I've wanted to change things for 6 years now, but still find myself in exactly the same ruts. I accept myself as I am, but I'm not HAPPY, and we only live once right? How can I get motivated to exercise, meet people, explore my creativity...? I think depression is holding me back somewhat but I'm already on meds etc.I want to change my life but I don't have motivation or stick-to-it-ness?
just do it push yourself and get out there! Live life, That's what I had to do, I started out with just walks and then I started going to church and joined groups through there but just do it, God BlessI want to change my life but I don't have motivation or stick-to-it-ness?
Your depression %26amp; meds are doing alot to hold you back. You must want to do something for yourself first. If the only way you can do is join an excersize club then do it .. Once you start you will love it %26amp; it will build another you. It will give you a new outlook on life. I used to be where you are now and I joined a excersize club and boy what a difference it made !! I worked harder everytime I went until I felt lost if I didn't go. My energy level went sky high and I was well on my way to a better me !! You can do it !! Good Luck !!
Monday, June 6, 2011
How do I change my life around?
well lately my life sucks. I just recently keep getting into trouble at school, which never happend, I lost my best friend to my other friend. I'm getting bad grades, and my other friends treat me like crap. I'm depressed and don't know what to do. Please help.How do I change my life around?
I too still have yet to change my life around. Your not alone.How do I change my life around?
Find new friends. People can be shallow or fickle sometimes, try to hang out with some kids at school that treat you good.
i have to change my life around too
you should go see someone
or get ur act together
I too still have yet to change my life around. Your not alone.How do I change my life around?
Find new friends. People can be shallow or fickle sometimes, try to hang out with some kids at school that treat you good.
i have to change my life around too
you should go see someone
or get ur act together
How I can change my life after I was taken prsioner by agang?
Iwas taken from my office and stay three days by the gang and paid alot of money to them and they set me freeHow I can change my life after I was taken prsioner by agang?
Move far away.
Stay away from gangs.
Learn a trade. Carpenter, plumber, electrician, etc.
Go to work.
Simple plan. Now it's up to you.
Move far away.
Stay away from gangs.
Learn a trade. Carpenter, plumber, electrician, etc.
Go to work.
Simple plan. Now it's up to you.
How much has your perspective of life changed over the last 12 months?
A lot
Some, not a lot
A little bit
It's the same
And why?
I would have to say mine has changed a lot and continues to change regularly. A lot has happened in the last 12 months, and it really opened my eyes to a lot of things.
That being said, how much has your perspective changed? What caused it to change for you?
Thank you everyone.How much has your perspective of life changed over the last 12 months?
A year ago, my philosophy for 2008 was ';I don't wanna grow up.'; I grew up more last year than most years. My philosophy circa 2009 is ';take it as it comes.';
Why are my philosophies always SONG LYRICS?
Thank you for making me think today. Great question!How much has your perspective of life changed over the last 12 months?
More than I can say. I used to think that love was a trivial thing, nothing to get worked up over. Almost a year ago though I fell in love, and it ended 7 months later. I never could have imagined how much it can hurt. So, I guess you could say im humbled, I used to be the man who laughed in the face of love.
A lot, but that is because I am in school learning and I am constantly applying things I learn to my home life. Also I have met some interesting people that have ';enlightened';me with their views, which is not to say that they have 'changed' me, but I have more of an open mind to different things. Oh yeah and since I have been on Ya! a lot more recently I have had to think a lot more. But hey why not keep tylenol in business?
we are goin down dude
My perspective has changed greatly ever since I started seriously studying Plato. I used to be firmly in the modern relativist school of philosophy, but now I'm much less convinced of their arguments, and much more open to ancient metaphysics and ethical claims.
My perspective has not wavered much. The things that happen around the world, whether they happened yesterday or ten years ago only reinforce what I already know. That man is infallible and has historically been more irrational than he has been reasonable.
I know that reality won't budge for the whims of man: unnatural politics, unreasonable ethics, undercutting the requirement of a sound epistemology, and evading the facts of reality.
Historically man qua mankind has evaded one simple truism that has caused more suffering than could ever be gaged. That is Aristotle's identity axiom: A is A. Such a simple truth but ostensibly to easy to grasp.
If they had the communication system that we have, back in the Dark Ages, imagine the historical reference that would come from that time. This last twelve months would seem like nothing by way of comparison. They didn't believe an A represented only an A back then either.
(I do, however, REALIZE that by implication alone my statement disqualifies my argument because such an Age could never achieve a communication system. I am waxing rhetorically, so my argument stands sound.)
I used to think everything was fine. Sure people were a little dumb but that was okay. For the most part, people were good and I could accept them.
Over the past 12 months, I tried to figure out where this ignorance from people came from. What I have found out has been shocking and appalling. I've found out more about the Patriot Act. I've found out more about the Iraq War. I've found out more about the economy. I've found out more about the elites try to keep people in the dark. I've found out more about how we have been brainwashed since we are young. I've found out about conformity. I've found out about how easy it is for the elites to get the desired response from the people. I've become more and more convinced that we are heading in the wrong direction.
I never knew I was so political. I have been so pleased that Obama came through the primaries - and THEN was actually elected - and THEN actually sworn in!
I think having a lying little dog in the White House - like Georgie Bush - was making me sick - physically sick. The treason, the wars and the endless lies
To now have a man leading the country who can ponder questions and make decisions is just amazing. With Bush and the other awful republicans for the past 30 years, you KNEW it was all just to feed the Super Rich.
And now the Super Rich have it all and we have a Depression. But at least we got Obama. And everyday is a pleasure to watch him reinvigorate things like the Freedom of Information Act.
And it's fun to hear the right wingers whine too - that's great - they hate Freedom!
I'd say a lot.
I realized more than any of my coevals did;
I realized that there are no limits to our power of will.
I realized that there are no limits to men's power.
I realized that every little piece is so complicated to make.
I realized how world is complicated.
I realized my purpose.
I realized my dreams.
I realized my life!
(...)
谋 was never full of life and happy thoughts : ) but the last 12 months killed most of my positive intentions against my social circle and made me feel numb. and last december i came to a point, where i want to simply go away and start a new life and never see anyone i know ever again.
so i applied to a school in another country. wish me luck : )
My perspective of life is always changing, some say I am wishy washy, that I play both sides of the fence, I think I get enlightened. I have always been a ';Pollyanna'; Always looking for the silver lining. This year has been depressing full of regrets and angers. My basic philosophy of life is wait it will be over soon and you'll laugh about it.
I think my perspective has changed drastically in the last twelve months.
Now that this country has elected a biracial president, the first biracial president, that has definitely changed my perspective on how I feel about this country.
That's the biggest perspective-changing thing that has occured in the last year.
not by much
I think it has changed a little bit; I used to think society was going down the tubes; but after 9/11, hurricane Katrina, Rita, etc., I have seen how a nation can band together and bring aid so fast it will make your head spin.
I know we're not all too happy with FEMA right now after those catastrophes, but I'm talking about people in general; I have never seen such a concerted effort to help those devastated by various disasters. And we have kept that effort alive with other natural disasters that have happened. I'm absolutely amazed.
I hope this answers your question RW!
It has changed a bit....!
Some, not a lot
A little bit
It's the same
And why?
I would have to say mine has changed a lot and continues to change regularly. A lot has happened in the last 12 months, and it really opened my eyes to a lot of things.
That being said, how much has your perspective changed? What caused it to change for you?
Thank you everyone.How much has your perspective of life changed over the last 12 months?
A year ago, my philosophy for 2008 was ';I don't wanna grow up.'; I grew up more last year than most years. My philosophy circa 2009 is ';take it as it comes.';
Why are my philosophies always SONG LYRICS?
Thank you for making me think today. Great question!How much has your perspective of life changed over the last 12 months?
More than I can say. I used to think that love was a trivial thing, nothing to get worked up over. Almost a year ago though I fell in love, and it ended 7 months later. I never could have imagined how much it can hurt. So, I guess you could say im humbled, I used to be the man who laughed in the face of love.
A lot, but that is because I am in school learning and I am constantly applying things I learn to my home life. Also I have met some interesting people that have ';enlightened';me with their views, which is not to say that they have 'changed' me, but I have more of an open mind to different things. Oh yeah and since I have been on Ya! a lot more recently I have had to think a lot more. But hey why not keep tylenol in business?
we are goin down dude
My perspective has changed greatly ever since I started seriously studying Plato. I used to be firmly in the modern relativist school of philosophy, but now I'm much less convinced of their arguments, and much more open to ancient metaphysics and ethical claims.
My perspective has not wavered much. The things that happen around the world, whether they happened yesterday or ten years ago only reinforce what I already know. That man is infallible and has historically been more irrational than he has been reasonable.
I know that reality won't budge for the whims of man: unnatural politics, unreasonable ethics, undercutting the requirement of a sound epistemology, and evading the facts of reality.
Historically man qua mankind has evaded one simple truism that has caused more suffering than could ever be gaged. That is Aristotle's identity axiom: A is A. Such a simple truth but ostensibly to easy to grasp.
If they had the communication system that we have, back in the Dark Ages, imagine the historical reference that would come from that time. This last twelve months would seem like nothing by way of comparison. They didn't believe an A represented only an A back then either.
(I do, however, REALIZE that by implication alone my statement disqualifies my argument because such an Age could never achieve a communication system. I am waxing rhetorically, so my argument stands sound.)
I used to think everything was fine. Sure people were a little dumb but that was okay. For the most part, people were good and I could accept them.
Over the past 12 months, I tried to figure out where this ignorance from people came from. What I have found out has been shocking and appalling. I've found out more about the Patriot Act. I've found out more about the Iraq War. I've found out more about the economy. I've found out more about the elites try to keep people in the dark. I've found out more about how we have been brainwashed since we are young. I've found out about conformity. I've found out about how easy it is for the elites to get the desired response from the people. I've become more and more convinced that we are heading in the wrong direction.
I never knew I was so political. I have been so pleased that Obama came through the primaries - and THEN was actually elected - and THEN actually sworn in!
I think having a lying little dog in the White House - like Georgie Bush - was making me sick - physically sick. The treason, the wars and the endless lies
To now have a man leading the country who can ponder questions and make decisions is just amazing. With Bush and the other awful republicans for the past 30 years, you KNEW it was all just to feed the Super Rich.
And now the Super Rich have it all and we have a Depression. But at least we got Obama. And everyday is a pleasure to watch him reinvigorate things like the Freedom of Information Act.
And it's fun to hear the right wingers whine too - that's great - they hate Freedom!
I'd say a lot.
I realized more than any of my coevals did;
I realized that there are no limits to our power of will.
I realized that there are no limits to men's power.
I realized that every little piece is so complicated to make.
I realized how world is complicated.
I realized my purpose.
I realized my dreams.
I realized my life!
(...)
