I want to turn things around and stop dwelling on the negatives all the time, at times i just want to go insane i cant handel it. I hate this. How can i help myself, i hate psychologists and im against medication.I am very depressed at times, without medication how can i change my life.?
What ever you do, DO NOT start antidepressants!
Some people absolutely need them, and that's fine, but you defenitely sound like you don't and they are hell trying to get off of!
You hate psychologist or I'd defenitely suggest that you see one. Talking with friends can be just as helpful, too.I am very depressed at times, without medication how can i change my life.?
Bananas,eat bananas they have a chemical thats found in prozac...its been scientifically proven to treat depression.
get regular exercise and don't eat too many junky foods. hang out with positive people too.
Watch funny movies and happy tv channels, lol. Excercise. That will help a lot!! Find something to keep you busy. Do you have a hobby? Maybe painting or something? And maybe you should stop feeling bad for yourself and think about others who have it worse. The 5 thousand people who are going to die tonight from starvation in Africa and India should be depressed...not you. Just cheer up. And like I said, maybe pick up a hobby? I hope you feel better. Good Luck!!! Smile! :oD
Also prayer will work to have God with you to strengthen you is very good I know sometimes I feel like \I'm all alone and I get on my knees and pray I feel a whole lot better. Focus on the positive in your life and handle the negative step by step day by day .
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Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Serious question: How to change my life? only serious answers thankyou?
i have been living in the computer ';world'; for six years...HELP!
how to become normal?Serious question: How to change my life? only serious answers thankyou?
First, decide what you want to change to. Define what this ';normal'; is. I mean, if you just say, ';I want to change my life'; then you're just stating a preference. If you really define what it is that you want to do or be, then you've set a goal; a viable alternative to what your life is now.
After you set the goal, do something (at least one thing) every single day to move yourself closer to that goal. Even if you suffer a set-back on the way, stay on target. If your goal is realistic, you'll get there.
Remember these immortal words from Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe.
';Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back-- Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.';
Good luck to you in whatever goal you set for yourself.Serious question: How to change my life? only serious answers thankyou?
get out and about. meet some new people, go somewhere new. find God. He'll help you through anything/everything. =)
Check at a local school or homeless shelter or nursing home to become a volunteer. Seeing others' misfortunes will make you happy with your own life, give you satisfaction of helping, and *snap* you into reality.
start making some friends (not over the internet) and go hang out with them. and try to stop using the computer as much
In what aspect?
I think you should decied yourself dont let other people tell you how you should live.
Unless you live with your mom still then your screwed.
There is no ';magic answer';! If you REALLY want to change your life- you just have to DO IT. You need to have a plan. Set goals for yourself, set limits to using your computer. Join a club- take a class at your local community college, volunteer at a shelter, or a church- whatever interests you! There are book clubs, poetry reading clubs- clubs for just about anything. The more you get out with ppl, the less you will rely on your ';computer world';- there is nothing wrong with using the computer, but you have to have limits. Good luck!!!
the only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.
What do you want to change? Turn the computer off, buy a bicycle and go out riding. Learn how to play the guitar, maybe the piano. Get a new job, or a job if you don't have one. Move to a different town. NORMAL is a realtive term. If being normal is being the same as everyone else, I do not want to be normal. So many ways to change a life - big change or little change? Wear different clothes. Do anything you have never done before. Go into a store you would never go into otherwise just to see new things. Test drive a brand new car, just don't buy it. Go to a sporting event of some kind. Sounds like turning off the computer is the first step though. Have you ever been to an automobile race? How about bowling? Soo much to do. Go do it.
Here is a somewhat odd but quite serious response. Get to a 12-step meeting -- AA, NA, GA, etc. One of the biggest problems faced by addicts when they first quit is figuing out what to do with the time. Drinking, drugging, gambling and such take up all day and all night and people don't know how to live. One of the bits of advice they will get would be to make up a list of 30 things they once liked to do, or think they would like to try. Do one every day. If could be just go for a walk, check out a book from the library, take a class at the community college, shoot some pool, whatever. Then, once you get used to doing other things, you need people to do them with. Any sort of social group would do. Join a bowling league. Find a group with similar interests. This time of year, volunteer for a political candidate that shares your values. Make it your mantra to do new things with new people. For the first six months, accept any invitation to do anything with anybody until you find out what you like, what kind of person you are. Good luck.
