I feel trapped in the lonely repetition of every day. I don't like my friends, and I don't bother with them that much, I endure, and tolerate them.
But it feels like I'm being crushed under the weight of homework and assignments and I'm fed up with how repetetive, dull, lonely, boring it has all become. Of the tiniest things! Of my own home, of where I live... Of school. Especially school. Even the shops I see everyday. It's like what I used to feel for it all has been sucked dry. It's not just that, it's my life in general. It's way too much of the same thing, over, and over. I need something new, something vibrantly life changing.
What can I do? My mom cant afford a holiday. There's no place to go from here. I mean, I applied for a job but they haven't called yet or anything... I lack inspiration for it all... I'm not depressed, I don't have a mental illness, I'm just so BORED with it because I have been doing the same thing for YEARS.
Can you suggest anything? What can I do?I need a change in my life, something new, what can I do?
hi, here's what you do: Instead of waiting for the job to call you, why not go there and ask again and act like your happy maybe.? Holidays dont fix bordom...you gotta tell yourself that we're all bored until we get interested in something we do. I bet your mom is bored. Go see a doctor.
Edit: Yo its summer and we're all bored. thats why I'm banging on this keyboard, lol. You wanna get away probably to someplace like here, and I'd like to get away to where you are...funny! you need to enter a photog contest or something. Take some pictures and send them to a contest. Or writing contest maybe.I need a change in my life, something new, what can I do?
I went through something rather like this for about a year and a half once. I think what you need is to find your passion. There is so much to do in life- if you're so bored, you just need to discover something that you will love. (By love, I don't mean go find a boyfriend- you need to be complete without a boyfriend.)
I found a spiritual passion, learning about the Bible, and understanding why things are so bad, why God allows suffering, what he will do to fix it and what the future holds. I also shared it with others, and started spending a lot of time teaching people the Bible. Now, this may not be your kind of thing, but the idea is to find both an activity and a set of friends.
Your activity needs to be something that you love to do! Delve into the arts- writing, music, painting, drawing, whatever. About 8 months ago, I started belly dancing, and I fell in love with it. Try something new- join some kind of class or club or group, expose yourself to new ideas, new people, new activities. Find friends that you actually like, people who you can connect with and have something in common with. If you can only tolerate the friends you have now, they're not really you're friends- a friend should be someone who you enjoy talking to and spending time with.
One thing that is very satisfying is helping others. Volunteer for something that helps people! Find positive ways to pass the time. If you are an intellectual, pick a subject to study in depth, such as a time period or a language. Whatever you do, the important thing is to change it up- add some spice to your life, and keep searching until you find your passion.
I'm undergoing a repetitive student's life as well but i'm enjoying it. Things won't be changed by you except you change the way you see things around you.
'; What on Earth are you here for? '; Have you ever ask youself this question? What is the purpose of God for putting you in that position.
Perhaps there is something you should learn to be more patient and see things from different perspectives. You cannot run away everytime situations do not suit you.
Get '; Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren'; and find the purpose of your life that God'd for you. Cheers.^^
Wednesday, September 21, 2011
Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?
the question is how to be MY SELF???? i mean i know that just act normal but HOW
i really need ur help GUys
good answer=full rating
silly stupid non sense= abuse!Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?
It's hard b/c everywhere you turn we are told what to be...be this fashionable jacket, be this expensive purse/perfume, be this haircut...nobody is saying, be this type of person...someone who is caring, kind, considerate...fun, goofy, smart...We simply lack any guidence of what it means to become ourselves...develop our characters.
My advise...being yourself is liking yourself...what you like to do, the things that matter to you, what you want out of life...don't waver from these when distracted by others. You have to live your life..in other words, regardless of your family and friends, you are the one who has to live with your choices. Go after what you want...don't expect people to give it to you. Deliberate change takes a lot of effort. Remember, in one year, regardless of the choices you make, time will have passed. What can you show for that year? A whole lot...or nothing. It takes work to find out who you are...it isn't automatic. It may be easier for some people (people you see on TV who seem to have it all), but for ';normal'; people, it's years of learning and experiencing...Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?
high school right? im a fresh in college i member these things well. stay close to ur friends dont try to make 1000 cuz trust me u rather have 10 close ones. i answered ur other question too kid
When you are young you have to figure out who you are. Sometimes people pretend to get along, like pretending to like a song you really don't because everyone else does. What you have to remember is that there are really cool things about you that make you unique and interesting. You just have to relax and let those things show and people will like the interesting and quirky you! If you are ';acting normal'; then you aren't being yourself. Give it time and you will figure out who you are and then you won't be self conscious about how you act.
i really need ur help GUys
good answer=full rating
silly stupid non sense= abuse!Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?