谋 was never full of life and happy thoughts : ) but the last 12 months killed most of my positive intentions against my social circle and made me feel numb. and last december i came to a point, where i want to simply go away and start a new life and never see anyone i know ever again.
so i applied to a school in another country. wish me luck : )
My perspective of life is always changing, some say I am wishy washy, that I play both sides of the fence, I think I get enlightened. I have always been a ';Pollyanna'; Always looking for the silver lining. This year has been depressing full of regrets and angers. My basic philosophy of life is wait it will be over soon and you'll laugh about it.
I think my perspective has changed drastically in the last twelve months.
Now that this country has elected a biracial president, the first biracial president, that has definitely changed my perspective on how I feel about this country.
That's the biggest perspective-changing thing that has occured in the last year.
not by much
I think it has changed a little bit; I used to think society was going down the tubes; but after 9/11, hurricane Katrina, Rita, etc., I have seen how a nation can band together and bring aid so fast it will make your head spin.
I know we're not all too happy with FEMA right now after those catastrophes, but I'm talking about people in general; I have never seen such a concerted effort to help those devastated by various disasters. And we have kept that effort alive with other natural disasters that have happened. I'm absolutely amazed.
I hope this answers your question RW!
It has changed a bit....!
Help! I never had a girlfriend but I am going to ask this girl out? What is it like? How will my life change?
I am 16 and have lots of friendsHelp! I never had a girlfriend but I am going to ask this girl out? What is it like? How will my life change?
it probably won't change a whole lot, she'll just be around more and you'll need to check in (via email, phone, IM...) with her a few times a week.Help! I never had a girlfriend but I am going to ask this girl out? What is it like? How will my life change?
Doesn't sound like you have a lot of friends... It's not that big a deal.. you're not like killing someone.new hair styles ask for at a nail salon
it probably won't change a whole lot, she'll just be around more and you'll need to check in (via email, phone, IM...) with her a few times a week.Help! I never had a girlfriend but I am going to ask this girl out? What is it like? How will my life change?
Doesn't sound like you have a lot of friends... It's not that big a deal.. you're not like killing someone.
How to change a throttle position sensor on a 2000 DODGE NEON?
My husband is on strike because he is going through some life changes... Therefore he is refusing to change my TPI sensor... Is it easy enough I can do it? I'm not real dumb and I help him with cars a lot... But I'm not even sure where that is located... Can anyone help?How to change a throttle position sensor on a 2000 DODGE NEON?
my best suggestion is to go to an autoparts store and buy a haynes repair manual for your car, it will talk you thru it step by step and even had pics for you to refer to.How to change a throttle position sensor on a 2000 DODGE NEON?
Locate the throttle body. Find the TPS mounted on the side of it. It either has2 or 3 screws holding it on. Replace and do not over tighten. Maybe your old man can point it out to ya. Good Luck!
my best suggestion is to go to an autoparts store and buy a haynes repair manual for your car, it will talk you thru it step by step and even had pics for you to refer to.How to change a throttle position sensor on a 2000 DODGE NEON?
Locate the throttle body. Find the TPS mounted on the side of it. It either has2 or 3 screws holding it on. Replace and do not over tighten. Maybe your old man can point it out to ya. Good Luck!
Artist- Stevo Song- Changed life?
Verse 1- Big Jim is hanging out in a club, drinking liquor and more, going to liquor stores. Busting down doors' starting up wars. Screaming out Lord, why did you deceive, why did you leave? This broken heart? Tear me apart. Leave me to depart. I say that I need a new heart. Forgive me for my denying ways. So He forgives me and He gives Jim higher days. He speaks so softly to me like a bowl of ice cream. Like double padded mattress. He is so crafty like a artist or a actress. Jim puts Him on top of his very best list! Not on his haft to do list. That would be where Jim's shampoo and conditioner would go. But with Him things are all new you know. So you know where He goes, He is the 1 in Jim's life, He gave Jim a life. Redeemed Jim's life. He is Christ! Because of Him Jim is living a changed life! Not a strange life. And this may be the height.
Chorus- Changed life- In Christ, not a strange life. Liveeeee your life. This is a changed life.
Verse 2- I love to say that everything is alright but Jim thinks that life is all about girls, partying and drinking. He not be thinking. That be like trying to do Algebra and that's like ha can't figure that out. Same with trying to figure him out what's he all about. Well shouting will only bring on a drought but the compassion of Christ could change his life. But war sneaks up on all in their hearts, we all sin true. But also we need to try not conform {ooooo} shoot almost forgot that} sike just kidding no I didn't. Almost gotcha didn't I. See we need to take our hands and raise them to the sky, take our hands and raise them to the sky. Tell the World how Jesus changed your life.
{Chorus, repeat 3 x-Artist- Stevo Song- Changed life?
My youth bless up!
Hey, so wats d riddim for your rap?Artist- Stevo Song- Changed life?
I think this is a country song but there's no pickup truck mentioned
Chorus- Changed life- In Christ, not a strange life. Liveeeee your life. This is a changed life.
Verse 2- I love to say that everything is alright but Jim thinks that life is all about girls, partying and drinking. He not be thinking. That be like trying to do Algebra and that's like ha can't figure that out. Same with trying to figure him out what's he all about. Well shouting will only bring on a drought but the compassion of Christ could change his life. But war sneaks up on all in their hearts, we all sin true. But also we need to try not conform {ooooo} shoot almost forgot that} sike just kidding no I didn't. Almost gotcha didn't I. See we need to take our hands and raise them to the sky, take our hands and raise them to the sky. Tell the World how Jesus changed your life.
{Chorus, repeat 3 x-Artist- Stevo Song- Changed life?
My youth bless up!
Hey, so wats d riddim for your rap?Artist- Stevo Song- Changed life?
I think this is a country song but there's no pickup truck mentioned
Has anyone who has 3 children, had a hard time deciding to have the 3rd, and how did it change your life?
I have a 6 1/2 and almost 3 year old boy, and thought I was done, but now all my friends are having 3rd children, how do you know if it is right for you?Has anyone who has 3 children, had a hard time deciding to have the 3rd, and how did it change your life?
You will just know...do not ever have another child 'just because' everyone else is.... that is not the reason to do it. I have no idea why we decided to have the third. But she is wonderful and gorgeous and incredibly bright... of course. I could not be happier. Pray about it...once you decide to have one or to not have one...you know then you will not regret your decision. My life was only changed for the better...even another child now could only change my life for the better. (but i am not in the market for another one) I hope this made sense - every child is a blessing...every child is a gift from God. But you need to know if that is what you are needing right now.Has anyone who has 3 children, had a hard time deciding to have the 3rd, and how did it change your life?
Every mother is different, my husband and i just decided to have a third child. Now that she has been conceived, our first girl, has changed our life in that we have more to love. How old are you other children? Are they ready for another baby, including them on the proses makes it alot more fun, and they'll feel more involved in the whole thing.
Katydid is right. Don't have a third child because someone else is. It may not be right for your family. Are you ready to be pregnant again or carry around all the things mother's with infants have to tote with them? If you and your spouse decide to have a third child, there seems to good spacing between your children. (That's always a plus). It's hard when you have two in diapers.
I have four boys and while it is challenging it's also a lot of fun. I've learned to juggle everything better than I thought I would. But please make sure it's what you and your partner wants. Don't do it because other's are.
You will just know...do not ever have another child 'just because' everyone else is.... that is not the reason to do it. I have no idea why we decided to have the third. But she is wonderful and gorgeous and incredibly bright... of course. I could not be happier. Pray about it...once you decide to have one or to not have one...you know then you will not regret your decision. My life was only changed for the better...even another child now could only change my life for the better. (but i am not in the market for another one) I hope this made sense - every child is a blessing...every child is a gift from God. But you need to know if that is what you are needing right now.Has anyone who has 3 children, had a hard time deciding to have the 3rd, and how did it change your life?
Every mother is different, my husband and i just decided to have a third child. Now that she has been conceived, our first girl, has changed our life in that we have more to love. How old are you other children? Are they ready for another baby, including them on the proses makes it alot more fun, and they'll feel more involved in the whole thing.
Katydid is right. Don't have a third child because someone else is. It may not be right for your family. Are you ready to be pregnant again or carry around all the things mother's with infants have to tote with them? If you and your spouse decide to have a third child, there seems to good spacing between your children. (That's always a plus). It's hard when you have two in diapers.
I have four boys and while it is challenging it's also a lot of fun. I've learned to juggle everything better than I thought I would. But please make sure it's what you and your partner wants. Don't do it because other's are.
How can i change my life? i need help please?
Ok honestly my life sucks
Im 5'4 210 pounds. I wear the same Nike hoody all day and been wearing it for 1 1/2 years. I have like no good close friends, i play a video game called World of Warcraft almost all day long. Im no good at any sport and ppl pick on me at school calling me fatty and big bird.
Really how can i change this around idk what to doHow can i change my life? i need help please?
First I think you should start with reading a self improvement book or something motivational. You have to start with the inside before you can change the outside. Also keep in mind that everybody has issues some people make themselves feel better by insulting others. Once you see them for who they are, that's one up for you. Its easy to say not to worry about it but harder to do. Something has to interest you! You mentioned a video game that you play. Why not start a blog about that game or take a walk around the block. In order to make change you have to do something different. If you are interested in losing weight check out some natural supplements. There is a website call the best diet pills and programs. They feature the acai berry supplement. This supplement is suppose to give you a make over inside. It will also give you energy which will change your attitude. Check it out! Great Luck!How can i change my life? i need help please?
Don't hide and be yourself. NO MATTER WHAT DON'T CHANGE YOURSELF! if you change then it will be really fake. if they don't like you then they weren't meant to like you. its okay a bunch of people at my school pick on me but i just walk away and i find new friends that love me for who i am, not who im trying to be! Good luck! the key is patience. remember there are friends out there for everyone just keep looking and you'll find someone! best of luck!
1. Dont make things worse, it means stop doing the video game stuff all day, limit it to 1 or 2 hours a day.
2. Do some sport, it will build up your confidence level. Start with a walk in the park, or some jogging. Anyone can do that.
3. Dont loose hope, things can change.. and it wont change in an instant, you must struggle to have it.
4. look at the bright side, stop caring about what they said, you are you! and i believe youre good at something, its just that maybe you havnt discover it yourself
5. Take healthy food, it will do impact on your body and the way you think
6. help others around you, and share a smile
:)
Im 5'4 210 pounds. I wear the same Nike hoody all day and been wearing it for 1 1/2 years. I have like no good close friends, i play a video game called World of Warcraft almost all day long. Im no good at any sport and ppl pick on me at school calling me fatty and big bird.
Really how can i change this around idk what to doHow can i change my life? i need help please?
First I think you should start with reading a self improvement book or something motivational. You have to start with the inside before you can change the outside. Also keep in mind that everybody has issues some people make themselves feel better by insulting others. Once you see them for who they are, that's one up for you. Its easy to say not to worry about it but harder to do. Something has to interest you! You mentioned a video game that you play. Why not start a blog about that game or take a walk around the block. In order to make change you have to do something different. If you are interested in losing weight check out some natural supplements. There is a website call the best diet pills and programs. They feature the acai berry supplement. This supplement is suppose to give you a make over inside. It will also give you energy which will change your attitude. Check it out! Great Luck!How can i change my life? i need help please?