I can answer this the only way I know how. I came to the same question you did. I changed EVERY aspect of my life. From the friends I hang out with to the clothes I wore, right on down the the boxers. Seriously, that is the way to make a new start. I know it sounds contrite, but if you are going to make a change, make change! I live in a ';rich, yuppie'; neighborhood, and i found myself losing touch with the common man. I literally had to change everything about my existence to become normal. Have fun with it. Change one aspect at a time and do it just as you want to. Make it a challenge and don't let anyone's opinion or attitude stand in your way. Trust me, if done correctly, your life will never be the same. Live by one motto....your life ends in 3 months, do whatever you can before it is too late! You'll never be the same. If you want more details, my email is tmcd0@yahoo.com. I would love to chat with you.
throw your computer out of the window !!!
seriously.....do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You want real answers? Okay, start with unplugging your PC or laptop, breath deeply, close your eyes...look inside yourself and ask your if your happy with where you are now or do you want to do something else? LIfe is the choices we make. These choices determine whether we are either happy or unhappy. Now, open your eyes....make your choice.
why are you asking us?
go outside, socialize, do some volunteer work in the community, take up a sport and meet people, read a good book. there are about 10,000 things you can do besides sit in front of a computer all day, and anything you do to get yourself away from the screen is a good thing.
I think we all want to change our lives. We all want ourselves to be different--more skinny, more friends, more money, more excitement. I think going somewhere else is a good idea. Do something you've never done before. Go to a different country. You have you're whole life ahead of you. Decide to do something that you're passionate about and work hard for it. Don't give up on dreams, too many people do. You can do anything. The possibilities are endless.
Best thing to do is just to get out, out of the house.Go to a park, a library, meet some people, ask some questions, look around at the world and see how it is, what is wrong, wonder at how you can change it.Learn something, climb a tree, make someone smile, do a sumersault, go swimming, drive to the city and buy some seriously cool clothes and walk around like that and go to a dead posh cafe and laugh to loudly.Find something to rebel.Try to write your life story, your biograhpy.Then rewrite it the way you wish it was.Write where you want to be in a year.Try to get there.Write crappy poetry and proclaim it a masterpiece.
Get your life styles in balance..does not mean you are in computer world for 6 years.life is not normal..
You need to get motivation on how to enjoy in real life and working infront of your computers.
how to become normal?Serious question: How to change my life? only serious answers thankyou?
First, decide what you want to change to. Define what this ';normal'; is. I mean, if you just say, ';I want to change my life'; then you're just stating a preference. If you really define what it is that you want to do or be, then you've set a goal; a viable alternative to what your life is now.
After you set the goal, do something (at least one thing) every single day to move yourself closer to that goal. Even if you suffer a set-back on the way, stay on target. If your goal is realistic, you'll get there.
Remember these immortal words from Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe.
';Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back-- Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.';
Good luck to you in whatever goal you set for yourself.Serious question: How to change my life? only serious answers thankyou?
get out and about. meet some new people, go somewhere new. find God. He'll help you through anything/everything. =)
Check at a local school or homeless shelter or nursing home to become a volunteer. Seeing others' misfortunes will make you happy with your own life, give you satisfaction of helping, and *snap* you into reality.
start making some friends (not over the internet) and go hang out with them. and try to stop using the computer as much
In what aspect?
I think you should decied yourself dont let other people tell you how you should live.
Unless you live with your mom still then your screwed.
There is no ';magic answer';! If you REALLY want to change your life- you just have to DO IT. You need to have a plan. Set goals for yourself, set limits to using your computer. Join a club- take a class at your local community college, volunteer at a shelter, or a church- whatever interests you! There are book clubs, poetry reading clubs- clubs for just about anything. The more you get out with ppl, the less you will rely on your ';computer world';- there is nothing wrong with using the computer, but you have to have limits. Good luck!!!
the only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.
