tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2754273180047958752024-03-13T13:40:03.108-07:00how to change my lifePhyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.comBlogger322125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-91545006942992583042011-09-21T23:21:00.006-07:002011-09-21T23:21:38.649-07:00I need a change in my life, something new, what can I do?I feel trapped in the lonely repetition of every day. I don't like my friends, and I don't bother with them that much, I endure, and tolerate them.<br><br />But it feels like I'm be<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> crushed under the weight of homework and assignments and I'm fed up with how repetetive, dull, lonely, boring it has all become. Of the tiniest things! Of my own home, of where I live... Of school. Especially school. Even the shops I see everyday. It's like what I used to feel for it all has been sucked dry. It's not just that, it's my life in general. It's way too much of the same thing, over, and over. I need something new, something vibrantly life changing.<br><br />What can I do? My mom cant afford a holiday. There's no place to go from here. I mean, I applied for a job but they haven't called yet or anything... I lack inspiration for it all... I'm not depressed, I don't have a mental illness, I'm just so BORED with it because I have been doing the same thing for YEARS.<br><br />Can you suggest anything? What can I do?I need a change in my life, something new, what can I do?<br >hi, here's what you do: Instead of waiting for the job to call you, why not go there and ask again and act like your happy maybe.? Holidays dont fix bordom...you gotta tell yourself that we're all bored until we get interested in something we do. I bet your mom is bored. Go see a doctor.<br><br /><br><br />Edit: Yo its summer and we're all bored. thats why I'm banging on this keyboard, lol. You wanna get away probably to someplace like here, and I'd like to get away to where you are...funny! you need to enter a photog contest or something. Take some pictures and send them to a contest. Or writing contest maybe.I need a change in my life, something new, what can I do?<br >I went through something rather like this for about a year and a half once. I think what you need is to find your passion. There is so much to do in life- if you're so bored, you just need to discover something that you will love. (By love, I don't mean go find a boyfriend- you need to be complete without a boyfriend.)<br><br /><br><br />I found a spiritual passion, learning about the Bible, and understanding why things are so bad, why God allows suffering, what he will do to fix it and what the future holds. I also shared it with others, and started spending a lot of time teaching people the Bible. Now, this may not be your kind of thing, but the idea is to find both an activity and a set of friends. <br><br /><br><br />Your activity needs to be something that you love to do! Delve into the arts- writing, music, painting, drawing, whatever. About 8 months ago, I started belly dancing, and I fell in love with it. Try something new- join some kind of class or club or group, e<a href=http://winxp.ittwit.com>xp</a>ose yourself to new ideas, new people, new activities. Find friends that you actually like, people who you can connect with and have something in common with. If you can only tolerate the friends you have now, they're not really you're friends- a friend should be someone who you enjoy talking to and spending time with.<br><br /><br><br />One thing that is very satisfying is helping others. Volunteer for something that helps people! Find positive ways to pass the time. If you are an intellectual, pick a subject to study in depth, such as a time period or a language. Whatever you do, the important thing is to change it up- add some spice to your life, and keep searching until you find your passion.<br >I'm undergoing a repetitive student's life as well but i'm enjoying it. Things won't be changed by you except you change the way you see things around you. <br><br />'; What on Earth are you here for? '; Have you ever ask youself this question? What is the purpose of God for putting you in that position. <br><br />Perhaps there is something you should learn to be more patient and see things from different perspectives. You cannot run away everytime situations do not suit you.<br><br />Get '; Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren'; and find the purpose of your life that God'd for you. Cheers.^^Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-21991290123194828502011-09-21T23:21:00.005-07:002011-09-21T23:21:33.666-07:00Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?the question is how to be MY SELF???? i mean i know that just act normal but HOW<br><br /><br><br /><br><br />i really need ur help GUys<br><br /><br><br />good answer=full rat<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a><br><br /><br><br />silly stupid non sense= abuse!Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?<br >It's hard b/c everywhere you turn we are told what to be...be this fashionable jacket, be this e<a href=http://winxp.ittwit.com>xp</a>ensive purse/perfume, be this haircut...nobody is saying, be this type of person...someone who is caring, kind, considerate...fun, goofy, smart...We simply lack any guidence of what it means to become ourselves...develop our characters.<br><br /><br><br />My advise...being yourself is liking yourself...what you like to do, the things that matter to you, what you want out of life...don't waver from these when distracted by others. You have to live your life..in other words, regardless of your family and friends, you are the one who has to live with your choices. Go after what you want...don't expect people to give it to you. Deliberate change takes a lot of effort. Remember, in one year, regardless of the choices you make, time will have passed. What can you show for that year? A whole lot...or nothing. It takes work to find out who you are...it isn't automatic. It may be easier for some people (people you see on TV who seem to have it all), but for ';normal'; people, it's years of learning and experiencing...Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?<br >high school right? im a fresh in college i member these things well. stay close to ur friends dont try to make 1000 cuz trust me u rather have 10 close ones. i answered ur other question too kid<br >When you are young you have to figure out who you are. Sometimes people pretend to get along, like pretending to like a song you really don't because everyone else does. What you have to remember is that there are really cool things about you that make you unique and interesting. You just have to relax and let those things show and people will like the interesting and quirky you! If you are ';acting normal'; then you aren't being yourself. Give it time and you will figure out who you are and then you won't be self conscious about how you act.Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-89220771778842449632011-09-21T23:21:00.004-07:002011-09-21T23:21:28.704-07:00Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?the question is how to be MY SELF???? i mean i know that just act normal but HOW<br><br /><br><br /><br><br />i really need ur help GUys<br><br /><br><br />good answer=full rat<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a><br><br /><br><br />silly stupid non sense= abuse!Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?<br >It's hard b/c everywhere you turn we are told what to be...be this fashionable jacket, be this e<a href=http://winxp.ittwit.com>xp</a>ensive purse/perfume, be this haircut...nobody is saying, be this type of person...someone who is caring, kind, considerate...fun, goofy, smart...We simply lack any guidence of what it means to become ourselves...develop our characters.<br><br /><br><br />My advise...being yourself is liking yourself...what you like to do, the things that matter to you, what you want out of life...don't waver from these when distracted by others. You have to live your life..in other words, regardless of your family and friends, you are the one who has to live with your choices. Go after what you want...don't expect people to give it to you. Deliberate change takes a lot of effort. Remember, in one year, regardless of the choices you make, time will have passed. What can you show for that year? A whole lot...or nothing. It takes work to find out who you are...it isn't automatic. It may be easier for some people (people you see on TV who seem to have it all), but for ';normal'; people, it's years of learning and experiencing...Ppl says to me just be ur self to change ur life to better?<br >high school right? im a fresh in college i member these things well. stay close to ur friends dont try to make 1000 cuz trust me u rather have 10 close ones. i answered ur other question too kid<br >When you are young you have to figure out who you are. Sometimes people pretend to get along, like pretending to like a song you really don't because everyone else does. What you have to remember is that there are really cool things about you that make you unique and interesting. You just have to relax and let those things show and people will like the interesting and quirky you! If you are ';acting normal'; then you aren't being yourself. Give it time and you will figure out who you are and then you won't be self conscious about how you act.Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-76944518294672765152011-09-21T23:21:00.003-07:002011-09-21T23:21:24.290-07:00Need advice.. life change?Ok.. so I've wanted to start my life over FOREVER now. I've been in a relationship for the last year and a half and we've broke up 4 or 5 times (by his do<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> to make me feel bad) We always get back together like a day later because we do love each other...BUT I have this dream of traveling the world and being young and just doing things on a whim. I want to be a chef.. Maryland isn't doing that for me. So now that my bf broke up with me AGAIN I want to move and go on a road trip with my best friend and start our lives over in Colorado Springs, CO. Not sure WHY.. we just looked up the best places to live for our lifestyles and we keep coming back to this place. So what I want to know is HOW IRRESPONSIBLE am I to just up and leave and start over. Literally, start over. I think I can do it, and I'll always regret if I don't get out and really e<a href=http://winxp.ittwit.com>xp</a>erience the GOOD parts of life. I've came from drugs, depression, happiness, religion, normal, dysfunctional. You name it, I've done it.. and I'm only 24 :) I just want to know (even though I think I know the answer) what other peoples opinion on the outside are for something crazy like this. I have a good job with <a href=http://excel.ittwit.com>excel</a>lent health insurance that makes crap money but its NOT what I want to do for the rest of my life. Some guidance would be helpful. Thanks!Need advice.. life change?<br >i say go for it. experience all you need to experience. go with your heart.. you said in your words that you might reqret it if you dont. you will i am sure... you dont need anyone to tell you what you want to do. just do it! you are still young.. when you have fullfilled all your drea<a href=http://msdn.ittwit.com>ms</a>, then you will be ready to settle down...good luck, and happy traveling!Need advice.. life change?<br >Follow your dreams. Don't let anything get in your way. I learned money really doesn't make you happy. You need to get a job where you want to wake up 7pm to go work. <br >I didnt take the time to read your question , but , just do it ! Start over ! Do what ever you can.<br >Do whatever you want. You only live once. =]<br >Money cant buy you happiness. But it can buy you a trip to an exotic counrty you have always wanted to explore, suggest taking a trip with your bf. It will be a good relationship test. Get out of your normal routine and enjoy what life has to offer, soon you will be missing what you left behind. Thats life.<br><br />If it were up to me I would sell all my possesions and take a one way trip to New Zeland, where I would live off barries and climbs mountains.<br><br />The things you own end up owning you.<li><a href='http://common-name-given-to.blogspot.com/'>common name given to</a></li><li><a href='http://virtual-barber-shop.blogspot.com/'>virtual barber shop</a></li>Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-69217426133993876982011-09-21T23:21:00.002-07:002011-09-21T23:21:14.949-07:00How can you change your life??I dont like the way my life is go<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a>, whats some ways to improve or change my life and way of living and find happiness, love and financial success??How can you change your life??<br >Dr Phil: Get real with yourself about life and everybody in it. Be truthful about what isn't working in your life. Stop making excuses and start making results.How can you change your life??<br >Dr Phil McGraw he won't take any of your mopping around check him outPhyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-54651301045244767542011-09-21T23:21:00.001-07:002011-09-21T23:21:10.665-07:00Grown Up..........(poem about life and change)?My mother, my friend<br><br />A happy house wife<br><br />A woman who meant<br><br />A fun filled life<br><br /><br><br />I’d wake to her s<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a>ing<br><br />Hot breakfast on the way<br><br />Always cheerful and happy<br><br />Always keeping us strait<br><br /><br><br />My father, my hero<br><br />The one man in my life<br><br />To me he knew everything’<br><br />To me always right<br><br /><br><br />Caring and loving<br><br />A stern hand here and there<br><br />Someone to look up to<br><br />A daddy who cared<br><br /><br><br />My brothers, dear brothers<br><br />I miss them the most<br><br />They were the best siblings<br><br />I’d certainly boast!<br><br /><br><br />Always on the run<br><br />We had wild times<br><br />Making all sorts of mischief<br><br />Doing all kinds of crimes<br><br /><br><br />How awful life changes<br><br />And people grow up<br><br />Gone five years<br><br />How I’ve missed so much!<br><br /><br><br />With only my memories<br><br />The young never grow<br><br />With only my pictures<br><br />Age never shows<br><br /><br><br />These strangers before me<br><br />Tall, slender, sleek<br><br />They are my brothers?<br><br />Only strangers to me<br><br /><br><br />A courtesy “Hello”<br><br />And “how was your trip?”<br><br />Our fun filled relations<br><br />Have now come to this?<br><br /><br><br />An awkward hug<br><br />And a nervous smile..<br><br />My childhood was ended<br><br />In a heartbreaking style<br><br /><br><br />My mother, dear mother<br><br />A little older with time<br><br />Though she looks about the same<br><br />There is a difference in the mind<br><br /><br><br />The kitchen is empty <br><br />of her loves pleasing presence<br><br />The homes lost its heart<br><br />When my mum lost her essence<br><br /><br><br />How cold are the mornings<br><br />Without her warm tune<br><br />How sad when you realize<br><br />Breakfast now comes in a tube<br><br /><br><br />Everyone changes<br><br />As life loves to point out<br><br />Family chats over coffee<br><br />Soon become IMs with take-out<br><br /><br><br />My father, my daddy<br><br />How things have changed<br><br />No longer you little girl<br><br />For that I’ve caused you great pain<br><br /><br><br />No longer #1 <br><br />you take second place<br><br />We argue so much now<br><br />Life feels like a race<br><br /><br><br />My family now strangers<br><br />Years gone… I’ve seen the cost<br><br />Memories all I have<br><br />And with that, I’ll mourn my loss…Grown Up..........(poem about life and change)?<br >I love it!Grown Up..........(poem about life and change)?<br >Great poem.<br >This is a beautiful poem <br><br />written from the heart<br><br />I talks about life<br><br />and the different things in <br><br />life that occur<br><br />For one is the growing up <br><br />from a boy to a man and a girl to <br><br />a lady <br><br />life is full of choices <br><br />some good like getting married and having children<br><br />but some bad things in life is death <br><br />which is sad but its a part of life.<br><br />People can be friends or <br><br />become someone unknown<br><br />With the losses <br><br />are many memories <br><br />To some people life doesn't mean <br><br />anything if someone who is loved is gone.<br >thats really good :)Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-5241561041342508652011-09-21T23:21:00.000-07:002011-09-21T23:21:01.379-07:00How am I ';suppose'; to handle my child making a wrong decision that is life changing?I have an 18 year old child whom here lately is mak<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> some really bad choices that are going to effect her for many many years later on in her life. She wont take any advise. Am I just suppose to sit here and watch my little/big girls life fall apart?How am I ';suppose'; to handle my child making a wrong decision that is life changing?<br >You may just have to let her make her own mistakes.<br><br />Just be there for her to help her pick up the pieces.How am I ';suppose'; to handle my child making a wrong decision that is life changing?<br >I'm going to need more information to answer properly.<br><br /><br><br />****************<br><br />You thumbs down me because you didn't provide enough info? <br><br /><br><br />Maybe lack of communication on your part is adding to the lack of cooperation on her part.<br >she is an adult, all you can do is advise, if she does not take it, then you can not be help responsible for it. so, yes you are just supposed to sit there and watch. she is a big girl<br >Simple.<br><br /><br><br />You don't.<br><br /><br><br />Your child is an adult.Although it is VERY hard to not have control, you have to let them make their own mistakes and only hope that they learn from them.If they don't, that is her problem.Not yours.<br><br /><br><br />You can always present facts and help, but that is as much as you can do.Obviously ignorance is overriding her brain right now.Hopefully she will wake up and realize her mistakes before its too late.<br><br /><br><br />Perhaps write her a heartfelt letter about how you are worried and you just want to see her succeed in life.<br><br /><br><br />What ever you do, don't lecture.That will only make her ignore every intelligent advice someone can give.<br><br /><br><br />Good luck with her.<br >What decisions? Not going to college/school? No big deal make her work. Get a tattoo? That is okay, even normal. A little more info please<br >Its really hard as decisions being made now are fairly critical. My sister came to live with me when she was 15 as her parents had pretty much given up. She didn't want to go to school, so I made her get a job. She hated her crummy job so I said, well this is it unless you go back to school or do a course or something. She woke up, got a better job %26amp; started finishing off school thru a course at a college instead of actually attending a school. She tried out for the navy but didn't get in. This really snapped her out of it. Being rejected showed her what she really wanted %26amp; I could relate to her because I originally was rejected the first time I applied for an electrical apprenticeship. But I went back the next year %26amp; got it %26amp; have now been an electrician for 10 years %26amp; she re-applied for the Australian Navy, has now been there for 4 years, is now 21 %26amp; doing well. Its hard but tough love %26amp; support will go a long way.