It's hard b/c everywhere you turn we are told what to be...be this fashionable jacket, be this expensive purse/perfume, be this haircut...nobody is saying, be this type of person...someone who is caring, kind, considerate...fun, goofy, smart...We simply lack any guidence of what it means to become ourselves...develop our characters.
My advise...being yourself is liking yourself...what you like to do, the things that matter to you, what you want out of life...don't waver from these when distracted by others. You have to live your life..in other words, regardless of your family and friends, you are the one who has to live with your choices. Go after what you want...don't expect people to give it to you. Deliberate change takes a lot of effort. Remember, in one year, regardless of the choices you make, time will have passed. What can you show for that year? A whole lot...or nothing. It takes work to find out who you are...it isn't automatic. It may be easier for some people (people you see on TV who seem to have it all), but for ';normal'; people, it's years of learning and experiencing...Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?
high school right? im a fresh in college i member these things well. stay close to ur friends dont try to make 1000 cuz trust me u rather have 10 close ones. i answered ur other question too kid
When you are young you have to figure out who you are. Sometimes people pretend to get along, like pretending to like a song you really don't because everyone else does. What you have to remember is that there are really cool things about you that make you unique and interesting. You just have to relax and let those things show and people will like the interesting and quirky you! If you are ';acting normal'; then you aren't being yourself. Give it time and you will figure out who you are and then you won't be self conscious about how you act.
Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?
the question is how to be MY SELF???? i mean i know that just act normal but HOW
i really need ur help GUys
good answer=full rating
silly stupid non sense= abuse!Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?
It's hard b/c everywhere you turn we are told what to be...be this fashionable jacket, be this expensive purse/perfume, be this haircut...nobody is saying, be this type of person...someone who is caring, kind, considerate...fun, goofy, smart...We simply lack any guidence of what it means to become ourselves...develop our characters.
My advise...being yourself is liking yourself...what you like to do, the things that matter to you, what you want out of life...don't waver from these when distracted by others. You have to live your life..in other words, regardless of your family and friends, you are the one who has to live with your choices. Go after what you want...don't expect people to give it to you. Deliberate change takes a lot of effort. Remember, in one year, regardless of the choices you make, time will have passed. What can you show for that year? A whole lot...or nothing. It takes work to find out who you are...it isn't automatic. It may be easier for some people (people you see on TV who seem to have it all), but for ';normal'; people, it's years of learning and experiencing...Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?
high school right? im a fresh in college i member these things well. stay close to ur friends dont try to make 1000 cuz trust me u rather have 10 close ones. i answered ur other question too kid
When you are young you have to figure out who you are. Sometimes people pretend to get along, like pretending to like a song you really don't because everyone else does. What you have to remember is that there are really cool things about you that make you unique and interesting. You just have to relax and let those things show and people will like the interesting and quirky you! If you are ';acting normal'; then you aren't being yourself. Give it time and you will figure out who you are and then you won't be self conscious about how you act.
i really need ur help GUys
good answer=full rating
silly stupid non sense= abuse!Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?
It's hard b/c everywhere you turn we are told what to be...be this fashionable jacket, be this expensive purse/perfume, be this haircut...nobody is saying, be this type of person...someone who is caring, kind, considerate...fun, goofy, smart...We simply lack any guidence of what it means to become ourselves...develop our characters.
My advise...being yourself is liking yourself...what you like to do, the things that matter to you, what you want out of life...don't waver from these when distracted by others. You have to live your life..in other words, regardless of your family and friends, you are the one who has to live with your choices. Go after what you want...don't expect people to give it to you. Deliberate change takes a lot of effort. Remember, in one year, regardless of the choices you make, time will have passed. What can you show for that year? A whole lot...or nothing. It takes work to find out who you are...it isn't automatic. It may be easier for some people (people you see on TV who seem to have it all), but for ';normal'; people, it's years of learning and experiencing...Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?
high school right? im a fresh in college i member these things well. stay close to ur friends dont try to make 1000 cuz trust me u rather have 10 close ones. i answered ur other question too kid
When you are young you have to figure out who you are. Sometimes people pretend to get along, like pretending to like a song you really don't because everyone else does. What you have to remember is that there are really cool things about you that make you unique and interesting. You just have to relax and let those things show and people will like the interesting and quirky you! If you are ';acting normal'; then you aren't being yourself. Give it time and you will figure out who you are and then you won't be self conscious about how you act.