What do you want to change? Turn the computer off, buy a bicycle and go out riding. Learn how to play the guitar, maybe the piano. Get a new job, or a job if you don't have one. Move to a different town. NORMAL is a realtive term. If being normal is being the same as everyone else, I do not want to be normal. So many ways to change a life - big change or little change? Wear different clothes. Do anything you have never done before. Go into a store you would never go into otherwise just to see new things. Test drive a brand new car, just don't buy it. Go to a sporting event of some kind. Sounds like turning off the computer is the first step though. Have you ever been to an automobile race? How about bowling? Soo much to do. Go do it.
Here is a somewhat odd but quite serious response. Get to a 12-step meeting -- AA, NA, GA, etc. One of the biggest problems faced by addicts when they first quit is figuing out what to do with the time. Drinking, drugging, gambling and such take up all day and all night and people don't know how to live. One of the bits of advice they will get would be to make up a list of 30 things they once liked to do, or think they would like to try. Do one every day. If could be just go for a walk, check out a book from the library, take a class at the community college, shoot some pool, whatever. Then, once you get used to doing other things, you need people to do them with. Any sort of social group would do. Join a bowling league. Find a group with similar interests. This time of year, volunteer for a political candidate that shares your values. Make it your mantra to do new things with new people. For the first six months, accept any invitation to do anything with anybody until you find out what you like, what kind of person you are. Good luck.
I can answer this the only way I know how. I came to the same question you did. I changed EVERY aspect of my life. From the friends I hang out with to the clothes I wore, right on down the the boxers. Seriously, that is the way to make a new start. I know it sounds contrite, but if you are going to make a change, make change! I live in a ';rich, yuppie'; neighborhood, and i found myself losing touch with the common man. I literally had to change everything about my existence to become normal. Have fun with it. Change one aspect at a time and do it just as you want to. Make it a challenge and don't let anyone's opinion or attitude stand in your way. Trust me, if done correctly, your life will never be the same. Live by one motto....your life ends in 3 months, do whatever you can before it is too late! You'll never be the same. If you want more details, my email is tmcd0@yahoo.com. I would love to chat with you.
throw your computer out of the window !!!
seriously.....do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You want real answers? Okay, start with unplugging your PC or laptop, breath deeply, close your eyes...look inside yourself and ask your if your happy with where you are now or do you want to do something else? LIfe is the choices we make. These choices determine whether we are either happy or unhappy. Now, open your eyes....make your choice.
why are you asking us?
go outside, socialize, do some volunteer work in the community, take up a sport and meet people, read a good book. there are about 10,000 things you can do besides sit in front of a computer all day, and anything you do to get yourself away from the screen is a good thing.
I think we all want to change our lives. We all want ourselves to be different--more skinny, more friends, more money, more excitement. I think going somewhere else is a good idea. Do something you've never done before. Go to a different country. You have you're whole life ahead of you. Decide to do something that you're passionate about and work hard for it. Don't give up on dreams, too many people do. You can do anything. The possibilities are endless.
Best thing to do is just to get out, out of the house.Go to a park, a library, meet some people, ask some questions, look around at the world and see how it is, what is wrong, wonder at how you can change it.Learn something, climb a tree, make someone smile, do a sumersault, go swimming, drive to the city and buy some seriously cool clothes and walk around like that and go to a dead posh cafe and laugh to loudly.Find something to rebel.Try to write your life story, your biograhpy.Then rewrite it the way you wish it was.Write where you want to be in a year.Try to get there.Write crappy poetry and proclaim it a masterpiece.
Get your life styles in balance..does not mean you are in computer world for 6 years.life is not normal..
You need to get motivation on how to enjoy in real life and working infront of your computers.
Life Change After A Head Injury?
Hey everyone.
Last year when i was 13 i was jumping ramps with my friends while i wasent wearing a helmet. I fell off my bike and hit my head on the concrete. The next thing i knew i was in the hospital and everyone told me that i was in there for 7 hours. I didnt remember any of it but apperently during that 7 hours i was acting pretty weird.