<br >I realized that I no longer had children I now have adults, and I adjusted. I still see the questions to ask so they can guide the<a href=http://msdn.ittwit.com>ms</a>elves, but I am very diplomatic. My son asked me if I wanted to be his dad or his critic and I adjusted to keep from being the enemy. My daughter asked me to have faith in her choices and I adjusted and encouraged her to step up to the plate. Good luck and keep on loving the child, but adjust to the adult.<br >How are we ';suppose'; to help you out if you won't tell us what's going on?<br >I think you should talk to her about your concerns (not your advice) and maybe she'll see things a little differently. If not then let her do what she thinks she needs to do. In the end her choices might be right for her or she might just have to learn from e<a href=http://winxp.ittwit.com>xp</a>erience. Just let her know that you love her and you'll always be there for her. Be confident and have faith that you raised a smart young woman.Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-31889537788149459652011-09-21T23:20:00.005-07:002011-09-21T23:20:55.089-07:00I am very depressed at times, without medication how can i change my life.?I want to turn th<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a>s around and stop dwelling on the negatives all the time, at times i just want to go insane i cant handel it. I hate this. How can i help myself, i hate psychologists and im against medication.I am very depressed at times, without medication how can i change my life.?<br >What ever you do, DO NOT start antidepressants! <br><br />Some people absolutely need them, and that's fine, but you defenitely sound like you don't and they are hell trying to get off of!<br><br /><br><br />You hate psychologist or I'd defenitely suggest that you see one. Talking with friends can be just as helpful, too.I am very depressed at times, without medication how can i change my life.?<br >Bananas,eat bananas they have a chemical thats found in prozac...its been scientifically proven to treat depression.<br >get regular exercise and don't eat too many junky foods. hang out with positive people too.<br >Watch funny movies and happy tv channels, lol. Excercise. That will help a lot!! Find something to keep you busy. Do you have a hobby? Maybe painting or something? And maybe you should stop feeling bad for yourself and think about others who have it worse. The 5 thousand people who are going to die tonight from starvation in Africa and India should be depressed...not you. Just cheer up. And like I said, maybe pick up a hobby? I hope you feel better. Good Luck!!! Smile! :oD<br >Also prayer will work to have God with you to strengthen you is very good I know sometimes I feel like \I'm all alone and I get on my knees and pray I feel a whole lot better. Focus on the positive in your life and handle the negative step by step day by day .<br >Pantothentic Acid(B-5) is the strongest anti-depressant vitamin. 500mg before bed and you wake up like a million bucks,odorless Garlic before bed too 4-5 tabletsPhyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-68407760289178984282011-09-21T23:20:00.004-07:002011-09-21T23:20:45.173-07:00Serious question: How to change my life? only serious answers thankyou?i have been liv<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> in the computer ';world'; for six years...HELP!<br><br />how to become normal?Serious question: How to change my life? only serious answers thankyou?<br >First, decide what you want to change to. Define what this ';normal'; is. I mean, if you just say, ';I want to change my life'; then you're just stating a preference. If you really define what it is that you want to do or be, then you've set a goal; a viable alternative to what your life is now.<br><br /><br><br />After you set the goal, do something (at least one thing) every single day to move yourself closer to that goal. Even if you suffer a set-back on the way, stay on target. If your goal is realistic, you'll get there.<br><br /><br><br />Remember these immortal words from Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe.<br><br /><br><br />';Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back-- Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now.'; <br><br /><br><br />Good luck to you in whatever goal you set for yourself.Serious question: How to change my life? only serious answers thankyou?<br >get out and about. meet some new people, go somewhere new. find God. He'll help you through anything/everything. =)<br >Check at a local school or homeless shelter or nursing home to become a volunteer. Seeing others' misfortunes will make you happy with your own life, give you satisfaction of helping, and *snap* you into reality.<br >start making some friends (not over the inter<a href=http://net.ittwit.com>net</a>) and go hang out with them. and try to stop using the computer as much<br >In what aspect?<br >I think you should decied yourself dont let other people tell you how you should live.<br><br />Unless you live with your mom still then your screwed.<br >There is no ';magic answer';! If you REALLY want to change your life- you just have to DO IT. You need to have a plan. Set goals for yourself, set limits to using your computer. Join a club- take a class at your local community college, volunteer at a shelter, or a church- whatever interests you! There are book clubs, poetry reading clubs- clubs for just about anything. The more you get out with ppl, the less you will rely on your ';computer world';- there is nothing wrong with using the computer, but you have to have limits. Good luck!!!<br >the only way to eat an elephant is one bite at a time.<br >What do you want to change? Turn the computer off, buy a bicycle and go out riding. Learn how to play the guitar, maybe the piano. Get a new job, or a job if you don't have one. Move to a different town. NORMAL is a realtive term. If being normal is being the same as everyone else, I do not want to be normal. So many ways to change a life - big change or little change? Wear different clothes. Do anything you have never done before. Go into a store you would never go into otherwise just to see new things. Test drive a brand new car, just don't buy it. Go to a sporting event of some kind. Sounds like turning off the computer is the first step though. Have you ever been to an automobile race? How about bowling? Soo much to do. Go do it.<br >Here is a somewhat odd but quite serious response. Get to a 12-step meeting -- AA, NA, GA, etc. One of the biggest proble<a href=http://msdn.ittwit.com>ms</a> faced by addicts when they first quit is figuing out what to do with the time. Drinking, drugging, gambling and such take up all day and all night and people don't know how to live. One of the bits of advice they will get would be to make up a list of 30 things they once liked to do, or think they would like to try. Do one every day. If could be just go for a walk, check out a book from the library, take a class at the community college, shoot some pool, whatever. Then, once you get used to doing other things, you need people to do them with. Any sort of social group would do. Join a bowling league. Find a group with similar interests. This time of year, volunteer for a political candidate that shares your values. Make it your mantra to do new things with new people. For the first six months, accept any invitation to do anything with anybody until you find out what you like, what kind of person you are. Good luck.<br >I can answer this the only way I know how. I came to the same question you did. I changed EVERY aspect of my life. From the friends I hang out with to the clothes I wore, right on down the the boxers. Seriously, that is the way to make a new start. I know it sounds contrite, but if you are going to make a change, make change! I live in a ';rich, yuppie'; neighborhood, and i found myself losing touch with the common man. I literally had to change everything about my existence to become normal. Have fun with it. Change one aspect at a time and do it just as you want to. Make it a challenge and don't let anyone's opinion or attitude stand in your way. Trust me, if done correctly, your life will never be the same. Live by one motto....your life ends in 3 months, do whatever you can before it is too late! You'll never be the same. If you want more details, my <a href=http://email.ittwit.com>email</a> is tmcd0@yahoo.com. I would love to chat with you.<br >throw your computer out of the window !!!<br><br /><br><br />seriously.....do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<br >You want real answers? Okay, start with unplugging your PC or laptop, breath deeply, close your eyes...look inside yourself and ask your if your happy with where you are now or do you want to do something else? LIfe is the choices we make. These choices determine whether we are either happy or unhappy. Now, open your eyes....make your choice.<br >why are you asking us?<br >go outside, socialize, do some volunteer work in the community, take up a sport and meet people, read a good book. there are about 10,000 things you can do besides sit in front of a computer all day, and anything you do to get yourself away from the screen is a good thing.