Don't hide and be yourself. NO MATTER WHAT DON'T CHANGE YOURSELF! if you change then it will be really fake. if they don't like you then they weren't meant to like you. its okay a bunch of people at my school pick on me but i just walk away and i find new friends that love me for who i am, not who im trying to be! Good luck! the key is patience. remember there are friends out there for everyone just keep looking and you'll find someone! best of luck!
1. Dont make things worse, it means stop doing the video game stuff all day, limit it to 1 or 2 hours a day.
2. Do some sport, it will build up your confidence level. Start with a walk in the park, or some jogging. Anyone can do that.
3. Dont loose hope, things can change.. and it wont change in an instant, you must struggle to have it.
4. look at the bright side, stop caring about what they said, you are you! and i believe youre good at something, its just that maybe you havnt discover it yourself
5. Take healthy food, it will do impact on your body and the way you think
6. help others around you, and share a smile
:)
I need to make a life change as far as my weight, I have tried all the fads and know now?
that I just need to do diet and exercise, but I can't stick with it...anyone else gone through a massive weight loss, if so how did you jump start your path and stick to it!?I need to make a life change as far as my weight, I have tried all the fads and know now?
I do weight watchers online, so no need to go to hideous meetings.
I've lost 3 Stone so far and it has taken around 3 months.
I think that the key is realizing that you don't just need to diet, but need to change the way you eat for good.
This means that the slow speed of weight loss doesn't matter, because you know you will be eating less forever anyway. In fact it is good because it gives you less saggy skin afterwards.
Also the fact it isn't very restrictive helps you to stick to it long term, there is no quick fix, and starving yourself is counterproductive.
The other good thing is that when you enter your weight you can enter a comment too, so you can look at the graph of your progress and understand why there are any peaks and really see the effect if you fall off the wagon.
If you have someone to do it with this also helps as it gives you someone to talk to, if necessary, and some people do find the meetings help them stay on track, though they're not for me.
Good Luck.I need to make a life change as far as my weight, I have tried all the fads and know now?
I have really been enjoying the wii fit. it is fun when you get going and encourages healthy habits.... really if you are going to loose weight and keep it off thats what it boils down to.... change your habits.
The biggest reason people fail is that they do not have the proper mindset. They never really believed they could do it anyway and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So mental attitude is #1!!! Number two is nutrition and number three is a full body resistance workout to rreduce your body fat percentage. I learned all about it here http://get-ripped-abs-here.blogspot.com/
Try buying some of Jillian's books. From the Biggest Loser? Great stuff.Do puppies lose their jacking off bad for your health
I do weight watchers online, so no need to go to hideous meetings.
I've lost 3 Stone so far and it has taken around 3 months.
I think that the key is realizing that you don't just need to diet, but need to change the way you eat for good.
This means that the slow speed of weight loss doesn't matter, because you know you will be eating less forever anyway. In fact it is good because it gives you less saggy skin afterwards.
Also the fact it isn't very restrictive helps you to stick to it long term, there is no quick fix, and starving yourself is counterproductive.
The other good thing is that when you enter your weight you can enter a comment too, so you can look at the graph of your progress and understand why there are any peaks and really see the effect if you fall off the wagon.
If you have someone to do it with this also helps as it gives you someone to talk to, if necessary, and some people do find the meetings help them stay on track, though they're not for me.
Good Luck.I need to make a life change as far as my weight, I have tried all the fads and know now?
I have really been enjoying the wii fit. it is fun when you get going and encourages healthy habits.... really if you are going to loose weight and keep it off thats what it boils down to.... change your habits.
The biggest reason people fail is that they do not have the proper mindset. They never really believed they could do it anyway and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So mental attitude is #1!!! Number two is nutrition and number three is a full body resistance workout to rreduce your body fat percentage. I learned all about it here http://get-ripped-abs-here.blogspot.com/
Try buying some of Jillian's books. From the Biggest Loser? Great stuff.
Name 3 life changing situations that you have been through and how did it change your life?
Mine would be:
1. Hurricane Katrina- Im from New Olreans and i lost everything in that storm. I understand the importance of life and how you shouldnt cherish material things.
2. When i got a divorce- I didnt know i was such a bad wife until my ex finally open his mouth and my eyes. I think about other feelings before i do things.
3. When i moved out the housing project- I didnt know that the world had so much to offer. I was stuck in that situation without a choice. From that day forward i wanted to make sure my life had meaning.Name 3 life changing situations that you have been through and how did it change your life?
1. surviving sexual abuse. it took me too many years to realize its not who i am but what made me into who i am today.
2. my parents divorce crumbled every perception of what i thought life was about. it made my beliefs change about so many things, but i still believe.
3. having my own family has made me realize that having a family carries a lot of responsibility. you aren't ever perfect and that raising children is the hardest/most important job i'll ever have. it made me realize my parents were just human.Name 3 life changing situations that you have been through and how did it change your life?
1. Losing my little brother. I honeslty didn't think that could happen to my family, now I live my life in constant paranoia thinking that one day I could lose a child.
2. Having a child.... for obvious reasons, they take everything and give nothing, but you love them anyway
3. Getting married and divorced ......Realized how much I cannot stand living in the same household as another person in that respect (he thought he controlled everything)
When I farted and crap came out.
When I farted in church recieving communion.
When I lit my fart on fire and all my a s s hair burned off.
1. Over the last 7 years I have lost about 30 people close to me. ~ All of these deaths have shown me that no matter what time, what age, how successful or not, whether you're ready or not it can happen to anyone so cherish life while you are here experiencing it.
2. Moving away from mom in November 2006 ~ Although my mom and I were always close moving away from her showed me a new perspective of her being my mom.. she wasnt there everday to fix all my problems... instead she was 3.5 hours away. It taught me to appreciate her and the situations that she went through trying to raise me %26amp; my brother!
3. Starting College to become a medical assistant ~ I work full time during the day %26amp; I go to college at night... my weeks are exhausting and sometimes I feel like I wanna give up... however I am not just an adult who goes to work to pay the bills anymore... now I am an adult who goes to work to pay the bills and who is a student at night struggling to make ends meet. I've learned to appreciate all the hardworking people in life that have nothing and build something out of scraps. :-)
to much to tell, gone and forgotten''
I'm only 24, but I've had a lot of life experience in such a short time...
1. College. I was the first person to go to college in my family and graduate. I didn't have anyone else in my family to look at as a role model that had already been in college. I had to figure everything out for myself.
2. Coming out of the closet at age 20 as a gay man.
3. Selling everything I own to move to NYC to start a new life.
1. Hurricane Katrina- Im from New Olreans and i lost everything in that storm. I understand the importance of life and how you shouldnt cherish material things.
2. When i got a divorce- I didnt know i was such a bad wife until my ex finally open his mouth and my eyes. I think about other feelings before i do things.
3. When i moved out the housing project- I didnt know that the world had so much to offer. I was stuck in that situation without a choice. From that day forward i wanted to make sure my life had meaning.Name 3 life changing situations that you have been through and how did it change your life?
1. surviving sexual abuse. it took me too many years to realize its not who i am but what made me into who i am today.
2. my parents divorce crumbled every perception of what i thought life was about. it made my beliefs change about so many things, but i still believe.
3. having my own family has made me realize that having a family carries a lot of responsibility. you aren't ever perfect and that raising children is the hardest/most important job i'll ever have. it made me realize my parents were just human.Name 3 life changing situations that you have been through and how did it change your life?
1. Losing my little brother. I honeslty didn't think that could happen to my family, now I live my life in constant paranoia thinking that one day I could lose a child.
2. Having a child.... for obvious reasons, they take everything and give nothing, but you love them anyway
3. Getting married and divorced ......Realized how much I cannot stand living in the same household as another person in that respect (he thought he controlled everything)
When I farted and crap came out.
When I farted in church recieving communion.
When I lit my fart on fire and all my a s s hair burned off.
1. Over the last 7 years I have lost about 30 people close to me. ~ All of these deaths have shown me that no matter what time, what age, how successful or not, whether you're ready or not it can happen to anyone so cherish life while you are here experiencing it.
2. Moving away from mom in November 2006 ~ Although my mom and I were always close moving away from her showed me a new perspective of her being my mom.. she wasnt there everday to fix all my problems... instead she was 3.5 hours away. It taught me to appreciate her and the situations that she went through trying to raise me %26amp; my brother!
3. Starting College to become a medical assistant ~ I work full time during the day %26amp; I go to college at night... my weeks are exhausting and sometimes I feel like I wanna give up... however I am not just an adult who goes to work to pay the bills anymore... now I am an adult who goes to work to pay the bills and who is a student at night struggling to make ends meet. I've learned to appreciate all the hardworking people in life that have nothing and build something out of scraps. :-)
to much to tell, gone and forgotten''
I'm only 24, but I've had a lot of life experience in such a short time...
1. College. I was the first person to go to college in my family and graduate. I didn't have anyone else in my family to look at as a role model that had already been in college. I had to figure everything out for myself.
2. Coming out of the closet at age 20 as a gay man.
3. Selling everything I own to move to NYC to start a new life.
How do you overcome the feeling your life is over?
I am 52 and have had a successful life. I have a devoted wife and two brilliant sons. In 2004, I lost my job of 17 years. I have money so it was not a financial disaster...but rather an emotional one. It took a year before finding another job making a fraction of what I did before. Gradually I have begun to feel like my life is over. I done care much for anything anymore. I am not angry. I am not depressed (I'm seeing a shrink). Nothing much matters.
I have gained a large amount of weight since 2004 but have no desire to change it. I am very involved in church and enjoy going but It seems that I am on the train of life and it is coming in for the last stop. When the doors open I will get off unless something in my life changes. Any suggestions?How do you overcome the feeling your life is over?
In life you call work a setback, i believe you probably feel that the best years are over, and what you are going to be, you have already been. I think it sounds like you are just ready to hang out. The problem was you just stressed out after you lost your job. Did you take a vacation? Maybe you now understand that working at a company isnt right for you. Ever thought of doing something different? Open a business? I dont know.
Look at it like this, you have one life, and right now this part may suck but only because you want it like that. You have to want to change. I recommend you stop wasting your money on a shrink, and just apply some reasoning. Look do you want to go down that road and be the dad who burnt out, or do you want to continue to climb the ladder of success? So you lost your job, what was that company doing? Could you do that on your own and do it cheaper then they can? Thats called business, start one, you only have one life and maybe that will make you happy.
If thats not it then do what you have always wanted to do, and take time to find yourself, dont go to church just concentrate on what you want. Your 50 years old, but they say people live to 80 now. Imagine all the stuff you did till you were 30? Lots of experiences, and now you have about that much time left, so there is still time to build an empire, or go after what you really want in life. You have to want it. Its not like you get a second chance at life, so why waste it?
kentucky friend chicken was started by old col. sanders at the age of 62, he had a recipe and a dream, he was actually dinied over 1000 times before someone finally said they would buy it.
Look at Lance Armstrong, he has a 50% survival rate from testicular cancer, he beat it and went back to win the tour de france, a few times. Even after his sponsor dumped him.