Because i wasent wearing a helmet, it has changed the course of my life. Now its a year later and im 14 years old and I have alot of problems... I get severe concussions when hit in the head or if i sweat too much ( have a question about that). I am also always very confused and disorented. This is my main problem. I cant see properly as if i cant focus now, I feel as if im watching myself and not really ';there';. I feel out of it as if im stoned all the time. I cant focus or talk to people properly. My grades have gone down from 90's to 60's or 70's. I cant read things properly, words just seem like forign symbols and this is changing my life. Some nights i lie in bed and i cant get any sleep because i have to think about the next day and how i will have problems. I always think how much better i would have been if i would have just worn a helmet. I would rather sit in my room alone and sleep rather then go to partys or hang out with friends. I really need help soon or i think i might do something to myself that ill regret. Im seeing a neurologist in 3 months and i think by then it will be too late.
Please Help. :(
Thanks, Dan..
( P.S- I hope you can see now how important it is to wear a helmet. Who cares if you look stupid. I think you will care once you end up like me..)Life Change After A Head Injury?
Unfortunately you are suffering from what is called Closed Head Trauma. The brain is an organ that is within a closed chamber and when the impact occurred the force was enough to cause swelling and disruption of nerves. For some people they are able to get past this. Then for some they take long times to get past this and some never do. If you are not experiencing any physical problems then you will need to work with an occupational therapist along with a psychologist and or psychiatrist. With consistent work there will be a great improvement. Pulling away from the rest of the world is not going to help and in fact could make things worse. Please get the professional help that you need. If possible try to move the neurologists appointment up or see a psychologist or psychiatrist as soon as possible.Life Change After A Head Injury?
There are head injury support groups all over the country and I suggest you look for the nearest one to you. Just search head injury support and the name of the nearest city.hot tub bath speed a dog for sale
Last year when i was 13 i was jumping ramps with my friends while i wasent wearing a helmet. I fell off my bike and hit my head on the concrete. The next thing i knew i was in the hospital and everyone told me that i was in there for 7 hours. I didnt remember any of it but apperently during that 7 hours i was acting pretty weird.
Because i wasent wearing a helmet, it has changed the course of my life. Now its a year later and im 14 years old and I have alot of problems... I get severe concussions when hit in the head or if i sweat too much ( have a question about that). I am also always very confused and disorented. This is my main problem. I cant see properly as if i cant focus now, I feel as if im watching myself and not really ';there';. I feel out of it as if im stoned all the time. I cant focus or talk to people properly. My grades have gone down from 90's to 60's or 70's. I cant read things properly, words just seem like forign symbols and this is changing my life. Some nights i lie in bed and i cant get any sleep because i have to think about the next day and how i will have problems. I always think how much better i would have been if i would have just worn a helmet. I would rather sit in my room alone and sleep rather then go to partys or hang out with friends. I really need help soon or i think i might do something to myself that ill regret. Im seeing a neurologist in 3 months and i think by then it will be too late.
Please Help. :(
Thanks, Dan..
( P.S- I hope you can see now how important it is to wear a helmet. Who cares if you look stupid. I think you will care once you end up like me..)Life Change After A Head Injury?
Unfortunately you are suffering from what is called Closed Head Trauma. The brain is an organ that is within a closed chamber and when the impact occurred the force was enough to cause swelling and disruption of nerves. For some people they are able to get past this. Then for some they take long times to get past this and some never do. If you are not experiencing any physical problems then you will need to work with an occupational therapist along with a psychologist and or psychiatrist. With consistent work there will be a great improvement. Pulling away from the rest of the world is not going to help and in fact could make things worse. Please get the professional help that you need. If possible try to move the neurologists appointment up or see a psychologist or psychiatrist as soon as possible.Life Change After A Head Injury?
There are head injury support groups all over the country and I suggest you look for the nearest one to you. Just search head injury support and the name of the nearest city.