<br >I think we all want to change our lives. We all want ourselves to be different--more skinny, more friends, more money, more excitement. I think going somewhere else is a good idea. Do something you've never done before. Go to a different country. You have you're whole life ahead of you. Decide to do something that you're passionate about and work hard for it. Don't give up on dreams, too many people do. You can do anything. The possibilities are endless.<br >Best thing to do is just to get out, out of the house.Go to a park, a library, meet some people, ask some questions, look around at the world and see how it is, what is wrong, wonder at how you can change it.Learn something, climb a tree, make someone smile, do a sumersault, go swimming, drive to the city and buy some seriously cool clothes and walk around like that and go to a dead posh cafe and laugh to loudly.Find something to rebel.Try to write your life story, your biograhpy.Then rewrite it the way you wish it was.Write where you want to be in a year.Try to get there.Write crappy poetry and proclaim it a masterpiece.<br >Get your life styles in balance..does not mean you are in computer world for 6 years.life is not normal..<br><br />You need to get motivation on how to enjoy in real life and working infront of your computers.Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-84607179476557297662011-09-21T23:20:00.003-07:002011-09-21T23:20:35.870-07:00Life Change After A Head Injury?Hey everyone. <br><br />Last year when i was 13 i was jump<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> ramps with my friends while i wasent wearing a helmet. I fell off my bike and hit my head on the concrete. The next thing i knew i was in the hospital and everyone told me that i was in there for 7 hours. I didnt remember any of it but apperently during that 7 hours i was acting pretty weird.<br><br /><br><br />Because i wasent wearing a helmet, it has changed the course of my life. Now its a year later and im 14 years old and I have alot of proble<a href=http://msdn.ittwit.com>ms</a>... I get severe concussions when hit in the head or if i sweat too much ( have a question about that). I am also always very confused and disorented. This is my main problem. I cant see properly as if i cant focus now, I feel as if im watching myself and not really ';there';. I feel out of it as if im stoned all the time. I cant focus or talk to people properly. My grades have gone down from 90's to 60's or 70's. I cant read things properly, words just seem like forign symbols and this is changing my life. Some nights i lie in bed and i cant get any sleep because i have to think about the next day and how i will have problems. I always think how much better i would have been if i would have just worn a helmet. I would rather sit in my room alone and sleep rather then go to partys or hang out with friends. I really need help soon or i think i might do something to myself that ill regret. Im seeing a neurologist in 3 months and i think by then it will be too late. <br><br /><br><br />Please Help. :(<br><br />Thanks, Dan..<br><br />( P.S- I hope you can see now how important it is to wear a helmet. Who cares if you look stupid. I think you will care once you end up like me..)Life Change After A Head Injury?<br >Unfortunately you are suffering from what is called Closed Head Trauma. The brain is an organ that is within a closed chamber and when the impact occurred the force was enough to cause swelling and disruption of nerves. For some people they are able to get past this. Then for some they take long times to get past this and some never do. If you are not e<a href=http://winxp.ittwit.com>xp</a>eriencing any physical problems then you will need to work with an occupational therapist along with a psychologist and or psychiatrist. With consistent work there will be a great improvement. Pulling away from the rest of the world is not going to help and in fact could make things worse. Please get the professional help that you need. If possible try to move the neurologists appointment up or see a psychologist or psychiatrist as soon as possible.Life Change After A Head Injury?<br >There are head injury support groups all over the country and I suggest you look for the nearest one to you. Just search head injury support and the name of the nearest city.<li><a href='http://hot-tub-bath-speed.blogspot.com/'>hot tub bath speed</a></li><li><a href='http://a-dog-for-sale.blogspot.com/'>a dog for sale</a></li>Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-81581149753407437172011-09-21T23:20:00.002-07:002011-09-21T23:20:26.494-07:00Need some tips on how to change my life aroundI am a 20 year old male, who has a huge problem. I have never had a girlfriend, kiss, anyth<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> of this nature, never even been on a date. I'm a pretty good looking guy though. A bigger guy, but more muscle then fat. I'm active too, I love fly fishing, camping, playing dru<a href=http://msdn.ittwit.com>ms</a> in my band, and am a huge movie buff. However I am pretty shy/quiet. I have never even come close to having any kind of relationship and it's starting to worry me that it may never happen for me. <br><br /> I also have self-esteem issues though due to being rejected or used by so many girls. I'm also afraid due to my lack of e<a href=http://winxp.ittwit.com>xp</a>erience that if some girl ever does like me that I'll just mess it up anyways. Also not a fan of the ';O, it's fate';, or ';O God has a girl for you';, I'm not anti-religious or anything, it's just that I believe that people make their own fate and can't just rely on outside sources. <br><br /> The one thing I want out of this life is to be able to wake up to somebody every morning and know that they unconditionally love you, not because they're family, but because they make a conscious decision every day that they do. Maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic doomed to roam the Earth alone. I don't know I just needed to rant to somebody besides my friends who can relate to me in no way and are very insensitive. <br><br /> Anyways, does anybody have some suggestions on how I can start a meaningful relationship after being scarred so much?Need some tips on how to change my life around<br >Just do it. In general people suck, women are no exception. But there are good people out there, finding them is the hard part. Put yourself out there and have fun. Make sure you're being the best you that you can be and let the world enjoy you. If you run across a few bad women, write it off as their loss and their problems NOT YOURS. Eventually you'll find a good woman or two and you should be on your way. Don't take things too seriously, have fun...Need some tips on how to change my life around<br >Life will never hand you a girl, a girl is not going to walk up see you and just fall in love. Life is not a soap.. Get off you A$$ and go find a girl. Your never going to find love if you don't open yourself up to others, and yes. That does mean you WILL get hurt but oh well. that's life. Man up and go find a date....<br >yes you need to get un shy try public speaking or talking about something to ease out of shyness and be BOLD just go up to a girl wanna dance? can i buy you a drink? etc go for a nature girl they like fishing and camping take her out to camp <br >you are being shy or just didnt manage to put down your pride? take the risk and you will know what happen in the end for the decision you have make, every decision you made is a kind of risk.. <br >dude, its all about your shyness man, get over it! <br><br />It sounds bad, but the only way I got over it was a few drinks on me, soon I got to where I didnt need it...but yeah, Im just sayin it eases you up a little lol<br >Well my question to you is are you comfortable in your own shoes? <br><br />seems like your not.<br><br /><br><br />my advice to you is go somewhere social and start talking to women<br >I was exactly the same but I just got over my shyness. it's very difficult I know, but they're not gonna kill you if you just talk to some girls. Just be friendly and talk to them about various stuff first time you meet them or on a date. you know if you ask a girl on a date and you get rejected, it's not the first time. Men get rejected daily. You're lucky if you don't get slaps in the face a few time until you meet your girlfriend./ or future wife.<br><br />And no, drinking is not the way to go. <br><br />Good luck mate.<br>Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-39190476615631100812011-09-21T23:20:00.001-07:002011-09-21T23:20:14.472-07:00The fear of loneliness is stopping me from making major life changes - any advice?The fear of loneliness is stopp<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> me from making major life changes.<br><br />How do you cope with the fear of loneliness and the possibility of loneliness?<br><br />If i strike out on my own, without friends or a partner, then how can i deal with the possibility of isolation?<br><br />What can be done to alleviate feelings of loneliness?The fear of loneliness is stopping me from making major life changes - any advice?<br >Thats a discision I also had to make,years ago.I chose a rout,and became somewhat of a loner.Society isn't always going to agree with you.Thats a stand one has to take.Do whats best for you.Let your spirit guide you,not your feelings.That is also a lesson I am still learning.It can be a bumpy road but in the end it may be better for you.I am still on my road.The fear of loneliness is stopping me from making major life changes - any advice?