Need advice.. life change?
Ok.. so I've wanted to start my life over FOREVER now. I've been in a relationship for the last year and a half and we've broke up 4 or 5 times (by his doing to make me feel bad) We always get back together like a day later because we do love each other...BUT I have this dream of traveling the world and being young and just doing things on a whim. I want to be a chef.. Maryland isn't doing that for me. So now that my bf broke up with me AGAIN I want to move and go on a road trip with my best friend and start our lives over in Colorado Springs, CO. Not sure WHY.. we just looked up the best places to live for our lifestyles and we keep coming back to this place. So what I want to know is HOW IRRESPONSIBLE am I to just up and leave and start over. Literally, start over. I think I can do it, and I'll always regret if I don't get out and really experience the GOOD parts of life. I've came from drugs, depression, happiness, religion, normal, dysfunctional. You name it, I've done it.. and I'm only 24 :) I just want to know (even though I think I know the answer) what other peoples opinion on the outside are for something crazy like this. I have a good job with excellent health insurance that makes crap money but its NOT what I want to do for the rest of my life. Some guidance would be helpful. Thanks!Need advice.. life change?
i say go for it. experience all you need to experience. go with your heart.. you said in your words that you might reqret it if you dont. you will i am sure... you dont need anyone to tell you what you want to do. just do it! you are still young.. when you have fullfilled all your dreams, then you will be ready to settle down...good luck, and happy traveling!Need advice.. life change?
Follow your dreams. Don't let anything get in your way. I learned money really doesn't make you happy. You need to get a job where you want to wake up 7pm to go work.
I didnt take the time to read your question , but , just do it ! Start over ! Do what ever you can.
Do whatever you want. You only live once. =]
Money cant buy you happiness. But it can buy you a trip to an exotic counrty you have always wanted to explore, suggest taking a trip with your bf. It will be a good relationship test. Get out of your normal routine and enjoy what life has to offer, soon you will be missing what you left behind. Thats life.
If it were up to me I would sell all my possesions and take a one way trip to New Zeland, where I would live off barries and climbs mountains.
The things you own end up owning you.common name given to virtual barber shop
i say go for it. experience all you need to experience. go with your heart.. you said in your words that you might reqret it if you dont. you will i am sure... you dont need anyone to tell you what you want to do. just do it! you are still young.. when you have fullfilled all your dreams, then you will be ready to settle down...good luck, and happy traveling!Need advice.. life change?
Follow your dreams. Don't let anything get in your way. I learned money really doesn't make you happy. You need to get a job where you want to wake up 7pm to go work.
I didnt take the time to read your question , but , just do it ! Start over ! Do what ever you can.
Do whatever you want. You only live once. =]
Money cant buy you happiness. But it can buy you a trip to an exotic counrty you have always wanted to explore, suggest taking a trip with your bf. It will be a good relationship test. Get out of your normal routine and enjoy what life has to offer, soon you will be missing what you left behind. Thats life.
If it were up to me I would sell all my possesions and take a one way trip to New Zeland, where I would live off barries and climbs mountains.
The things you own end up owning you.
How can you change your life??
I dont like the way my life is going, whats some ways to improve or change my life and way of living and find happiness, love and financial success??How can you change your life??
Dr Phil: Get real with yourself about life and everybody in it. Be truthful about what isn't working in your life. Stop making excuses and start making results.How can you change your life??
Dr Phil McGraw he won't take any of your mopping around check him out
Dr Phil: Get real with yourself about life and everybody in it. Be truthful about what isn't working in your life. Stop making excuses and start making results.How can you change your life??
Dr Phil McGraw he won't take any of your mopping around check him out
Grown Up..........(poem about life and change)?
My mother, my friend
A happy house wife
A woman who meant
A fun filled life
I’d wake to her singing
Hot breakfast on the way
Always cheerful and happy
Always keeping us strait
My father, my hero
The one man in my life
To me he knew everything’
To me always right
Caring and loving
A stern hand here and there
Someone to look up to
A daddy who cared
My brothers, dear brothers
I miss them the most
They were the best siblings
I’d certainly boast!
Always on the run
We had wild times
Making all sorts of mischief
Doing all kinds of crimes
How awful life changes
And people grow up
Gone five years
How I’ve missed so much!
