of all you should not marry your current boyfriend. It wouldn't be fair to him and it would only cause you more stress. So my advice is just tell him how you truely feel and if he's a good friend he'll understand. Secondly, see a therapist about the depression. No one deserves to live like that. And about your ex husband, its always hard to get over someone that you were very close with, it takes time, you cant expect pain like that to disappear quickly, and as much as it sucks you just have to take baby steps to move on from him. Marrying someone else would not be a baby step. But dating is, bravo for you, So please talk to a friend or see a counselor, they'll help you out so much. Good luck sweetie!
I am in the same boat,the only thing that could help me was her and now she is gone from me.



The break up of a marriage happens for many different reasons with chronic depression being one of the leading causes of divorce around the world. A depressed person will be very moody and down in the dumps and hard to be around and relate to. Depression often goes undiagnosed and the depressed person's behavior is often more than a spouse can bear. Can depression cause divorce? You bet it can!



Depression is ugly and puts tremendous strains on a marriage, especially if you are not sure the condition exists or even how severe it is. Depressed moods and symptoms can have a way of hiding at times and then being full blown the next instant, especially at the initial stages.



Often the depressed spouse pulls back from the relationship, not wanting to do the same things that were always done as a couple. Their belief that nothing will be fun is so strong that they even start missing family events. Sometimes the simplest life tasks go for days without being completed. Even personal hygiene can become an issue as the depressed person pulls away from the world and spends most of their time in a dark room alone.



Many times it's the depressed person pushing all the right buttons to set a divorce in motion because they have no self worth and feel they are very undeserving. They may be the first one to bring up the subject of divorce. Living with depression is a very scary place to be. The depressed person may think that everything is a waste of time and this may start to create problems for the non-depressed spouse.



Life is still the same for the non-depressed spouse and frequently they do not understand what could be causing the changes. Communication at this point is at an all time low, with niceties being a thing of the past. This may be when the first thoughts of divorce are being contemplated and considered a solution.



If this is you and you are living with a depressed person you need to do a few things to save your marriage. Even more important is saving both of you a lot of unnecessary grief. Understand depression by doing some research. There is a massive amount of information all around you, both on the internet and speaking with your doctor. Living with a depressed person is very difficult, but with the right information and medication depression can be treated.



Does depression cause divorce? The answer: Only if you let it. If depression has struck the one you love, there are many things that you can do - but first and foremost understand that depression is a disease, a disease that can be treated. But many times, these marriages do end in divorce because they become too unbearable.



Surviving Divorce

Developing your self-esteem is an important step in living through separation and divorce. You should focus on your personal strengths and not be distracted by situations that decrease your confidence.



Confidence does not come automatically. It requires a repetition of well-done tasks. Just as a series of failures can destroy your confidence, a series of small successes will build it. Do not view your divorce as a failure, view it as a learning experience. One success leads to another, and the positive effect on your self-image is cumulative and unique to you.

Typically, one spouse seems to become trapped by perpetuating their low self-esteem. The result is that they are treated the way they allow themselves to be treated, based on how they feel about themselves.



A healthy dose of assertiveness will cure that syndrome. Assertiveness is not aggressiveness. Assertiveness means standing on your own two feet and being your own best advocate. Assertiveness contributes to optimum mental health.



Staying Healthy Through Your Divorce:

Walking is an anywhere, anytime activity and a social sport. Grab a friend or two at lunch, slip off your heels or loafers and put on your walking shoes for a trek through the great outdoors. It beats slouching around the coffee machine.

Good nutrition goes hand-in-hand with an exercise routine. What you eat and drink affects your entire physical-mental self. Like a car low on fluids, the body gives signals of distress when it is not well-nourished. If you exist on cola and sugar, your mood swings or episodes of hyperactivity probably rule your productivity and sense of well-being. Like a car, your body can't operate well on low-quality fuel. Good nutrition goes a long way toward taking care of yourself.