<br >You must get out of your shell. Take action, I realize you can't start by doing major things first, so start with little things you want to improve, resulting in improved confidence overtime. And I hate to say this, but if you continue to fear loneliness, you and your friends will drift apart, resulting in less confidence. I hope this helps.<br >try to keep positive,keep busy, doing the things you enjoy most. reading, going for walks, biking, doing crafts, go for a coffee, join a group or activity you enjoy, to be around people is a good thing. things will eventually fall into place<br >Risking a better future because you're afraid of being alone is something you're going to have to really think hard about. Think about the advantages and weigh them against the disadvantages.Just because you strike out on your own does not mean you will no longer have the ability to make new friends and contacts and <a href=http://net.ittwit.com>net</a>work and meet many new people. Have Faith and confidence in yourself, you can't life with that safety blanket all of your life, you have to spread your wings and fly and be who you were meant to be. Follow your drea<a href=http://msdn.ittwit.com>ms</a> and make them happen, don't let the past hinder you, the future is out there waiting for you!<br >focus on things that make you feel good about yourself and that you are interested in. once you are happy with yourself then you will look forward to spending time alone.<br >its hard but u adjust in order to find friends u have to take risks to get them. I left my friends behind when i moved and have not made new ones but also like where i am so itwas worth it.<br >The fear of loneliness alone should start you on the road of change and making right choices %26gt; who wants to be alone and or lonely most of all who wants to be fearful? %26gt; I have started with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ %26gt; that may be a good place for you to start. Remember our Triune God gives us what we need when we need it we just have to listen for that still small voice. Also remember everyone makes some not to good choices sometimes %26gt; yet, one must get up brush themselves off and keep on going and in time %26gt; truth %26gt; joy %26gt; love %26gt; understanding shall come %26gt; you must get all the knowledge God has for you and ask for wisdom from our Triune God %26gt; I believe you are on your way to victory %26gt; because you have realized what is standing in your way and put your question forth seeking an answer %26gt; our Triune God states that before you ask I shall answer and while you are yet speaking I shall hear. Much love and peace to you %26gt; Jesus Christ is the way the truth and the life %26gt; the price has been paid you just have to tap in to what our Triune God has purposed for your life and have faith which works by love. Remembering God is Love.<br >Zag, thank you for asking this question. I only have a few superficial solutions. One of them is spend more time in answers connecting with people...it's easier than doing it in the real world though it does have it's problems too. Another idea is to journal about your fear...find out what is at the root of it. When did you first begin to fear lonliness, what prompted that feeling. Then rationalize it...remind yourself you are not alone. Make a list of all your friends and family with <a href=http://email.ittwit.com>email</a> addresses and phone #'s. Don't let any fear keep you paralyzed. You never know, this major life change may bring many new and wonderful relationships to your life! Let us know what you decide!Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-33530998490255525652011-09-21T23:20:00.000-07:002011-09-21T23:20:06.436-07:00Life change...?I've only lived in large cities (Portland, OR/Vancouver, WA and Las Vegas, NV). My boyfriend grew up in Custar, South Dakota ( a very small town). He moved here about a year and a half ago with a friend from high school and we've been together since. Well he got a really good job offer back home and he wants me to move with him. I love him and would love to be with him but I am worried about how I will handle such a big change. All his family is there and I've seen a ton of pictures, it's beautiful. My sister now lives 2 blocks from me, I walk to work, and this is all I really know. My question is; Have you ever made a big move and how did you deal with it? How did you make your new home feel like your old home? What did you do to get over be<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> homesick? Do you have any advice for me on adjusting to a new area?Life change...?<br >honestly, i wouldn't try to make the new home feel your old home. i would accept the change and make it comfortable.<br><br />after a while you will get used to it, just like adapting to anything else. just accept moving away gifts and souvenirs from your home town and move on, it'll ofcourse be difficult at first, but you will get used to it. just make sure your with the right person before you actually move. keep in mind that you can still visit your home town.<br><br /><br><br />i'm done my part, i hope others here can help too. good luck.Life change...?<br >time heals these issues. You end up meeting new people, you have to have a positive attitude and things will fall into place.<br >The best thing you can do is to let him go back, and get hi<a href=http://msdn.ittwit.com>ms</a>elf settled. Then, visit on your vacations. See if you like the area, and what the job market is like. Find out about things to do, since you're used to lots of activity in a big city. Evaluate how you'll like it, because if you move there just for him, then you'll never be happy.<br >I just moved from Rapid City, South Dakota to a new city. Rapid City is right outside Custer. You will like it there. Life is much slower and quieter there until the Sturgis Rally hits every August and then the hills are alive with hundreds of thousands of bikers. It's great!!! It will be easy for you to adjust to the area. It gets colder there than anywhere you have ever lived though so buy a really good coat. To get over being homesick all you need to do is to call home once a week and plan vacation time within a year so that you can go to see your family. It will be hard at first but it will get easier over time.<br >You're going to miss the big cities. It's a much bigger change than you can imagine. However, if you have good reasons for moving, you may be able to adjust.<br><br /><br><br />How far is Custar from a city? If it's relatively close, you won't feel completely bored/smothered/foreign.<br><br /><br><br />Try it out. What do you have to lose?<br >Only move back with him if you're both committed. Do you guys talk about the future? Does he want a future with you? Personally, I'd only go if I were engaged to the person or married to them already... but if you're more the adventurous type, go and see what it's like.. if it doesn't work out-- move back home and chalk it up to a learning e<a href=http://winxp.ittwit.com>xp</a>erience.. Either way, it could be messy if you both don't have any solid plans for your futures.Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-43870752162431980682011-09-21T23:19:00.007-07:002011-09-21T23:19:54.988-07:00How can i change my life?I need to change my life from the routine which i live, but the big question is how???How can i change my life?<br >Wrong Category.<br><br />You could try work<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> out?<br><br />:OPhyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-457030109244866452011-09-21T23:19:00.006-07:002011-09-21T23:19:49.856-07:00Any tips to change my life?I want to be different. How do I do it? How do I gain confidence, how do I make relationships with people. HELP. How do I improve my body, help me. Please. Any tips to change my life?<br >You need to be more specific.<br><br />What exactly don't you like about yourself?<br><br />Once you have this figured out, <a href=http://email.ittwit.com>email</a> me with the subject as yahoo answers.Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-1467361994644574612011-09-21T23:19:00.005-07:002011-09-21T23:19:46.065-07:00How ur life can change overnight?I am writ<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> a paper for my english class and I need an article about ';the ephemeral nature of life/drea<a href=http://msdn.ittwit.com>ms</a>';. Or in other words how life can change or a dream can be ruined over one event that happened quickly. I need to compare this theme from Of Mice and Men to a specific modern example. Any good articles like this? ( the theme being ';the ephemeral nature of life/dreams';)How ur life can change overnight?<br >Christopher Reeve was an actor one minute and an activist the next. I would say his dream of acting was destroyed in the instant his neck broke. He was a Hollywood notable so I would imagine there are many articles about his injury and recovery, for lack of a better word.<br><br /><br><br />Is that what you are looking for???<li><a href='http://ie-vj.blogspot.com/'>ie</a></li><li><a href='http://black-hair-care-er.blogspot.com/'>black hair care</a></li>Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-402451324645811332011-09-21T23:19:00.004-07:002011-09-21T23:19:35.213-07:00Making A Big Life Change at 42?I've lived alone for over a decade now. Lousy marriage, yada, yada, yada. Have had several nice boyfriends over the years, but none that I've ever wanted to try and make a life with.<br><br /><br><br />Well, after tell<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> myself I would probably spend the rest of my life alone (and being happy with it), I met this guy and we've had a wonderful 2 years together. And so we've decided to live together and try and make a go of it.