With only my memories
The young never grow
With only my pictures
Age never shows
These strangers before me
Tall, slender, sleek
They are my brothers?
Only strangers to me
A courtesy “Hello”
And “how was your trip?”
Our fun filled relations
Have now come to this?
An awkward hug
And a nervous smile..
My childhood was ended
In a heartbreaking style
My mother, dear mother
A little older with time
Though she looks about the same
There is a difference in the mind
The kitchen is empty
of her loves pleasing presence
The homes lost its heart
When my mum lost her essence
How cold are the mornings
Without her warm tune
How sad when you realize
Breakfast now comes in a tube
Everyone changes
As life loves to point out
Family chats over coffee
Soon become IMs with take-out
My father, my daddy
How things have changed
No longer you little girl
For that I’ve caused you great pain
No longer #1
you take second place
We argue so much now
Life feels like a race
My family now strangers
Years gone… I’ve seen the cost
Memories all I have
And with that, I’ll mourn my loss…Grown Up..........(poem about life and change)?
I love it!Grown Up..........(poem about life and change)?
Great poem.
This is a beautiful poem
written from the heart
I talks about life
and the different things in
life that occur
For one is the growing up
from a boy to a man and a girl to
a lady
life is full of choices
some good like getting married and having children
but some bad things in life is death
which is sad but its a part of life.
People can be friends or
become someone unknown
With the losses
are many memories
To some people life doesn't mean
anything if someone who is loved is gone.
thats really good :)
A happy house wife
A woman who meant
A fun filled life
I’d wake to her singing
Hot breakfast on the way
Always cheerful and happy
Always keeping us strait
My father, my hero
The one man in my life
To me he knew everything’
To me always right
Caring and loving
A stern hand here and there
Someone to look up to
A daddy who cared
My brothers, dear brothers
I miss them the most
They were the best siblings
I’d certainly boast!
Always on the run
We had wild times
Making all sorts of mischief
Doing all kinds of crimes
How awful life changes
And people grow up
Gone five years
How I’ve missed so much!
With only my memories
The young never grow
With only my pictures
Age never shows
These strangers before me
Tall, slender, sleek
They are my brothers?
Only strangers to me
A courtesy “Hello”
And “how was your trip?”
Our fun filled relations
Have now come to this?
An awkward hug
And a nervous smile..
My childhood was ended
In a heartbreaking style
My mother, dear mother
A little older with time
Though she looks about the same
There is a difference in the mind
The kitchen is empty
of her loves pleasing presence
The homes lost its heart
When my mum lost her essence
How cold are the mornings
Without her warm tune
How sad when you realize
Breakfast now comes in a tube
Everyone changes
As life loves to point out
Family chats over coffee
Soon become IMs with take-out
My father, my daddy
How things have changed
No longer you little girl
For that I’ve caused you great pain
No longer #1
you take second place
We argue so much now
Life feels like a race
My family now strangers
Years gone… I’ve seen the cost
Memories all I have
And with that, I’ll mourn my loss…Grown Up..........(poem about life and change)?
I love it!Grown Up..........(poem about life and change)?
Great poem.
This is a beautiful poem
written from the heart
I talks about life
and the different things in
life that occur
For one is the growing up
from a boy to a man and a girl to
a lady
life is full of choices
some good like getting married and having children
but some bad things in life is death
which is sad but its a part of life.
People can be friends or
become someone unknown
With the losses
are many memories
To some people life doesn't mean
anything if someone who is loved is gone.
thats really good :)
How am I ';suppose'; to handle my child making a wrong decision that is life changing?
I have an 18 year old child whom here lately is making some really bad choices that are going to effect her for many many years later on in her life. She wont take any advise. Am I just suppose to sit here and watch my little/big girls life fall apart?How am I ';suppose'; to handle my child making a wrong decision that is life changing?
You may just have to let her make her own mistakes.
Just be there for her to help her pick up the pieces.How am I ';suppose'; to handle my child making a wrong decision that is life changing?
I'm going to need more information to answer properly.
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You thumbs down me because you didn't provide enough info?
Maybe lack of communication on your part is adding to the lack of cooperation on her part.
she is an adult, all you can do is advise, if she does not take it, then you can not be help responsible for it. so, yes you are just supposed to sit there and watch. she is a big girl
Simple.
You don't.
Your child is an adult.Although it is VERY hard to not have control, you have to let them make their own mistakes and only hope that they learn from them.If they don't, that is her problem.Not yours.