Need some tips on how to change my life around
I am a 20 year old male, who has a huge problem. I have never had a girlfriend, kiss, anything of this nature, never even been on a date. I'm a pretty good looking guy though. A bigger guy, but more muscle then fat. I'm active too, I love fly fishing, camping, playing drums in my band, and am a huge movie buff. However I am pretty shy/quiet. I have never even come close to having any kind of relationship and it's starting to worry me that it may never happen for me.
I also have self-esteem issues though due to being rejected or used by so many girls. I'm also afraid due to my lack of experience that if some girl ever does like me that I'll just mess it up anyways. Also not a fan of the ';O, it's fate';, or ';O God has a girl for you';, I'm not anti-religious or anything, it's just that I believe that people make their own fate and can't just rely on outside sources.
The one thing I want out of this life is to be able to wake up to somebody every morning and know that they unconditionally love you, not because they're family, but because they make a conscious decision every day that they do. Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic doomed to roam the Earth alone. I don't know I just needed to rant to somebody besides my friends who can relate to me in no way and are very insensitive.
Anyways, does anybody have some suggestions on how I can start a meaningful relationship after being scarred so much?Need some tips on how to change my life around
Just do it. In general people suck, women are no exception. But there are good people out there, finding them is the hard part. Put yourself out there and have fun. Make sure you're being the best you that you can be and let the world enjoy you. If you run across a few bad women, write it off as their loss and their problems NOT YOURS. Eventually you'll find a good woman or two and you should be on your way. Don't take things too seriously, have fun...Need some tips on how to change my life around
Life will never hand you a girl, a girl is not going to walk up see you and just fall in love. Life is not a soap.. Get off you A$$ and go find a girl. Your never going to find love if you don't open yourself up to others, and yes. That does mean you WILL get hurt but oh well. that's life. Man up and go find a date....
yes you need to get un shy try public speaking or talking about something to ease out of shyness and be BOLD just go up to a girl wanna dance? can i buy you a drink? etc go for a nature girl they like fishing and camping take her out to camp
you are being shy or just didnt manage to put down your pride? take the risk and you will know what happen in the end for the decision you have make, every decision you made is a kind of risk..
dude, its all about your shyness man, get over it!
It sounds bad, but the only way I got over it was a few drinks on me, soon I got to where I didnt need it...but yeah, Im just sayin it eases you up a little lol
Well my question to you is are you comfortable in your own shoes?
seems like your not.
my advice to you is go somewhere social and start talking to women
I was exactly the same but I just got over my shyness. it's very difficult I know, but they're not gonna kill you if you just talk to some girls. Just be friendly and talk to them about various stuff first time you meet them or on a date. you know if you ask a girl on a date and you get rejected, it's not the first time. Men get rejected daily. You're lucky if you don't get slaps in the face a few time until you meet your girlfriend./ or future wife.
And no, drinking is not the way to go.
Good luck mate.
I also have self-esteem issues though due to being rejected or used by so many girls. I'm also afraid due to my lack of experience that if some girl ever does like me that I'll just mess it up anyways. Also not a fan of the ';O, it's fate';, or ';O God has a girl for you';, I'm not anti-religious or anything, it's just that I believe that people make their own fate and can't just rely on outside sources.
The one thing I want out of this life is to be able to wake up to somebody every morning and know that they unconditionally love you, not because they're family, but because they make a conscious decision every day that they do. Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic doomed to roam the Earth alone. I don't know I just needed to rant to somebody besides my friends who can relate to me in no way and are very insensitive.
Anyways, does anybody have some suggestions on how I can start a meaningful relationship after being scarred so much?Need some tips on how to change my life around
Just do it. In general people suck, women are no exception. But there are good people out there, finding them is the hard part. Put yourself out there and have fun. Make sure you're being the best you that you can be and let the world enjoy you. If you run across a few bad women, write it off as their loss and their problems NOT YOURS. Eventually you'll find a good woman or two and you should be on your way. Don't take things too seriously, have fun...Need some tips on how to change my life around
Life will never hand you a girl, a girl is not going to walk up see you and just fall in love. Life is not a soap.. Get off you A$$ and go find a girl. Your never going to find love if you don't open yourself up to others, and yes. That does mean you WILL get hurt but oh well. that's life. Man up and go find a date....
yes you need to get un shy try public speaking or talking about something to ease out of shyness and be BOLD just go up to a girl wanna dance? can i buy you a drink? etc go for a nature girl they like fishing and camping take her out to camp
you are being shy or just didnt manage to put down your pride? take the risk and you will know what happen in the end for the decision you have make, every decision you made is a kind of risk..
dude, its all about your shyness man, get over it!