<br><br /><br><br />Besides clearing out a closet for him, what else do I need to do? LOL <br><br /><br><br />I mean, it's been ';my'; space for over 10 years now. Major changes are ahead. How do you prepare?Making A Big Life Change at 42?<br >OMG, I am so happy for you. I am about to start making changes along those lines as well. My best advice (from someone who has not been there yet) is that you should probably just remember why you love him and want to be together. That way, if you feel ';smothered'; you will hopefully be able to remember the positives in your relationship. Compromise. Work together. Remember that the other is an important part of your life. Put him first. Make him feel like a welcome, important part of your new life. After all, he is the reason for the wonderful changes in your life.<br><br />GOOD LUCK!!!!<br><br /><br><br /><br><br />P.S. THIS IS VERY IMPORTANT, if he forgets to ';put the seat down'; and you fall into the potty during a middle of the night bathroom visit-try not to be too mad. It will be really funny in the morning when you are not so tired and you have dried off!Making A Big Life Change at 42?<br >Congrats !!<br><br />Just take it one day at a time, and you will be o.k.<br >Sweetheart, Just go with the flow.<br><br />It will all come naturally to you.<br><br />Be happy now. Best wishes to the both of you. Peace to your new household. Live long %26amp; enjoy every bit of it.<br >Love him first with full sense!<br><br />Understand the person's likes and dislikes and adjust yourself accrodingly and keep away from his dislikes.<br><br />Understand his needs and give priority to it than yours.<br><br />Always put him above all your wants and needs.<br><br />Love him as if he could not think of others....Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-51613649864492083062011-09-21T23:19:00.003-07:002011-09-21T23:19:29.362-07:00I need to change my life around, desperate help?So, iv drove my loved ones away from me, my girlfriend, my best friends, everyone. Im tak<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> to my ex girlfriend, shes saying she would definantly get back with me if i changed my anger issues, im desperate to get her back, and my best friends back. But how can i change, and not lose my temper so easily? please help.I need to change my life around, desperate help?<br >have you considered some kind of anger management course? or counselling, this could help you so much in understanding what lies behind in what your anger is really about as im sure you don't really mean to be angry to those that you love... quite often its our nearest and dearest that get the raw deal when we feel anger,sadness and pain and quite often because we feel we can kind of get away with it as their are family and friends..does this make any sense ,i mean maybe its not you? but generally their are underlying reasons why people get angry and seeing a counsellor could really be valuable,i saw one for 3 years i learnt so much, if you do and find you don't get along go find another as its really important to see someone you feel at ease with! wish you the best!I need to change my life around, desperate help?<br >The trick is to find out what triggers your anger. Anger is usually a secondary emotion that is covering up hurt or sadness. You dont want to deal with the fact someone is hurting you or making you sad, so you react with the anger emotion.<br><br /><br><br />Anger mangement classes will help. Or researching it online. There are a few techniques you could use to learn how to pinpoint what sets you off or lights your fuse. Being aware of what makes you tick, and stopping it is the key. It is up to you and only you, to train your brain to react in a way that will bring your loved ones closer to you.<br >Read The Journey by Brandon Bays; get to the source of your anger so you can safely look at it, release it, forgive and heal yourself. <br><br /><br><br />There's plenty of other things you can do as well, but be aware that most of them - such as anger management.- are only treating the sympto<a href=http://msdn.ittwit.com>ms</a>, not the cause.<br >You might need to check into about being on some medication<br > A selection of treatments follow: If you can't deal with it by using one of the techniques, such as counting backwards from 20, to 1, (and prevent yourself from making yourself angry, in the first place) is important to e<a href=http://winxp.ittwit.com>xp</a>ress that anger appropriately, at the time, and to the person who caused it, if possible, or immediately afterwards. If not, maybe by walking away later, and bellowing your rage and/or frustration. In some situations, such as work, or school, it might be better to cover your mouth with a cupped hand, bandanna/handkerchief, or use the crook of your elbow, to muffle the sound. Some people find that it helps to journal those thoughts, and emotions soon afterwards. <br><br /><br><br />Anger, which is repressed, rather than healthily expressed, tends to fester, and later may cause explosive fits of rage, or depression. Let yourself feel the burning energy of that anger, and visualise it, as vividly as possible, as a hot flame cleansing you. It can help to have someone you can talk to. For more physically inclined people, a punching bag, or hitting your pillow, can be an effective release mechanism: visualise, as vividly as you can, that you are striking back at the cause of that anger. ';But next time, when you get mad, just remember this quote: 'Those who anger you, conquer you.' It's basically saying that when you give someone the power to make you mad, or let it get to you, it's like they're controlling you. <br><br /><br><br />When I realized that, it made me mad, so I try to control my anger and not let people see it. You can still control your anger without being walked all over. You just have to draw a line.'; Try saying to yourself, in your mind: ';I am fire! I am ice!';. Repeat for as long as it takes for you to calm down sufficiently. Anger management is addressed in much more detail than can be included here, in section 4, at http://www.ezy-build.<a href=http://net.ittwit.com>net</a>.nz/~shaneris and practice daily, one of the relaxation methods in section 2, 2.c, 11, or 2.i <br><br /><br><br />A variant of Eye Movement Desensitisation %26amp; Reprocessing therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective, is on page N, of section 6, and I use it before the relaxation techniques, because I have found that it makes them quicker to employ, and more effective. These will enable you to emotionally centre yourself, when practiced regularly. Yoga, and/or T'ai Chi may also help you become a calmer, more self controlled person, who is less influenced by the behaviour of others.<br>Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-15320187932157828292011-09-21T23:19:00.002-07:002011-09-21T23:19:20.401-07:00What do i say to a teacher who has honestly changed my life?He was my leadership teacher, and this year i learned every life lesson i think i will ever need to know. He believes in me, trusts me, and helps and supports me in everyth<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> i do. I want to write him a letter or something, but how do i sum up something so life changing?What do i say to a teacher who has honestly changed my life?<br >I would tell him exactly what you just said to us, that you recognized what he did. List it. Tell him about the lessons you learned from him. You can tell him you don't know how to sum up something that is so life changing. That says it all. It's better than trying to put it into words. By all means do it. It's the best gift you can ever give a person. How wonderful of you to stop to take the time to do it! I guess he really did get through to you.<br><br /><br><br />By the way, I know you think you've learned every lesson you need to learn, but you haven't. Keep your eyes open, when the time is right ';The Teacher'; will appear.What do i say to a teacher who has honestly changed my life?<br >you need tot tell him that you appreciate everything that he has done for you and that because of him you are better prepared for the rest of your life, everything that he has taught you will make you a better person and thank them for helping you out! teachers are amazing people and they don't do what they do just to pay bills they do it because they legitimately care about people<br >tell him you honestly changed my lifePhyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-67427247911111029202011-09-21T23:19:00.001-07:002011-09-21T23:19:14.187-07:00How can a green dress change or destroy a 16 year olds life?i am writ<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> a novel and i dont know how my main characters life will change or be destroyed when she wears this puke green dress to her sisters wedding.How can a green dress change or destroy a 16 year olds life?<br >The groom finds her attractive in it...which can take the book in a whole different direction!<br><br /><br><br />Seriously, though, there is not enough information to give a good answer. Is she and her sister at odds? Does the dress represent anything? What has the 16 year olds life been like up until this point? Is she a happy girl? Sad? Introvert? I just can't seem to figure out what the color of a dress has to do with changing or destroying the life of a 16 year old at a wedding. NEI. Sorry.How can a green dress change or destroy a 16 year olds life?<br >as many who have bought and are wearing the same dress to the wedding,,!!!<br >I dont think it will ';destroy'; her life. I just think she will be embarrassed.