You can always present facts and help, but that is as much as you can do.Obviously ignorance is overriding her brain right now.Hopefully she will wake up and realize her mistakes before its too late.
Perhaps write her a heartfelt letter about how you are worried and you just want to see her succeed in life.
What ever you do, don't lecture.That will only make her ignore every intelligent advice someone can give.
Good luck with her.
What decisions? Not going to college/school? No big deal make her work. Get a tattoo? That is okay, even normal. A little more info please
Its really hard as decisions being made now are fairly critical. My sister came to live with me when she was 15 as her parents had pretty much given up. She didn't want to go to school, so I made her get a job. She hated her crummy job so I said, well this is it unless you go back to school or do a course or something. She woke up, got a better job %26amp; started finishing off school thru a course at a college instead of actually attending a school. She tried out for the navy but didn't get in. This really snapped her out of it. Being rejected showed her what she really wanted %26amp; I could relate to her because I originally was rejected the first time I applied for an electrical apprenticeship. But I went back the next year %26amp; got it %26amp; have now been an electrician for 10 years %26amp; she re-applied for the Australian Navy, has now been there for 4 years, is now 21 %26amp; doing well. Its hard but tough love %26amp; support will go a long way.
I realized that I no longer had children I now have adults, and I adjusted. I still see the questions to ask so they can guide themselves, but I am very diplomatic. My son asked me if I wanted to be his dad or his critic and I adjusted to keep from being the enemy. My daughter asked me to have faith in her choices and I adjusted and encouraged her to step up to the plate. Good luck and keep on loving the child, but adjust to the adult.
How are we ';suppose'; to help you out if you won't tell us what's going on?
I think you should talk to her about your concerns (not your advice) and maybe she'll see things a little differently. If not then let her do what she thinks she needs to do. In the end her choices might be right for her or she might just have to learn from experience. Just let her know that you love her and you'll always be there for her. Be confident and have faith that you raised a smart young woman.
You may just have to let her make her own mistakes.
Just be there for her to help her pick up the pieces.How am I ';suppose'; to handle my child making a wrong decision that is life changing?
I'm going to need more information to answer properly.
****************
You thumbs down me because you didn't provide enough info?
Maybe lack of communication on your part is adding to the lack of cooperation on her part.
she is an adult, all you can do is advise, if she does not take it, then you can not be help responsible for it. so, yes you are just supposed to sit there and watch. she is a big girl
Simple.
You don't.
Your child is an adult.Although it is VERY hard to not have control, you have to let them make their own mistakes and only hope that they learn from them.If they don't, that is her problem.Not yours.
You can always present facts and help, but that is as much as you can do.Obviously ignorance is overriding her brain right now.Hopefully she will wake up and realize her mistakes before its too late.
Perhaps write her a heartfelt letter about how you are worried and you just want to see her succeed in life.
What ever you do, don't lecture.That will only make her ignore every intelligent advice someone can give.
Good luck with her.
What decisions? Not going to college/school? No big deal make her work. Get a tattoo? That is okay, even normal. A little more info please
Its really hard as decisions being made now are fairly critical. My sister came to live with me when she was 15 as her parents had pretty much given up. She didn't want to go to school, so I made her get a job. She hated her crummy job so I said, well this is it unless you go back to school or do a course or something. She woke up, got a better job %26amp; started finishing off school thru a course at a college instead of actually attending a school. She tried out for the navy but didn't get in. This really snapped her out of it. Being rejected showed her what she really wanted %26amp; I could relate to her because I originally was rejected the first time I applied for an electrical apprenticeship. But I went back the next year %26amp; got it %26amp; have now been an electrician for 10 years %26amp; she re-applied for the Australian Navy, has now been there for 4 years, is now 21 %26amp; doing well. Its hard but tough love %26amp; support will go a long way.
I realized that I no longer had children I now have adults, and I adjusted. I still see the questions to ask so they can guide themselves, but I am very diplomatic. My son asked me if I wanted to be his dad or his critic and I adjusted to keep from being the enemy. My daughter asked me to have faith in her choices and I adjusted and encouraged her to step up to the plate. Good luck and keep on loving the child, but adjust to the adult.
How are we ';suppose'; to help you out if you won't tell us what's going on?
I think you should talk to her about your concerns (not your advice) and maybe she'll see things a little differently. If not then let her do what she thinks she needs to do. In the end her choices might be right for her or she might just have to learn from experience. Just let her know that you love her and you'll always be there for her. Be confident and have faith that you raised a smart young woman.
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