You got to realize whats important in life for you and go that way.How do you overcome the feeling your life is over?
Go back to work, Do something that makes you feel fufilled.
You need to do something that makes you happy everyday. Whether it is a small thing like getting your hair done or a big thing like a trip to Europe. What have you always wanted to do?? Go do it! Quit that crappy job and get one that you like, don't settle for one you don't no matter the pay. Maybe start your own business like a travel agency or something. Go on a grand trip somewhere exotic, take a friend or look into a tour group of others in your situation. There are probably tons of people in your spot wishing to make friends. You could find a real friend in one of these groups. There are groups for singles or groups for only women or groups for simply lone travel partners. they aren't all necessarily hook-up groups, sometimes they truly are just single (as in individual) travelers. You have alot of years left in you no need to give up now!
This may sound trite, but one way to deal with those feelings is to just accept them, say ';So. That was my life. Some good, some bad, nothing special, but that makes me no different than thousands and thousands of others whose lives lived themselves out. Oh well.';. Then realize that's really not so bad. Plus, once you've accepted that, and your life isn't over yet, you have the freedom to do anything you want! There are many things you always wanted to do but couldn't for one reason or another; some of them are things you can't do at 52, but some of them you could do if you were 72!
Live your life like the samurai, as if it were already over, and you can put all your heart into whatever you do, because you have nothing to lose. And you should probably drop the church. Church just makes people feel bad...
See your therapist and if they so happen to suggest medication than take it. Sometimes you brain just doesn't function as it should and you'll have no motavation. It could be caused by so many disorders, ADD, Bipolar disorder, and even a medical one, hypothyroidism. If you lack motivation then something is wrong with your reward system. Do something that is rewarding mentally, just force yourself to start exercising, it is so wonderful of a solution to many problems.
I'm in the same place you are, but single never married, a few years younger, and I am a financial disaster, so I can't give you any advice from personal experience, LOL.
Advice columnists of the past (you know, the twins), would say ';start something new.'; They'd give a list of activities and hobbies to give a shot, and tell you to be enthusiastic. At the top of their list would be:
Volunteer to be a tutor. Help a junior high student with math. Help an elementary school student with reading. Get satisfaction at seeing your students progress to where they don't need you any more -- then start helping someone else.
Then they'd add:
Write me again and let me know how things turned out. I care.
==
Me? I have a vegetable garden. Can't step off the train if I need to water the darn things every day, now can I.
I can tell you from experience (I worked since I was 11 years old...very independent..every summer after school..for a lawyer and then for the government) that when I lost my job due to downsizing I was devestated..not only was I one of their best employees but I felt that none of it mattered to anyone because government was basically corrupt and the only ones who survived till the end when it all privatized were the *** kissers and crooks.
Anyhow, for years I lost my sense of identity. I had always been independent and now here I was with a family, no income and it was quite an emotional rollercoaster for me.
Here I sit 10 years later (at 46) and I work part time from home and make enough to help pay the bills...our house was long paid for (I owned my house before I met hubby) so really we just need to get by now.
I am able to volunteer and do the things I love. I don't get paid for it, but I get to pick and choose what I do with my life and with my time.
I'm sure that once you realize that what you did at your job did not and never will define who you are as a person, you will start to discover that the world is a very magnificent place and you have all the time at your disposal to make good use of it. People would die to be in your position. Invest your money wisely, find something you really love to do and who cares about the pay...it's not all about the pay...downsize if you need to and put your money away in RRSPs...check out the seniors clubs (hey I play with the seniors all the time they are amazing and have a lot of fun!) and travel, take day trips, re-discover yourself.
It doesn't have to be all doom and gloom. Many people have to deal with thier lives being ';over'; but really it's never over...look at it as evolving into another dimension...life was good for a while, but everything changes,and that doesnt mean it cant be good again, even better too. Find a hobby, play a lot...and along the way life will unfold and new opportunities will present themselves to you.
And dont forget that wonderful family you have...they are fairly grown I'm sure and will bring you much joy and happiness and you and your wife should really depend on one another and re-discover yourselves and go out for long walks...who cares what you do...tomorrow you could be dead so what does it all matter....just live and be happy. That is all we can do with our lives in this world...and make those around you happy...it will bring you more joy than you can imagine. The only validation you need is to know you are loved and you know you are.
I am sorry but at the age of 48 I feel the same way. Mainly for the same reason only I had been at my job for only 8 years. It really is hard to climb back in the saddle again. The world has changed so much that I am not so sure that I changed with it. Things were so much easier when I first started working. Now you almost have to have a college degree for anyone that pays a fairly good salary to even consider hiring you. If you have the time how about volunteering some where. I am sorry that I could not be of much help to you, but like I said I really am in the same boat. A boat that is sinking faster than I can bail the water out. I guess we both need to remember that even the longest journey starts with the first step so just keep trying.
Hi, I am 46 and lost my job in 2003. I am telling you this so that you will understand that I relate and don't just have an opinion I pulled out of the air.
I don't know where you got the idea that you are not depressed, as you have listed classic depression symptoms. You may not be what is called ';clinically depressed';, but you are most assuredly ';situationally depressed';.
Having said that, here is the really hard part. Only YOU can change your situation (thinking). There are many steps you can take. You say you enjoy Church, what is it that you enjoy? Try to replicate that outside of church. If it is the reading of scripture, then read scripture outside of church. Is it the music? Then listen to uplifting music outside of church. Are you following my meaning here...do the same things outside of church that you do inside that makes you feel better.
Depression is anger turned inwards, and you know what, after 3 years I am still angry about being let go. But it is getting better. Try writing a letter to the people involved in the decision, and even those you feel didn't stop it. Say whatever you need to say. (you can do this more than once) then get a shoebox, tape it up, put a slot in it and ';mail'; these letters to God.
Before going to bed at night, make a list of 10 things you are grateful for.
I know some of these things sound hokey, but they will work. Drastic times require drastic measures.
I have many more, PLEASE, feel free to email me, if you need more suggestions or just need to talk about how you are feeling. In the meantime, I will say a prayer for you.
Remember, feelings are just feelings, they are transitional so don't act out on the negative ones. We have a lot of power over our feelings, we can change them, by learning to think differently.
Best wishes
Your life isn't over. You just don't have anything right now that you feel extremely passionate about. If you go walking it will give your mind a little freedom to think about whatever comes to mind. It sounds like you were very passionate about the work you were doing before. If you had this passion for the entire 17 years it's understandable that now that the job is gone the passion is too. You are going thru a period of readjustment right now but one thing you need to realize is that some people live their whole life and never find something that they can feel passion for in that way. So feel blessed that you have had that experience. It might take a while but if you keep your eyes open you will find it again. Try to think back to when you were younger about things that you enjoyed doing then and see if you might get some satisfaction from doing those things now. It's about finding a new passion. It's not about finding another job making the same amount you were making before. Your new passion might make you more money than the old one did so don't think too much about that unless you are hurting financially.
On another note you say you feel like nothing really matters. That's just called a bad attitude. The fact is that everything matters and you probably have a lot of people counting on you. You just don't realize it. Things aren't always the way they seem. God Bless.
Been there done that. Your train seems to be heading to depressionville. You want to feel better and have a more positive outlook on things, read my post here:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
You say you are not depressed--yet what you describe are classic signs of depression. You are mourning the loss of your past life. It makes you depressed. I'm glad you are seeing a shrink--He/She can help you move on. Good luck to you!
check that feeling against the evidence. Is your life in FACT over? Do you have work that you can do? Do your children still need you? Does your wife still need you? Does your church family still need you? If you aren't sure, ask each entity I listed above and take their answers verbatim. Don't interpret them.
If you can answer yes to these questions (or get yes replies from those you ask), then your life is in fact not over, but your mind is tricking you into thinking that it is. You then need to find out why your mind is tricking you in such a way. In the mean time, serve other people as much as possible.
I have gained a large amount of weight since 2004 but have no desire to change it. I am very involved in church and enjoy going but It seems that I am on the train of life and it is coming in for the last stop. When the doors open I will get off unless something in my life changes. Any suggestions?How do you overcome the feeling your life is over?
In life you call work a setback, i believe you probably feel that the best years are over, and what you are going to be, you have already been. I think it sounds like you are just ready to hang out. The problem was you just stressed out after you lost your job. Did you take a vacation? Maybe you now understand that working at a company isnt right for you. Ever thought of doing something different? Open a business? I dont know.
Look at it like this, you have one life, and right now this part may suck but only because you want it like that. You have to want to change. I recommend you stop wasting your money on a shrink, and just apply some reasoning. Look do you want to go down that road and be the dad who burnt out, or do you want to continue to climb the ladder of success? So you lost your job, what was that company doing? Could you do that on your own and do it cheaper then they can? Thats called business, start one, you only have one life and maybe that will make you happy.
If thats not it then do what you have always wanted to do, and take time to find yourself, dont go to church just concentrate on what you want. Your 50 years old, but they say people live to 80 now. Imagine all the stuff you did till you were 30? Lots of experiences, and now you have about that much time left, so there is still time to build an empire, or go after what you really want in life. You have to want it. Its not like you get a second chance at life, so why waste it?
kentucky friend chicken was started by old col. sanders at the age of 62, he had a recipe and a dream, he was actually dinied over 1000 times before someone finally said they would buy it.
Look at Lance Armstrong, he has a 50% survival rate from testicular cancer, he beat it and went back to win the tour de france, a few times. Even after his sponsor dumped him.
You got to realize whats important in life for you and go that way.How do you overcome the feeling your life is over?
Go back to work, Do something that makes you feel fufilled.
You need to do something that makes you happy everyday. Whether it is a small thing like getting your hair done or a big thing like a trip to Europe. What have you always wanted to do?? Go do it! Quit that crappy job and get one that you like, don't settle for one you don't no matter the pay. Maybe start your own business like a travel agency or something. Go on a grand trip somewhere exotic, take a friend or look into a tour group of others in your situation. There are probably tons of people in your spot wishing to make friends. You could find a real friend in one of these groups. There are groups for singles or groups for only women or groups for simply lone travel partners. they aren't all necessarily hook-up groups, sometimes they truly are just single (as in individual) travelers. You have alot of years left in you no need to give up now!
This may sound trite, but one way to deal with those feelings is to just accept them, say ';So. That was my life. Some good, some bad, nothing special, but that makes me no different than thousands and thousands of others whose lives lived themselves out. Oh well.';. Then realize that's really not so bad. Plus, once you've accepted that, and your life isn't over yet, you have the freedom to do anything you want! There are many things you always wanted to do but couldn't for one reason or another; some of them are things you can't do at 52, but some of them you could do if you were 72!
Live your life like the samurai, as if it were already over, and you can put all your heart into whatever you do, because you have nothing to lose. And you should probably drop the church. Church just makes people feel bad...