It sounds bad, but the only way I got over it was a few drinks on me, soon I got to where I didnt need it...but yeah, Im just sayin it eases you up a little lol
Well my question to you is are you comfortable in your own shoes?
seems like your not.
my advice to you is go somewhere social and start talking to women
I was exactly the same but I just got over my shyness. it's very difficult I know, but they're not gonna kill you if you just talk to some girls. Just be friendly and talk to them about various stuff first time you meet them or on a date. you know if you ask a girl on a date and you get rejected, it's not the first time. Men get rejected daily. You're lucky if you don't get slaps in the face a few time until you meet your girlfriend./ or future wife.
And no, drinking is not the way to go.
Good luck mate.
The fear of loneliness is stopping me from making major life changes - any advice?
The fear of loneliness is stopping me from making major life changes.
How do you cope with the fear of loneliness and the possibility of loneliness?
If i strike out on my own, without friends or a partner, then how can i deal with the possibility of isolation?
What can be done to alleviate feelings of loneliness?The fear of loneliness is stopping me from making major life changes - any advice?
Thats a discision I also had to make,years ago.I chose a rout,and became somewhat of a loner.Society isn't always going to agree with you.Thats a stand one has to take.Do whats best for you.Let your spirit guide you,not your feelings.That is also a lesson I am still learning.It can be a bumpy road but in the end it may be better for you.I am still on my road.The fear of loneliness is stopping me from making major life changes - any advice?
You must get out of your shell. Take action, I realize you can't start by doing major things first, so start with little things you want to improve, resulting in improved confidence overtime. And I hate to say this, but if you continue to fear loneliness, you and your friends will drift apart, resulting in less confidence. I hope this helps.
try to keep positive,keep busy, doing the things you enjoy most. reading, going for walks, biking, doing crafts, go for a coffee, join a group or activity you enjoy, to be around people is a good thing. things will eventually fall into place
Risking a better future because you're afraid of being alone is something you're going to have to really think hard about. Think about the advantages and weigh them against the disadvantages.Just because you strike out on your own does not mean you will no longer have the ability to make new friends and contacts and network and meet many new people. Have Faith and confidence in yourself, you can't life with that safety blanket all of your life, you have to spread your wings and fly and be who you were meant to be. Follow your dreams and make them happen, don't let the past hinder you, the future is out there waiting for you!
focus on things that make you feel good about yourself and that you are interested in. once you are happy with yourself then you will look forward to spending time alone.
its hard but u adjust in order to find friends u have to take risks to get them. I left my friends behind when i moved and have not made new ones but also like where i am so itwas worth it.
The fear of loneliness alone should start you on the road of change and making right choices %26gt; who wants to be alone and or lonely most of all who wants to be fearful? %26gt; I have started with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ %26gt; that may be a good place for you to start. Remember our Triune God gives us what we need when we need it we just have to listen for that still small voice. Also remember everyone makes some not to good choices sometimes %26gt; yet, one must get up brush themselves off and keep on going and in time %26gt; truth %26gt; joy %26gt; love %26gt; understanding shall come %26gt; you must get all the knowledge God has for you and ask for wisdom from our Triune God %26gt; I believe you are on your way to victory %26gt; because you have realized what is standing in your way and put your question forth seeking an answer %26gt; our Triune God states that before you ask I shall answer and while you are yet speaking I shall hear. Much love and peace to you %26gt; Jesus Christ is the way the truth and the life %26gt; the price has been paid you just have to tap in to what our Triune God has purposed for your life and have faith which works by love. Remembering God is Love.