<br >Green dress. I request you to please look out side your window and count the number trees. Trees (Greenry) are gradually garduating from abundance to luxury goods. If I take the same lines as you have written ';THE GREEN DRESS OF EARTH IS GRADUALLY DESTROYING';. Hope it wont deviate your story line. Good Luck!!!<br >The guy she has a mad crush on sees her in that, and the look in his face she realizes she can forget him.<br >the boy she really loves, the boy she will give her whole live to is at the wedding. He sees her is this awful green dress. You can tell that he reacts in a bad way to seeing the bad taste she has displayed by wearing this green dress. ( I mean yeah this guy is really shallow. No doubt) Because she has displayed such bad taste he will never see her again. He breaks off the relationship they did have.<br><br /> She totally caves in and this is something she just cannot get beyond. it ruins the rest of her life just thinking how she lost this guy.<br><br /> also it was her sister who insisted she wear the dress in the first place... so now she also hates and won't speak to her sister for ruining her life.<br><br /><br><br /> Now cut to 40 yrs into the future. the sister who's wedding it was dies. the other sister ( the one who wore the green dress) must dispose of her dead sister possessions. When she is going thought the possessions she finds the love letters from 40 yrs. ago between the boy friend and the now dead sister. Her sister was having an affair with her boyfriend and the whole Green Dress was just a set up so the boy friend could break it off with the sister.<br >Obviously, if the 16 y/o girl chose to wear this green dress she must not be concerned about how this WILL change her life. You make this sound as if this DRESS has detrimental effects like swallowing poison. Anyway, who could ever get by with telling a 16y/o what to wear. <br><br />I also don't understand the signifigance, point or purpose of this green dress in your novel.Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-90973994808521761532011-09-21T23:19:00.000-07:002011-09-21T23:19:11.036-07:00How do i change my life?I want to change my life. I'm an 18 year old f <br><br />I'm a size 1 but I want to start work<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> out just to be healthy. <br><br />I want my life to be very balanced with family, friends and my boyfriend. I want to get my sleep schedule back on track. (I'm usually not even tired until 4 am)<br><br /><br><br />How should I go about doing these things?How do i change my life?<br >Write down your goals and stick to them until they are all realized.How do i change my life?<br >First contemplate something you really want to achieve, even if it's far beyond your reach now. Now make a list of the steps you need to take to attain the desire. Set goals for yourself and start from baby steps. <br><br /><br><br />Also, change your routine. If you normally go to sleep at 10, go to bed at 11. If you typically drive to work, try walking. Talk to people you don't normally talk to and wear things you don't normally wear. Be spontaneous and take risks before fear or doubt threaten to hold you back. Finish your work or studies right when you get home so you have more time to relax during the day. Also, try to maintain good nutrition and have mind discipline when it comes to the point of refusing junk food. Set time aside for exersize each day and treat yourself with rewards after a good work out. If you believe you can do it, you can do it.<br >same as jukebox, but also set up a reward system for every certain number of times you meet your goals.Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-14712286323717628442011-09-21T23:18:00.003-07:002011-09-21T23:18:32.476-07:00I'm going to U.S. Air Force BMT in a little over a week, from then on how will my life change?Well im about to swear into active duty for the U.S.A.F.. I just wanna know from people who are active duty how th<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a>s will be. From BMT to Tech school, to my first assignment, just describe how everyday life is for someone who is at their first duty assignment. Do you regret joining? Did you become a better person? are you happy? did you make alot of new friends? you know just describe how things are<br><br /><br><br />Im really excited but at the same time kinda nervous/anxious, you knowI'm going to U.S. Air Force BMT in a little over a week, from then on how will my life change?<br >Go for it, dude! Congratulations. You're going to walk around like you have a stick up your butt for the next 6 years, but the discipline and work ethic will stay with you for the rest of your life. I joined the Navy at 18 and the only regret I have is not staying in long enough to retire. I did learn a trade that provides a very comfortable income. The butterflies in the gut are normal, so long as they don't make you poop funny.I'm going to U.S. Air Force BMT in a little over a week, from then on how will my life change?<br >Get ready to be yelled at alot. 15 hours a day. You will learn to ';Hurry up and wait'; from day one. It will be a long 8 weeks. I'm not a better person for going in. It made me worse. ( Drinking too much...Hot women) Remember, everything is geared to keeping the planes in the sky. Keep your trap shut and do as you are told. Never say ';WHY';. If they say ';Jump'; just do it. Don't ask ';How high';. Never say ';I need this ';OR'; I want this. Say ';Sir! Request to do...........then just be polite and state what you need. (You must stand at attention when you request something. You can eye ball him when you request something other wise never eye ball your D.I.) and the most important thing to make your life easy? A dollar bill. Why? It's 6 inches long and your clothes in your locker must be folded to 6 inches. Take one and you will never fail inspection. Fold it up and make sure the D.I won't find it. Happy flying! Good luck.<br >It all depend on how you look at it. Most people love the service to there country. Others spend the whole time wishing they didn't sign up. It will be life changing and if you look for the good things you will enjoy it. God Bless and Enjoy<br >some people become better from it its all what you want to get from the e<a href=http://winxp.ittwit.com>xp</a>erience i wish i hadnt joined and just went to school to me its not worth the schooling since you wont have much time to go until you get out.... i personally want to get out but there isnt a way and i dont want dishonorable discharge.... you may love it some people do so dont take our opinions just learn from it... keep in mind you can get a general seperation within 6 months of being in any longer and you cannot get out so easily unless you get in trouble.... goodluck and have fun if you end up in the 320th hopefully you get Sgt Castro he's an awesome TI !<br >Hope you find a good home for your dog %26amp; the Air Force treat you better than you have treated your dog.<li><a href='http://net.ittwit.com/811538/ie-hosted-control---deploying-security'>ie hosted control</a></li><li><a href='http://what-is-the-name-of.blogspot.com/'>what is the name of</a></li>Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-63615303714376915312011-09-21T23:18:00.002-07:002011-09-21T23:18:24.110-07:00I'm going to U.S. Air Force BMT in a little over a week, from then on how will my life change?Well im about to swear into active duty for the U.S.A.F.. I just wanna know from people who are active duty how th<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a>s will be. From BMT to Tech school, to my first assignment, just describe how everyday life is for someone who is at their first duty assignment. Do you regret joining? Did you become a better person? are you happy? did you make alot of new friends? you know just describe how things are<br><br /><br><br />Im really excited but at the same time kinda nervous/anxious, you knowI'm going to U.S. Air Force BMT in a little over a week, from then on how will my life change?<br >Go for it, dude! Congratulations. You're going to walk around like you have a stick up your butt for the next 6 years, but the discipline and work ethic will stay with you for the rest of your life. I joined the Navy at 18 and the only regret I have is not staying in long enough to retire. I did learn a trade that provides a very comfortable income. The butterflies in the gut are normal, so long as they don't make you poop funny.I'm going to U.S. Air Force BMT in a little over a week, from then on how will my life change?<br >Get ready to be yelled at alot. 15 hours a day. You will learn to ';Hurry up and wait'; from day one. It will be a long 8 weeks. I'm not a better person for going in. It made me worse. ( Drinking too much...Hot women) Remember, everything is geared to keeping the planes in the sky. Keep your trap shut and do as you are told. Never say ';WHY';. If they say ';Jump'; just do it. Don't ask ';How high';. Never say ';I need this ';OR'; I want this. Say ';Sir! Request to do...........then just be polite and state what you need. (You must stand at attention when you request something. You can eye ball him when you request something other wise never eye ball your D.I.) and the most important thing to make your life easy? A dollar bill. Why? It's 6 inches long and your clothes in your locker must be folded to 6 inches. Take one and you will never fail inspection. Fold it up and make sure the D.I won't find it. Happy flying! Good luck.