See your therapist and if they so happen to suggest medication than take it. Sometimes you brain just doesn't function as it should and you'll have no motavation. It could be caused by so many disorders, ADD, Bipolar disorder, and even a medical one, hypothyroidism. If you lack motivation then something is wrong with your reward system. Do something that is rewarding mentally, just force yourself to start exercising, it is so wonderful of a solution to many problems.
I'm in the same place you are, but single never married, a few years younger, and I am a financial disaster, so I can't give you any advice from personal experience, LOL.
Advice columnists of the past (you know, the twins), would say ';start something new.'; They'd give a list of activities and hobbies to give a shot, and tell you to be enthusiastic. At the top of their list would be:
Volunteer to be a tutor. Help a junior high student with math. Help an elementary school student with reading. Get satisfaction at seeing your students progress to where they don't need you any more -- then start helping someone else.
Then they'd add:
Write me again and let me know how things turned out. I care.
==
Me? I have a vegetable garden. Can't step off the train if I need to water the darn things every day, now can I.
I can tell you from experience (I worked since I was 11 years old...very independent..every summer after school..for a lawyer and then for the government) that when I lost my job due to downsizing I was devestated..not only was I one of their best employees but I felt that none of it mattered to anyone because government was basically corrupt and the only ones who survived till the end when it all privatized were the *** kissers and crooks.
Anyhow, for years I lost my sense of identity. I had always been independent and now here I was with a family, no income and it was quite an emotional rollercoaster for me.
Here I sit 10 years later (at 46) and I work part time from home and make enough to help pay the bills...our house was long paid for (I owned my house before I met hubby) so really we just need to get by now.
I am able to volunteer and do the things I love. I don't get paid for it, but I get to pick and choose what I do with my life and with my time.
I'm sure that once you realize that what you did at your job did not and never will define who you are as a person, you will start to discover that the world is a very magnificent place and you have all the time at your disposal to make good use of it. People would die to be in your position. Invest your money wisely, find something you really love to do and who cares about the pay...it's not all about the pay...downsize if you need to and put your money away in RRSPs...check out the seniors clubs (hey I play with the seniors all the time they are amazing and have a lot of fun!) and travel, take day trips, re-discover yourself.
It doesn't have to be all doom and gloom. Many people have to deal with thier lives being ';over'; but really it's never over...look at it as evolving into another dimension...life was good for a while, but everything changes,and that doesnt mean it cant be good again, even better too. Find a hobby, play a lot...and along the way life will unfold and new opportunities will present themselves to you.
And dont forget that wonderful family you have...they are fairly grown I'm sure and will bring you much joy and happiness and you and your wife should really depend on one another and re-discover yourselves and go out for long walks...who cares what you do...tomorrow you could be dead so what does it all matter....just live and be happy. That is all we can do with our lives in this world...and make those around you happy...it will bring you more joy than you can imagine. The only validation you need is to know you are loved and you know you are.
I am sorry but at the age of 48 I feel the same way. Mainly for the same reason only I had been at my job for only 8 years. It really is hard to climb back in the saddle again. The world has changed so much that I am not so sure that I changed with it. Things were so much easier when I first started working. Now you almost have to have a college degree for anyone that pays a fairly good salary to even consider hiring you. If you have the time how about volunteering some where. I am sorry that I could not be of much help to you, but like I said I really am in the same boat. A boat that is sinking faster than I can bail the water out. I guess we both need to remember that even the longest journey starts with the first step so just keep trying.
Hi, I am 46 and lost my job in 2003. I am telling you this so that you will understand that I relate and don't just have an opinion I pulled out of the air.
I don't know where you got the idea that you are not depressed, as you have listed classic depression symptoms. You may not be what is called ';clinically depressed';, but you are most assuredly ';situationally depressed';.
Having said that, here is the really hard part. Only YOU can change your situation (thinking). There are many steps you can take. You say you enjoy Church, what is it that you enjoy? Try to replicate that outside of church. If it is the reading of scripture, then read scripture outside of church. Is it the music? Then listen to uplifting music outside of church. Are you following my meaning here...do the same things outside of church that you do inside that makes you feel better.
Depression is anger turned inwards, and you know what, after 3 years I am still angry about being let go. But it is getting better. Try writing a letter to the people involved in the decision, and even those you feel didn't stop it. Say whatever you need to say. (you can do this more than once) then get a shoebox, tape it up, put a slot in it and ';mail'; these letters to God.
Before going to bed at night, make a list of 10 things you are grateful for.
I know some of these things sound hokey, but they will work. Drastic times require drastic measures.
I have many more, PLEASE, feel free to email me, if you need more suggestions or just need to talk about how you are feeling. In the meantime, I will say a prayer for you.
Remember, feelings are just feelings, they are transitional so don't act out on the negative ones. We have a lot of power over our feelings, we can change them, by learning to think differently.
Best wishes
Your life isn't over. You just don't have anything right now that you feel extremely passionate about. If you go walking it will give your mind a little freedom to think about whatever comes to mind. It sounds like you were very passionate about the work you were doing before. If you had this passion for the entire 17 years it's understandable that now that the job is gone the passion is too. You are going thru a period of readjustment right now but one thing you need to realize is that some people live their whole life and never find something that they can feel passion for in that way. So feel blessed that you have had that experience. It might take a while but if you keep your eyes open you will find it again. Try to think back to when you were younger about things that you enjoyed doing then and see if you might get some satisfaction from doing those things now. It's about finding a new passion. It's not about finding another job making the same amount you were making before. Your new passion might make you more money than the old one did so don't think too much about that unless you are hurting financially.
On another note you say you feel like nothing really matters. That's just called a bad attitude. The fact is that everything matters and you probably have a lot of people counting on you. You just don't realize it. Things aren't always the way they seem. God Bless.
Been there done that. Your train seems to be heading to depressionville. You want to feel better and have a more positive outlook on things, read my post here:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
You say you are not depressed--yet what you describe are classic signs of depression. You are mourning the loss of your past life. It makes you depressed. I'm glad you are seeing a shrink--He/She can help you move on. Good luck to you!
check that feeling against the evidence. Is your life in FACT over? Do you have work that you can do? Do your children still need you? Does your wife still need you? Does your church family still need you? If you aren't sure, ask each entity I listed above and take their answers verbatim. Don't interpret them.
If you can answer yes to these questions (or get yes replies from those you ask), then your life is in fact not over, but your mind is tricking you into thinking that it is. You then need to find out why your mind is tricking you in such a way. In the mean time, serve other people as much as possible.
Atheists: if the god(s) exist would it change your life at all?
I mean would you be my prone to believing in miracles, religious texts, or reconsidering your view on morality and how to live life?Atheists: if the god(s) exist would it change your life at all?
IF undeniable proof (no, the bible doesn't count. no, 'look at the world around you' doesn't count. no, the second law of thermodynamics does not apply) shows it's head, atheism would cease to exist (at least logically). Atheism is the idea that no god exists.
At that point being an atheist would make as much sense as claiming that George Bush doesn't exist.
However, proof has not arrived.Atheists: if the god(s) exist would it change your life at all?
Show me proof.
naa i would just keep going as i'm going - seems to be working well for me. :)
If it was any of the ones people believe in right now, hell no. I would have no respect for any of them.
what fishball said
not even remotely.
Religion is about believing. If god was proven, then there would be no reason to belief and it would defeat the purpose of Christianity. People have to make the choice of faith, not be forced upon it.
Nope. I'm already doing the best I can.
Nope, I'd just know they were there. I tend to agree with the Norse ideas about gods...
If they exist, it's probably better to just keep your distance and let them do godly stuff...
-SD-
Yes, it would if you could prove it.
no, i live my life fine as it is.
i don't need fear to keep me behaving. unlike some people.
which is actually quite scary, that some people only ';behave'; because they fear a god. what would they do if god was proven false?
If verifiable evidence was produced to show that a God exists, then it would make sense to make the lifestyle changes required to follow that God's doctrine.
It is statistically very unlikely that a god does exist however, so I highly doubt that evidence for the existence of a god will ever come about.
No. My morality is just fine the way it is. I don't need a religion to teach me right and wrong. Common sense does just fine. There are no such things as miracles, only natural phenomena not yet known or understood.
If I could leap tall buildings in a single bound, I might think Superman could be a documentary.
';If';.
It would make me admit that they are real entities but there are deities that I would not worship, so the chances of it changing my life are minimal.
I already live well and am an ethical and moral person... why do I need a religion and deity for that?
I'd be waiting for the plagues, pesitilence, wars, and diseases he would start like in the bible to teach all those people he loves a lesson... What a great dude, then I'd find me some sheep and slay him up some bloody lambchops and give that vampire the blood sacrifice he wants.
I bet bunch of people would start converting to Christian in order to please God and avoid going to Hell.
No, it would not.
Because even if irrefutable evidence came along that a deity really DID exist and that he/she/it/they created, I would most definitely not worship them if they would let their creation get into this kind of mess, no matter what their reasons were. When parents let their children become alcoholics, no one worships that parent; no one praises them for allowing their child to use and abuse their free will. The same logic would apply to that god/s.
No, it wouldn't because I would always be my own 'god'.
no
you mean if the man who is Responsible of all this Misery in the world
exists .hell no
I just read the answers. For most it has little to do with proving or disproving anything. They simply refuse God and will die in their sins.
if god does exist id want him to come down
because id have a hundred questions to ask him
and im very happy with my morality thankyou
i dont need religion to tell me right from wrong
and i already know how to live life
No. Well, possibly. But I don;t think it could ever change our lives as much as God(s) changes the lives of it's current followers, among the different religions.
I might not believe in God(s), but I think that I am a spiritual person. And I realize that with faith, many religious people have a spiritual connection with God(s) that can only come with their faith. I would not experience that (I can;t say for sure) if God(s) was simply to be proven. Of course, I assume that you mean that this is the scenario that he was proven to exist, and not in the case he is revealed specifically to me.
As for miracles. I am a materialist. Which means I do not believe that God(s) would simply be able to make thinks happen. That does not mean she could create things that are miraculous. Even such things as virgin birth (seen in many religions) could technically be made possible without the use of the non-material.
As for religious texts. That depends on soo many things. I mean, they are used even today for historical purposes. But, I would simply default to skepticism. And, beyond all, I remain a materialist.
Mortality, I don;t even know the answer to that without God(s).
How I lived my life would depend on who the God(s) were.
Yes please tell me how to live MY life.....on second thoughts, feck off and get on with your own pathetic existence - and learn some English.
Hi !
I can see how the other answers to this question are stubborn , but if there was proof of God , then everyone would either change their ways immediately , or find a way to disprove the proof.
I know I would pray everyday.
yes they would go to hell.
IF undeniable proof (no, the bible doesn't count. no, 'look at the world around you' doesn't count. no, the second law of thermodynamics does not apply) shows it's head, atheism would cease to exist (at least logically). Atheism is the idea that no god exists.
At that point being an atheist would make as much sense as claiming that George Bush doesn't exist.
However, proof has not arrived.Atheists: if the god(s) exist would it change your life at all?
Show me proof.
naa i would just keep going as i'm going - seems to be working well for me. :)
If it was any of the ones people believe in right now, hell no. I would have no respect for any of them.
what fishball said
not even remotely.