Zag, thank you for asking this question. I only have a few superficial solutions. One of them is spend more time in answers connecting with people...it's easier than doing it in the real world though it does have it's problems too. Another idea is to journal about your fear...find out what is at the root of it. When did you first begin to fear lonliness, what prompted that feeling. Then rationalize it...remind yourself you are not alone. Make a list of all your friends and family with email addresses and phone #'s. Don't let any fear keep you paralyzed. You never know, this major life change may bring many new and wonderful relationships to your life! Let us know what you decide!
How do you cope with the fear of loneliness and the possibility of loneliness?
If i strike out on my own, without friends or a partner, then how can i deal with the possibility of isolation?
What can be done to alleviate feelings of loneliness?The fear of loneliness is stopping me from making major life changes - any advice?
Thats a discision I also had to make,years ago.I chose a rout,and became somewhat of a loner.Society isn't always going to agree with you.Thats a stand one has to take.Do whats best for you.Let your spirit guide you,not your feelings.That is also a lesson I am still learning.It can be a bumpy road but in the end it may be better for you.I am still on my road.The fear of loneliness is stopping me from making major life changes - any advice?
You must get out of your shell. Take action, I realize you can't start by doing major things first, so start with little things you want to improve, resulting in improved confidence overtime. And I hate to say this, but if you continue to fear loneliness, you and your friends will drift apart, resulting in less confidence. I hope this helps.
try to keep positive,keep busy, doing the things you enjoy most. reading, going for walks, biking, doing crafts, go for a coffee, join a group or activity you enjoy, to be around people is a good thing. things will eventually fall into place
Risking a better future because you're afraid of being alone is something you're going to have to really think hard about. Think about the advantages and weigh them against the disadvantages.Just because you strike out on your own does not mean you will no longer have the ability to make new friends and contacts and network and meet many new people. Have Faith and confidence in yourself, you can't life with that safety blanket all of your life, you have to spread your wings and fly and be who you were meant to be. Follow your dreams and make them happen, don't let the past hinder you, the future is out there waiting for you!
focus on things that make you feel good about yourself and that you are interested in. once you are happy with yourself then you will look forward to spending time alone.
its hard but u adjust in order to find friends u have to take risks to get them. I left my friends behind when i moved and have not made new ones but also like where i am so itwas worth it.
The fear of loneliness alone should start you on the road of change and making right choices %26gt; who wants to be alone and or lonely most of all who wants to be fearful? %26gt; I have started with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ %26gt; that may be a good place for you to start. Remember our Triune God gives us what we need when we need it we just have to listen for that still small voice. Also remember everyone makes some not to good choices sometimes %26gt; yet, one must get up brush themselves off and keep on going and in time %26gt; truth %26gt; joy %26gt; love %26gt; understanding shall come %26gt; you must get all the knowledge God has for you and ask for wisdom from our Triune God %26gt; I believe you are on your way to victory %26gt; because you have realized what is standing in your way and put your question forth seeking an answer %26gt; our Triune God states that before you ask I shall answer and while you are yet speaking I shall hear. Much love and peace to you %26gt; Jesus Christ is the way the truth and the life %26gt; the price has been paid you just have to tap in to what our Triune God has purposed for your life and have faith which works by love. Remembering God is Love.
Zag, thank you for asking this question. I only have a few superficial solutions. One of them is spend more time in answers connecting with people...it's easier than doing it in the real world though it does have it's problems too. Another idea is to journal about your fear...find out what is at the root of it. When did you first begin to fear lonliness, what prompted that feeling. Then rationalize it...remind yourself you are not alone. Make a list of all your friends and family with email addresses and phone #'s. Don't let any fear keep you paralyzed. You never know, this major life change may bring many new and wonderful relationships to your life! Let us know what you decide!
Life change...?