<br >It all depend on how you look at it. Most people love the service to there country. Others spend the whole time wishing they didn't sign up. It will be life changing and if you look for the good things you will enjoy it. God Bless and Enjoy<br >some people become better from it its all what you want to get from the e<a href=http://winxp.ittwit.com>xp</a>erience i wish i hadnt joined and just went to school to me its not worth the schooling since you wont have much time to go until you get out.... i personally want to get out but there isnt a way and i dont want dishonorable discharge.... you may love it some people do so dont take our opinions just learn from it... keep in mind you can get a general seperation within 6 months of being in any longer and you cannot get out so easily unless you get in trouble.... goodluck and have fun if you end up in the 320th hopefully you get Sgt Castro he's an awesome TI !<br >Hope you find a good home for your dog %26amp; the Air Force treat you better than you have treated your dog.Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-32273980223494397072011-09-21T23:18:00.001-07:002011-09-21T23:18:12.800-07:00How would your life change after i get my green card?(due to the immigration reform_)?How would my life change because you get your green card? I don't even know you.<br><br /><br><br />Congradulations in advance on the green card though.How would your life change after i get my green card?(due to the immigration reform_)?<br >They would probably not even allow you to get a green card with what is go<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> on with the immigration bill. They would probably send you back to mexico.How would your life change after i get my green card?(due to the immigration reform_)?<br >now I can't afford to hire anyone who got green card to pick my grapes<br >if you get your green card...fine.<br><br />we just won't hire you, in a nutshell you have your green card but would still be doing the job of a peasant.<br >If you were the only illegal one here, it would not. Throw in 11,999,999 more, and I think you can see how that might make a difference.<br >it probly wodnt but welcome glad to have you as long as your a nice person and not predous ihate that i have black and gay friends so congradulationa flaim<br >well your life will change. you will no longer need to be paid $2 an hour, so you will lose your job to illegals who will still work at $2/hr. I will pay 6 cents more for a head of lettuce. <br><br />If you have children, they will still continue to drop out of school and not strive to be a better part of society. (50% of latinos in Los Angeles drop out). <br><br />You will still not be able to afford health insurance, so your non payment of medical help will be a strain on hospitals and cause emergency roo<a href=http://msdn.ittwit.com>ms</a> to close.<br><br />Because you will still be poor, not only will your children born here (US citizen by birth) recieve welfare, but you too will be eligable.<br><br />A green card does not mean you are any more of a responsible driver, so the roads will be just as clogged, and just as dangerous (altough I will not argue that a DL means that ANYBODY is a safe driver, citizen or not).<br><br />My guess is nothing will change, only encourage more to enter illegally in the future with the hope that one day, they will receive amnesty as well.<br><br /><br><br />I'm moving to Iran, that guy takes care of his own!<br >my yard would get cut?<br >If you get your green card on your way to becoming an American, I will do all I can to continue to support folks from all over coming here to contribute to making America great.<br><br /><br><br />If you get your green card due to immigration reform with millions of others who may not share an enthusiasm to be American, but to just earn a dollar (and that's cool too, everyone has to feed their kids) then my life will change because I will have a greater tax burden to cover costs associated with taking care of these people who will, most likely, be underpaid with no health care benefits. I would worry that, with the 12 million they granted carte blanc to regarding this reform, just .000001% of them would be terrorists...that works out to be 12 terrorists, which we've learned the hard way, is enough to do some serious damage! <br><br /><br><br />I'm sure I'm leaving a lot out, but I think you get the idea; Jimbo stole my thunder! Way to go, brother!<br >Forget It<br><br /><br><br />They Wont Be Issueing ANY Green Cards To ILLEGAL Aliens<br><br />Till AFTER The Border Is Secure<br><br /><br><br />That Wont Be For Awhile<br><br /><br><br />In The Meantime, You Will Be FOUND And DEPORTED<br><br /><br><br />Pack Your Gear Senor<br >I dont think it will directly affect anyone that doesnt personally know you. My husband is in the same situation, I am a US born citizen. My husband is in the construction business he makes $25 dollars an hour at his job, he has a valid ss# given to him by Social security administration. If he is able to get his greencard he can now go into business with his friends and own his own contruction business.(more money) But I think it just depends on ones skills or willingness to learn new skills. Most of the people that work for him make almost the same as he does because of their e<a href=http://winxp.ittwit.com>xp</a>erience most are illegals also.There will always be people will to get paid less even if they become legal because what they are doing is all they know how to do ,unless they go out there and are willing to learn english and new job skills or go to school.<br><br /><br><br />jimbo-so you see not all illegals make less than minimun wage.<br >Good for you, you just cross the border by feet and got lucky from immigration reforms, while here we are .. we went through and still go through all kinds of difficulty just to fly here and work hard to make a living to be able to pay for all kinds of applications with INS. Sure it's gonna make our life exciting knowing it was easy for you and not for us.Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-275427318004795875.post-64238858515614374732011-09-21T23:18:00.000-07:002011-09-21T23:18:04.703-07:00One event change my life and now i believe i have social anxiety, can you help me get back to normal?Well this all happened about 5 years ago.... I was in class and a kid threw a spiked eraser at my eye, my eye became perma<a href=http://net.ittwit.com>net</a>ly damaged and for about a week i was practically blinded from it, to this day my eye still has proble<a href=http://msdn.ittwit.com>ms</a> from this. Anyway, it seems like after that day someth<a href=http://networking.ittwit.com>ing</a> clicked in my head. I slowly became more nervous in public and 5 years later i turned into that kid in the corner who jumps at anything and basically i turned into a weird guy, at home i act like i did before the incident happened, but in public im a totally new person, I can't make new friends anymore and i have a hard time talking with people, i also get very nervous in public. Im 99% sure i have developed social anxiety. I just don't understand how this incident sent me from being a popular kid with a huge amount of friends...into a person who fears social situations. I really want to try to fix the problem on my own, if you have tips for me please help.One event change my life and now i believe i have social anxiety, can you help me get back to normal?<br >Having a spiked eraser thrown into your eye hard enough to induce permanent damage seems pretty traumatic to me. Did everyone laugh in the class when it first happened? I'm guessing you were a little bit embarrassed when it happened. <br><br /><br><br />Pencil erasers at first glance aren't the most menacing objects but what you should understand is that what may have seemed like no big deal was a big deal for you. Not only did you suffer from the immediate embarrassment of being hit in the eye with the eraser but you also had the physical pain to go along with the e<a href=http://winxp.ittwit.com>xp</a>erience.<br><br /><br><br />The fact that your eye is still having problems is a real reminder of the experience. Your best bet would be to find the best optometrist and try to repair as much of the eye as possible. At the very least make the eye less sensitive to peripheral stimuli that would make you flinch. Your flinching is similar to what happens to children who are hit by their parents growing up. The flinching can be fixed with the help of a behaviorally trained counselor.<br><br /><br><br />Anxiety disorders are some of the easiest disorders to treat. All you need to do is repair the physical damages of your experience in order to fully overcome the embarrassment and emotional damage. It is certainly possible for you to become the popular, gregarious person you once were. With professional help, you could really improve your life.One event change my life and now i believe i have social anxiety, can you help me get back to normal?<br >Sometimes something sends people off center..............you need to see a doc and he will probably give you something ..........to mellow you out for a while.............Life can be fun, get fixed and enjoy life........it's the only one we get.<br >Your reaction would be normal after that incident. Ithink that you just have to try and overcome your fearby realising that nothing bad can happen. You would bebetter off by undergoing counselling. They are more trained to help<br >If you were popular before this happened you would not have this phobia. Why let some jerk dictate your life? You have let a minor incident ruin your life...quit! You said your eye is fine now, so let it go.<br >If you do feel you are suffering from a social anxiety disorder, then you need to seek professional help from both a doctor and therapist. As no one here can give you that sort of help. It requires professional help.Phyllishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09701501951574335110noreply@blogger.com0