Religion is about believing. If god was proven, then there would be no reason to belief and it would defeat the purpose of Christianity. People have to make the choice of faith, not be forced upon it.
Nope. I'm already doing the best I can.
Nope, I'd just know they were there. I tend to agree with the Norse ideas about gods...
If they exist, it's probably better to just keep your distance and let them do godly stuff...
-SD-
Yes, it would if you could prove it.
no, i live my life fine as it is.
i don't need fear to keep me behaving. unlike some people.
which is actually quite scary, that some people only ';behave'; because they fear a god. what would they do if god was proven false?
If verifiable evidence was produced to show that a God exists, then it would make sense to make the lifestyle changes required to follow that God's doctrine.
It is statistically very unlikely that a god does exist however, so I highly doubt that evidence for the existence of a god will ever come about.
No. My morality is just fine the way it is. I don't need a religion to teach me right and wrong. Common sense does just fine. There are no such things as miracles, only natural phenomena not yet known or understood.
If I could leap tall buildings in a single bound, I might think Superman could be a documentary.
';If';.
It would make me admit that they are real entities but there are deities that I would not worship, so the chances of it changing my life are minimal.
I already live well and am an ethical and moral person... why do I need a religion and deity for that?
I'd be waiting for the plagues, pesitilence, wars, and diseases he would start like in the bible to teach all those people he loves a lesson... What a great dude, then I'd find me some sheep and slay him up some bloody lambchops and give that vampire the blood sacrifice he wants.
I bet bunch of people would start converting to Christian in order to please God and avoid going to Hell.
No, it would not.
Because even if irrefutable evidence came along that a deity really DID exist and that he/she/it/they created, I would most definitely not worship them if they would let their creation get into this kind of mess, no matter what their reasons were. When parents let their children become alcoholics, no one worships that parent; no one praises them for allowing their child to use and abuse their free will. The same logic would apply to that god/s.
No, it wouldn't because I would always be my own 'god'.
no
you mean if the man who is Responsible of all this Misery in the world
exists .hell no
I just read the answers. For most it has little to do with proving or disproving anything. They simply refuse God and will die in their sins.
if god does exist id want him to come down
because id have a hundred questions to ask him
and im very happy with my morality thankyou
i dont need religion to tell me right from wrong
and i already know how to live life
No. Well, possibly. But I don;t think it could ever change our lives as much as God(s) changes the lives of it's current followers, among the different religions.
I might not believe in God(s), but I think that I am a spiritual person. And I realize that with faith, many religious people have a spiritual connection with God(s) that can only come with their faith. I would not experience that (I can;t say for sure) if God(s) was simply to be proven. Of course, I assume that you mean that this is the scenario that he was proven to exist, and not in the case he is revealed specifically to me.
As for miracles. I am a materialist. Which means I do not believe that God(s) would simply be able to make thinks happen. That does not mean she could create things that are miraculous. Even such things as virgin birth (seen in many religions) could technically be made possible without the use of the non-material.
As for religious texts. That depends on soo many things. I mean, they are used even today for historical purposes. But, I would simply default to skepticism. And, beyond all, I remain a materialist.
Mortality, I don;t even know the answer to that without God(s).
How I lived my life would depend on who the God(s) were.
Yes please tell me how to live MY life.....on second thoughts, feck off and get on with your own pathetic existence - and learn some English.
Hi !
I can see how the other answers to this question are stubborn , but if there was proof of God , then everyone would either change their ways immediately , or find a way to disprove the proof.
I know I would pray everyday.
yes they would go to hell.
How important is home decor/decorating in life?
I was just looking for some movitivational/inspirational advice. I moved into this cool apartment nearly a year ago and still have not had time to get it the way I want it. In fact, I still have a few unpacked boxes lying around. I have a lot of good ideas on what I want to do, but just can never seem to execute them because I'm busy, broke or whatever. Should making a more livable/organized, and pretty apartment be a priority in my life? Has anyone overcome a similar problem and then felt their life change after they got a better organized and decorated home? How can I find the energy and motivation to do this because I do want my apartment to be more welcoming...so I can invite friends and family over? I know part of the problem is that I work two jobs and I am kind of broke. Your thoughts....How important is home decor/decorating in life?
Your home should be someplace you can come at the end of your day and feel good, especially since you work two jobs. Someplace you can decompress. Our homes are our sanctuaries from the outside world and a haven.
That said, I would keep in mind that even doing one thing in a room, whether you paint it, add a picture, some throw pillows, will make that room look different, and should give you the motivation to continue in that room. I would start out with something as an inspiration piece. If you already own something that will be in a particular room (i.e. an area rug, a poster or picture, pillows) take colors from those things.
Do one thing at a time. It doesn't seem so overwhelming that way. You don't have to buy everything all at once. Make a list of things you'd like, keep it with you and if you see some of these things on sale or clearance, you can pick them up then.
I would also go through those unpacked boxes first. Go through what you do have; see what you can use. If things are just placed in spots to keep them out of the way, just pack them up and store them, or if you don't like them anymore sell them on eBay.How important is home decor/decorating in life?
They say living more organized can clean up mental clutter too. It all goes hand in hand. It can save valuable time if things are organized. (time can be used to decorate)
Live by what YOU like. You can find some simple and cheap ways to decorate now a days. Used is always a bargain. Shop yard sale and flea markets. Look at things that may be cleaned up by just a coat of paint.
They say most people decorate there homes according to what they wear. Look in your closet. Find a few dominant colors that match. That's a start. Then think of a ';theme'; or how you want the room to feel. Simple, warm and cozy, airy, filled with lots of stuff and memories, French, Gothic, prissy, or manly. Whatever you feel represents you. Keep it simple.
Sewing stuff on your own is cool if ya can. You can take some old cool curtains and make pillows out of them.
Shop the salvation army type places too.
Have fun.
I think you really should try to make time to at least get one room done the way you'd want it. When I moved, it took me awhile to get things together, but once I did, it was like night %26amp; day. It really affected my mood %26amp; attitude. I was just more at peace %26amp; relaxed, %26amp; I liked coming ';home.'; You would be making YOU a priority; its not really so much about the decorating part. Start small with 1 room, with items that you know you like. Like anything else, getting started is the hardest part. Once you get going, you'll be surprised how quickly it can get done. Good Luck!
:) My husband was reading over my shoulder for a moment and stated 'It's VERY important';.
We moved to a third world country in February. Yesterday he hung blinds in our bedrooms. what a difference! We have kinda frosted glass in the windows, but the blinds make it seem more private and cozy.
My point in saying all of this is that it does take time and money, but if you can get a vision of what you want it to look like, then you can work toward creating that vision.
I can see each room in our house...completely finished. The only room that is complete is our bedroom...and that happened with the addition of the blinds. I wish I could show you the 'before' and the 'after', but can't. Suffice it to say that no place is home, till you make it home.
No money. No problem. Get creative. Paint (spray or brush) is your friend. Plants. Cheap, but worth their weight in gold for the decorating 'oomph' they add. Yard sale and thrift stores are not 'junk shops', but are the recyclers best resource.
Look through magazines, on line, or in furniture stores (they have great displays) and get a vision of what you want 'home' to look %26amp; feel like.
And don't forget...home has a certain smell as well. Candles or a pot of boiling water with some vanilla or cinnamon added can make your apt smell homey anyway.
Hope this helps.
Your home should be someplace you can come at the end of your day and feel good, especially since you work two jobs. Someplace you can decompress. Our homes are our sanctuaries from the outside world and a haven.
That said, I would keep in mind that even doing one thing in a room, whether you paint it, add a picture, some throw pillows, will make that room look different, and should give you the motivation to continue in that room. I would start out with something as an inspiration piece. If you already own something that will be in a particular room (i.e. an area rug, a poster or picture, pillows) take colors from those things.
Do one thing at a time. It doesn't seem so overwhelming that way. You don't have to buy everything all at once. Make a list of things you'd like, keep it with you and if you see some of these things on sale or clearance, you can pick them up then.
I would also go through those unpacked boxes first. Go through what you do have; see what you can use. If things are just placed in spots to keep them out of the way, just pack them up and store them, or if you don't like them anymore sell them on eBay.How important is home decor/decorating in life?
They say living more organized can clean up mental clutter too. It all goes hand in hand. It can save valuable time if things are organized. (time can be used to decorate)
Live by what YOU like. You can find some simple and cheap ways to decorate now a days. Used is always a bargain. Shop yard sale and flea markets. Look at things that may be cleaned up by just a coat of paint.
They say most people decorate there homes according to what they wear. Look in your closet. Find a few dominant colors that match. That's a start. Then think of a ';theme'; or how you want the room to feel. Simple, warm and cozy, airy, filled with lots of stuff and memories, French, Gothic, prissy, or manly. Whatever you feel represents you. Keep it simple.
Sewing stuff on your own is cool if ya can. You can take some old cool curtains and make pillows out of them.
Shop the salvation army type places too.
Have fun.
I think you really should try to make time to at least get one room done the way you'd want it. When I moved, it took me awhile to get things together, but once I did, it was like night %26amp; day. It really affected my mood %26amp; attitude. I was just more at peace %26amp; relaxed, %26amp; I liked coming ';home.'; You would be making YOU a priority; its not really so much about the decorating part. Start small with 1 room, with items that you know you like. Like anything else, getting started is the hardest part. Once you get going, you'll be surprised how quickly it can get done. Good Luck!
:) My husband was reading over my shoulder for a moment and stated 'It's VERY important';.
We moved to a third world country in February. Yesterday he hung blinds in our bedrooms. what a difference! We have kinda frosted glass in the windows, but the blinds make it seem more private and cozy.
My point in saying all of this is that it does take time and money, but if you can get a vision of what you want it to look like, then you can work toward creating that vision.
I can see each room in our house...completely finished. The only room that is complete is our bedroom...and that happened with the addition of the blinds. I wish I could show you the 'before' and the 'after', but can't. Suffice it to say that no place is home, till you make it home.
No money. No problem. Get creative. Paint (spray or brush) is your friend. Plants. Cheap, but worth their weight in gold for the decorating 'oomph' they add. Yard sale and thrift stores are not 'junk shops', but are the recyclers best resource.
Look through magazines, on line, or in furniture stores (they have great displays) and get a vision of what you want 'home' to look %26amp; feel like.
And don't forget...home has a certain smell as well. Candles or a pot of boiling water with some vanilla or cinnamon added can make your apt smell homey anyway.
Hope this helps.
How can I change my life?
I feel most people waste time having rotines and ignoring what a huge world n possibilities we have. Im affraid to get old or die and not knowing, learning and travel enough just so i can pay bills...im really scared and lost about this.How can I change my life?
Well, if you want to change your life, and want to have more experiences of the world, you need a means of income that supports your new hobby.
Well... this won't make you very rich and if you're not picky about what kind of job you have, you could go to another country, working as a waitress, selling stuff in the streets, etc. Long time ago I did that while travelling Asia.