I've only lived in large cities (Portland, OR/Vancouver, WA and Las Vegas, NV). My boyfriend grew up in Custar, South Dakota ( a very small town). He moved here about a year and a half ago with a friend from high school and we've been together since. Well he got a really good job offer back home and he wants me to move with him. I love him and would love to be with him but I am worried about how I will handle such a big change. All his family is there and I've seen a ton of pictures, it's beautiful. My sister now lives 2 blocks from me, I walk to work, and this is all I really know. My question is; Have you ever made a big move and how did you deal with it? How did you make your new home feel like your old home? What did you do to get over being homesick? Do you have any advice for me on adjusting to a new area?Life change...?
honestly, i wouldn't try to make the new home feel your old home. i would accept the change and make it comfortable.
after a while you will get used to it, just like adapting to anything else. just accept moving away gifts and souvenirs from your home town and move on, it'll ofcourse be difficult at first, but you will get used to it. just make sure your with the right person before you actually move. keep in mind that you can still visit your home town.
i'm done my part, i hope others here can help too. good luck.Life change...?
time heals these issues. You end up meeting new people, you have to have a positive attitude and things will fall into place.
The best thing you can do is to let him go back, and get himself settled. Then, visit on your vacations. See if you like the area, and what the job market is like. Find out about things to do, since you're used to lots of activity in a big city. Evaluate how you'll like it, because if you move there just for him, then you'll never be happy.
I just moved from Rapid City, South Dakota to a new city. Rapid City is right outside Custer. You will like it there. Life is much slower and quieter there until the Sturgis Rally hits every August and then the hills are alive with hundreds of thousands of bikers. It's great!!! It will be easy for you to adjust to the area. It gets colder there than anywhere you have ever lived though so buy a really good coat. To get over being homesick all you need to do is to call home once a week and plan vacation time within a year so that you can go to see your family. It will be hard at first but it will get easier over time.
You're going to miss the big cities. It's a much bigger change than you can imagine. However, if you have good reasons for moving, you may be able to adjust.
How far is Custar from a city? If it's relatively close, you won't feel completely bored/smothered/foreign.
Try it out. What do you have to lose?
Only move back with him if you're both committed. Do you guys talk about the future? Does he want a future with you? Personally, I'd only go if I were engaged to the person or married to them already... but if you're more the adventurous type, go and see what it's like.. if it doesn't work out-- move back home and chalk it up to a learning experience.. Either way, it could be messy if you both don't have any solid plans for your futures.
honestly, i wouldn't try to make the new home feel your old home. i would accept the change and make it comfortable.
after a while you will get used to it, just like adapting to anything else. just accept moving away gifts and souvenirs from your home town and move on, it'll ofcourse be difficult at first, but you will get used to it. just make sure your with the right person before you actually move. keep in mind that you can still visit your home town.
i'm done my part, i hope others here can help too. good luck.Life change...?
time heals these issues. You end up meeting new people, you have to have a positive attitude and things will fall into place.
The best thing you can do is to let him go back, and get himself settled. Then, visit on your vacations. See if you like the area, and what the job market is like. Find out about things to do, since you're used to lots of activity in a big city. Evaluate how you'll like it, because if you move there just for him, then you'll never be happy.
I just moved from Rapid City, South Dakota to a new city. Rapid City is right outside Custer. You will like it there. Life is much slower and quieter there until the Sturgis Rally hits every August and then the hills are alive with hundreds of thousands of bikers. It's great!!! It will be easy for you to adjust to the area. It gets colder there than anywhere you have ever lived though so buy a really good coat. To get over being homesick all you need to do is to call home once a week and plan vacation time within a year so that you can go to see your family. It will be hard at first but it will get easier over time.
You're going to miss the big cities. It's a much bigger change than you can imagine. However, if you have good reasons for moving, you may be able to adjust.
How far is Custar from a city? If it's relatively close, you won't feel completely bored/smothered/foreign.
Try it out. What do you have to lose?
Only move back with him if you're both committed. Do you guys talk about the future? Does he want a future with you? Personally, I'd only go if I were engaged to the person or married to them already... but if you're more the adventurous type, go and see what it's like.. if it doesn't work out-- move back home and chalk it up to a learning experience.. Either way, it could be messy if you both don't have any solid plans for your futures.
How can i change my life?
I need to change my life from the routine which i live, but the big question is how???How can i change my life?
Wrong Category.
You could try working out?
:O
Wrong Category.
You could try working out?
:O
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