There is quite the difference between poor in another country and being rich in another country. Being poor brings you closer to people and the environment, while being rich you usually just confine yourself to ';secure'; areas all the time.
Your idea is excellent and I support it 100% percent, mostly because of my own experiences while travelling this way.
I can recommend ';unsafe'; environments, like columbia, peru, the Australian outback, Cambodia, etc. Mostly becuase of the relation with nature you get.
My experience trip is not over. I have settled as a buddhist monk in Mexico, planning to walk to Argentina. That will be a most interesting trip.
But a word of warning... Once you get this lifestyle into your blood, you will have a hard time settling again in a ';safe'; environment, but you will also develope a strength, which enables you to survive in just about any environment you can think of. You will discover that there are nothing in this world which is impossible, and if you go with the flow of life, like a leaf on a waterstream, then you will have many beautiful experiences.
This planet - waouw!!! The fantastic diversity of everything, is overwhelming.
Sorry - your question hit a soft spot with me - I could go on and on about this subject, but really - jump into it - it is highly recommended!!!How can I change my life?
Go to church and bible study. Accept Christ and lead a good life. Hang out with people who have good ethics and morals. Get an education and work hard. Save money and budget some of it for travel.
set a goal and make it happen.
dont be afraid that is the first thing go with the flow and dont worry alot it does not help, be joyful of growing old and learning along the way,learn from mistakes and listen to your inner voice instinct , everyone has ups and downs it is part of life. have faith and know there is a reason for you being, if you want to travel get a job where it will allow you to do this. like on a cruise ship or airline, there is a lot to see and explore in the world good luck and bless you have a nice life.
What do you want? What is most important to you? Do you want to know the truth of who you are as an inner - journey? or do you prefer to live a rich life only on the outside?
Change life...
change your mind set, that will change your life..
you should try to read motivation's book such as
';A Waken the Giant Within'; by Anthony Robbins,
';Being Happy!'; by Andrew Matthews or kind of.
Good luck!
You already know the answer ';not knowing, learning and travel enough';
Most people work to pay their mortgage, car payments, their kids expenses...etc etc..
Then do not get in that cycle before you feel you are happy with your life..
Or drive less expensive car, live in a smaller house...and use that money for your goals...
Thanks
Troy
http://primeherbal.com
The most difficult part of a journey is stepping through the door on your way out.
If you're like most of us, bills will be something you live with all your life, but they are simply part of your life not all of it.
Pursue your dreams knowing that you still have to put food on the table, and keep in mind that scars are a sign of what we have survived.
One day at a time. And PS there is nothing wrong with creatures of habit, or thous who try to keep it simple and steady. They tend to achieve slowly but surely, They seem to make everything work while others try to leap and bound. Just like the story of the rabbit and the tortoise. I'm not one to sit still for very long, and have been treated badly because of it, but I guess I choose the harder path the path that most don't see, and there are no leaders I was able to look up to (in full) because is insisted on believing in something else. So in conclusion, I guess (at times) feel lost because I brought myself here. But I thought I knew where I was going. So now what? Let's try one day at a time, until we get a better idea. You do not have to save the world, by your birth you've already made a differnce.
You are right! People waste time in different ways, one example - watching tv, all tht crap and nonsense.
Instead they could learn and develop, in any way possible, maybe learn to play and instrument or learn to dance or study or work. These skills can get you somewhere in life. This is investing your time.
How you can change your life is for you to decide, it depends on your life overall. You will need help of course. Decide want you want to change. You wont die unless God wants you to, if you want to travel, earn money and travel. Think it over, you will find the answer eventually. Don't be asked, thrive to achieve! And YOU will succeed! Good luck
Hmmm..so you want to have a life that is exciting, adventerouse, and rewarding. Sounds like you might want to enlist in the military. But before you rush out the door to the nearest recruiters office, consider this if you will. Everyday ordinary life is all we have. Every now and then, we get to enjoy a really spectacular moment or two. This is how life really is. We all have routines, chores to do, bills to pay, kids to raise, fields to plow, critters to feed..etc. It's mighty boring from the aspect of a life full of glamor, luxury, and travel.
Maybe what you're really experiencing is the modern angst of todays world. ';Will I find meaning in my life? Will I ever be really happy? What if I miss out on something really special?'; What you might be overlooking, is that simple ordinary everyday life is more precious than gold. Because when it's gone, there is nothing that can replace it.
We live from one moment to the next. What tomorrow will bring might be a pot of gold, or a bucket of mop water. We never know. So all we have is the right here and right now. Tomorrow isn't here yet, and the past is gone. The world is ever changing, and life seems to pass you by at lightening speed. Will you just grow old, and never see or experience the excitment that is out there? Will it come to be, that your mind and wits will grow cold and numb, never knowing the great adventures, the wonderful times, the thrill of it all? Not likely. Your life, like everyone elses is full of a mixture of the ordinary, with the every now and then spectacular. I mean, would the fireworks on the 4th of July be that special if you saw them every single night of the year. At some point, you'd wonder why bother looking at them if you can see them anytime. Would having Christmas Dinner everyday be a good thing? After a week of the same food, it would loose it's savor. And so it is with ordinary life.mobile asp hosting
Well, if you want to change your life, and want to have more experiences of the world, you need a means of income that supports your new hobby.
Well... this won't make you very rich and if you're not picky about what kind of job you have, you could go to another country, working as a waitress, selling stuff in the streets, etc. Long time ago I did that while travelling Asia.
There is quite the difference between poor in another country and being rich in another country. Being poor brings you closer to people and the environment, while being rich you usually just confine yourself to ';secure'; areas all the time.
Your idea is excellent and I support it 100% percent, mostly because of my own experiences while travelling this way.
I can recommend ';unsafe'; environments, like columbia, peru, the Australian outback, Cambodia, etc. Mostly becuase of the relation with nature you get.
My experience trip is not over. I have settled as a buddhist monk in Mexico, planning to walk to Argentina. That will be a most interesting trip.
But a word of warning... Once you get this lifestyle into your blood, you will have a hard time settling again in a ';safe'; environment, but you will also develope a strength, which enables you to survive in just about any environment you can think of. You will discover that there are nothing in this world which is impossible, and if you go with the flow of life, like a leaf on a waterstream, then you will have many beautiful experiences.
This planet - waouw!!! The fantastic diversity of everything, is overwhelming.
Sorry - your question hit a soft spot with me - I could go on and on about this subject, but really - jump into it - it is highly recommended!!!How can I change my life?
Go to church and bible study. Accept Christ and lead a good life. Hang out with people who have good ethics and morals. Get an education and work hard. Save money and budget some of it for travel.
set a goal and make it happen.
dont be afraid that is the first thing go with the flow and dont worry alot it does not help, be joyful of growing old and learning along the way,learn from mistakes and listen to your inner voice instinct , everyone has ups and downs it is part of life. have faith and know there is a reason for you being, if you want to travel get a job where it will allow you to do this. like on a cruise ship or airline, there is a lot to see and explore in the world good luck and bless you have a nice life.
What do you want? What is most important to you? Do you want to know the truth of who you are as an inner - journey? or do you prefer to live a rich life only on the outside?
Change life...
change your mind set, that will change your life..
you should try to read motivation's book such as
';A Waken the Giant Within'; by Anthony Robbins,
';Being Happy!'; by Andrew Matthews or kind of.
Good luck!
You already know the answer ';not knowing, learning and travel enough';
Most people work to pay their mortgage, car payments, their kids expenses...etc etc..
Then do not get in that cycle before you feel you are happy with your life..
Or drive less expensive car, live in a smaller house...and use that money for your goals...
Thanks
Troy
http://primeherbal.com
The most difficult part of a journey is stepping through the door on your way out.
If you're like most of us, bills will be something you live with all your life, but they are simply part of your life not all of it.
Pursue your dreams knowing that you still have to put food on the table, and keep in mind that scars are a sign of what we have survived.
One day at a time. And PS there is nothing wrong with creatures of habit, or thous who try to keep it simple and steady. They tend to achieve slowly but surely, They seem to make everything work while others try to leap and bound. Just like the story of the rabbit and the tortoise. I'm not one to sit still for very long, and have been treated badly because of it, but I guess I choose the harder path the path that most don't see, and there are no leaders I was able to look up to (in full) because is insisted on believing in something else. So in conclusion, I guess (at times) feel lost because I brought myself here. But I thought I knew where I was going. So now what? Let's try one day at a time, until we get a better idea. You do not have to save the world, by your birth you've already made a differnce.
You are right! People waste time in different ways, one example - watching tv, all tht crap and nonsense.
Instead they could learn and develop, in any way possible, maybe learn to play and instrument or learn to dance or study or work. These skills can get you somewhere in life. This is investing your time.
How you can change your life is for you to decide, it depends on your life overall. You will need help of course. Decide want you want to change. You wont die unless God wants you to, if you want to travel, earn money and travel. Think it over, you will find the answer eventually. Don't be asked, thrive to achieve! And YOU will succeed! Good luck
Hmmm..so you want to have a life that is exciting, adventerouse, and rewarding. Sounds like you might want to enlist in the military. But before you rush out the door to the nearest recruiters office, consider this if you will. Everyday ordinary life is all we have. Every now and then, we get to enjoy a really spectacular moment or two. This is how life really is. We all have routines, chores to do, bills to pay, kids to raise, fields to plow, critters to feed..etc. It's mighty boring from the aspect of a life full of glamor, luxury, and travel.
Maybe what you're really experiencing is the modern angst of todays world. ';Will I find meaning in my life? Will I ever be really happy? What if I miss out on something really special?'; What you might be overlooking, is that simple ordinary everyday life is more precious than gold. Because when it's gone, there is nothing that can replace it.
We live from one moment to the next. What tomorrow will bring might be a pot of gold, or a bucket of mop water. We never know. So all we have is the right here and right now. Tomorrow isn't here yet, and the past is gone. The world is ever changing, and life seems to pass you by at lightening speed. Will you just grow old, and never see or experience the excitment that is out there? Will it come to be, that your mind and wits will grow cold and numb, never knowing the great adventures, the wonderful times, the thrill of it all? Not likely. Your life, like everyone elses is full of a mixture of the ordinary, with the every now and then spectacular. I mean, would the fireworks on the 4th of July be that special if you saw them every single night of the year. At some point, you'd wonder why bother looking at them if you can see them anytime. Would having Christmas Dinner everyday be a good thing? After a week of the same food, it would loose it's savor. And so it is with ordinary life.
How can an MPH help me practice better medicine as a physician?
I am wondering whether I should get an MPH or not (I have one year to spend as I chose, since I am taking a year off before I apply to medical school).
I would love to be an advocate for public health and help write policy that could change lives. My ultimate goal is to become a physician and I have no doubt that I will get into medical school immediately after my 1-year master's program is complete. I am also interested in taking a leadership role in the hospital - would an MHA or MBA be more appropriate?
What I don't like is the rough nature of politics and some politician taking credit for all my work, but such is the nature of life.
Do you think an MPH is the best master's I should chose for what I want to do? Do you think it is necessary? Your advice is appreciated.How can an MPH help me practice better medicine as a physician?
Your credentials won't determine your ultimate career path, you will. And your MD will carry more weight than whichever Masters you decide to pursue.
Have to you looked into the National Health Service Corps? http://nhsc.bhpr.hrsa.gov/How can an MPH help me practice better medicine as a physician?
Just as a layperson, I would think that with the medical school degree, that MPH would very much be an asset especially since you have such a passion for community health and introducing new policy. And the MPH most likely includes courses in business so perhaps that can help you that much more as opposed to an MBA. Congratulations on knowing just what you want to do and for being so ambitious :)
I would love to be an advocate for public health and help write policy that could change lives. My ultimate goal is to become a physician and I have no doubt that I will get into medical school immediately after my 1-year master's program is complete. I am also interested in taking a leadership role in the hospital - would an MHA or MBA be more appropriate?
What I don't like is the rough nature of politics and some politician taking credit for all my work, but such is the nature of life.
Do you think an MPH is the best master's I should chose for what I want to do? Do you think it is necessary? Your advice is appreciated.How can an MPH help me practice better medicine as a physician?
Your credentials won't determine your ultimate career path, you will. And your MD will carry more weight than whichever Masters you decide to pursue.
Have to you looked into the National Health Service Corps? http://nhsc.bhpr.hrsa.gov/How can an MPH help me practice better medicine as a physician?
Just as a layperson, I would think that with the medical school degree, that MPH would very much be an asset especially since you have such a passion for community health and introducing new policy. And the MPH most likely includes courses in business so perhaps that can help you that much more as opposed to an MBA. Congratulations on knowing just what you want to do and for being so ambitious :)
I have about life no girlfriend some time so stupid what can i do to change it ?
can someone help me to change my life? if can tell me how ?i really need halp give me you idea.I have about life no girlfriend some time so stupid what can i do to change it ?
First and I think it will be very important.You just might need to find some guy that you are comfortable to be friends with that can give you dating pointers.That would be a good start.Then go places with him and I am sure that he will be helpful in giving you good ideas on how to approach girls.I will just bet that the biggest problem that you seem to have is communication.As you get a better grasp of the english language it will be a great asset in meeting girls.And don't think of yourself as stupid just because you can't get the hang of how to meet girls and date.I do sympathize with you about this setback.I have about life no girlfriend some time so stupid what can i do to change it ?
Perhaps if you reworded that, someone could help more easily.
Girls are nice, intelligence is nice. Neither are needed to be happy in life. Work on your beliefs that say otherwise. Challenge them honestly.
Check out Byron Katie.
Well, maybe start going out more, making friends. Get involved in activities. There are plenty of things you can do to become more social.
um WTF what does that say??? im so confused ??
just cuz u dont have a gf doesnt mean u dont have a life
start volunteering %26amp; helping others
join a sports team
get out there
I don't understand the question
you have to get involved in something, change it up, don't follow the same old routine, maybe if you leave the box then someone will meet you and like you. JUST GO DO SOMETHING NEW
mabe start acting like your self DON'T act desperate us girls hate that!!!!! desperate guys are soooo annoying!!! eventually some one will like you be a flirt but not a player help girls out be a gentleman and yea...
First and I think it will be very important.You just might need to find some guy that you are comfortable to be friends with that can give you dating pointers.That would be a good start.Then go places with him and I am sure that he will be helpful in giving you good ideas on how to approach girls.I will just bet that the biggest problem that you seem to have is communication.As you get a better grasp of the english language it will be a great asset in meeting girls.And don't think of yourself as stupid just because you can't get the hang of how to meet girls and date.I do sympathize with you about this setback.I have about life no girlfriend some time so stupid what can i do to change it ?
Perhaps if you reworded that, someone could help more easily.
Girls are nice, intelligence is nice. Neither are needed to be happy in life. Work on your beliefs that say otherwise. Challenge them honestly.
Check out Byron Katie.
Well, maybe start going out more, making friends. Get involved in activities. There are plenty of things you can do to become more social.
um WTF what does that say??? im so confused ??
just cuz u dont have a gf doesnt mean u dont have a life
start volunteering %26amp; helping others
join a sports team
get out there
I don't understand the question
you have to get involved in something, change it up, don't follow the same old routine, maybe if you leave the box then someone will meet you and like you. JUST GO DO SOMETHING NEW
mabe start acting like your self DON'T act desperate us girls hate that!!!!! desperate guys are soooo annoying!!! eventually some one will like you be a flirt but not a player help girls out be a gentleman and yea...
How to change my life?
Ok, so what do you when everything is going wrong in your life, you're really miserable,and you've realised that you've got to do something about it very soon? How do you go about it? I've stepped back and evaluated my life, sort of, but i'm still very confused about the next step. I want to change, but i just don't think things can ever be good again. Help! Becuase where I am know in my life and where I want to be, there is a fuzzy hedge miles wide. Waht goes in the middle???How to change my life?
live for Jesus!!! have a personal relationship with him by praying to him and asking him questions. He always answers prayer...maybe not in the the way you want it to happen but he does!!! start going to a bible fellowship church...the congregations there are very accepting...this is no Cult! He died for you so you can go to heaven!How to change my life?
one thing at a time.
Take a chance... step into a Church 2morrow... not just any a powerful one.. Watch God move in your life. What do you have to loose?
What city are you in?
I know it sounds kinda sad, but smiling does help. I think it's some kinda psychological thing. Trying to put yourself in a better mood doesn't always work, so try telling yourself that you ARE fine, and that life IS good, and your outlook will change pretty instantly.
make a list ....of things you would like to change....those things YOU CAN change....then do it....looking outside your self centeredness to the needs of others is one way to gain some insight towards effective change and a more positive outlook.....
You have hit the nail right on the head when you stated ';I just don't THINK things can ever be good again';.
Change your thinking and change your life.
One cannot expect positive changes in our lives if we are always thinking negative thoughts. That doesn't even make sense.
I suggest you start by writing down what your dream is. Write down as many thoughts as you can. Then cross out, one by one, the ones that are not that important. When you have got THE ONE left, start thinking in that direction. Always aim at a dream, thinking positive thoughts, knowing that you will reach it AND YOU WILL.
Please stop thinking ';I just don't think that things can ever be good again'; because if you continue to think that way, guess what ';things will never be good again.';
Peace and Love
First, start thinking positively. The is the most important thing you have to do. You can make a list of goals and thing you want to reach in your life. See what you have and what you want to have and start striving for it. You can make a calendar and to check every day which is good or there's something good happened during it. Step by step you will see everything goes better and better. And the best you can do is to live for Jesus! Have a personal relationship with Him by praying and asking him questions. He always answers the prayers.
Watch the ';Secret'; and it will tell you how to make a vision board. Go to Barnes and Noble and look at all the books and gravitate to what you are attracted to and what makes you feel joy. Everyone is a genius in some way, find your genius..
First things first. It's a fact that anything you spend a solid hour a day doing, you'll get pretty good at. Pick a bad habit you have (watching too much TV is a common one) and spend an hour a day doing SOMETHING related to where you want to go with your life.
What I'd suggest as a good starting place is to change who you are inside. Meditate, learn self hypnosis, learn astral projection and lucid dreaming. Turn your brain from an enemy into your best friend. There's a million ways to do it, and they are all worth it.
The main thing is to know that how you react to the world is as important as what the world throws at you.
HOW TO WIN FRIENDS %26amp; INFLUENCE PEOPLE was an old self help book that's been around since the 1950s. Dealing with people is just like any other skill. There are rules, you can learn them and ';play the game'; to win. It'll tell you the RIGHT way to get people to listen to you.
THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING by Norman Vincent Peale. It's a classic on how to stop worrying about things and start really living. Any library will have copies. It's more Christian than Ned Flanders, but don't let that put you off right away, give it a chance. It's about how what WE CHOSE TO THINK ABOUT is more important than what happens to us. Having the right attitude makes all the difference.
Diaries are good. Every day be sure to write down 5 things that went RIGHT, that you're grateful for. That keeps your mind focused on what is good in your life each day. That's important.
Speaking of diaries, I have some ';homework'; for you. Try this. Remember the cursed diary in HARRY POTTER AND THE CHAMBER OF SECRETS? Write a cursed diary. Think of a negative thought or bad memory you want to get rid of. Feel it like a dark sludge stuck in your head you want to get rid of.
Feel the sludge ooze out of your head, down your arm, and out your hand as you write about the memory onto a piece of paper. Write the memory or thought until you feel the sludge has poured out of your body into the paper. The paper holds that evil thought now.
Take the paper holding that thought and destroy it. Tear it up, burn it, scatter the ashes to the wind. That evil thought is now gone from your mind and your life.
Trust me, it works.
First, get to the roots which make your life miserable. Do some analyzing... ';What did I fail to do?'; or ';Did I made a right decision?'; ...
You can't just change your life in just one snap. Damages have been done... but you can still do something about that. Try making up for the things you had failed to do.
And lastly, have you heard the LAW OF ATTRACTION?
*If you always think about negative things, you'll automatically attract negative things.
* If you always think positive, then you'll only attract POSITIVE THINGS. ;-)
Take it from me, it's proven. ;-)
And always have faith in God. Everything has a purpose. ;-)
Uh, since you haven't given ANY indication of what you want to change, it's impossible to say.
Why don't you try asking again, but give relevant details.
Do you not like your job (if you have one)? If so, why not, and what do you want to do?
Are you in a bad relationship? If so, explain what's wrong with it.
We're not the Psychic Friends Network -- you need to tell us what's going on for us to be able to help you.
live for Jesus!!! have a personal relationship with him by praying to him and asking him questions. He always answers prayer...maybe not in the the way you want it to happen but he does!!! start going to a bible fellowship church...the congregations there are very accepting...this is no Cult! He died for you so you can go to heaven!How to change my life?
one thing at a time.
Take a chance... step into a Church 2morrow... not just any a powerful one.. Watch God move in your life. What do you have to loose?
What city are you in?
I know it sounds kinda sad, but smiling does help. I think it's some kinda psychological thing. Trying to put yourself in a better mood doesn't always work, so try telling yourself that you ARE fine, and that life IS good, and your outlook will change pretty instantly.
make a list ....of things you would like to change....those things YOU CAN change....then do it....looking outside your self centeredness to the needs of others is one way to gain some insight towards effective change and a more positive outlook.....
You have hit the nail right on the head when you stated ';I just don't THINK things can ever be good again';.
Change your thinking and change your life.
One cannot expect positive changes in our lives if we are always thinking negative thoughts. That doesn't even make sense.
I suggest you start by writing down what your dream is. Write down as many thoughts as you can. Then cross out, one by one, the ones that are not that important. When you have got THE ONE left, start thinking in that direction. Always aim at a dream, thinking positive thoughts, knowing that you will reach it AND YOU WILL.
Please stop thinking ';I just don't think that things can ever be good again'; because if you continue to think that way, guess what ';things will never be good again.';
Peace and Love
First, start thinking positively. The is the most important thing you have to do. You can make a list of goals and thing you want to reach in your life. See what you have and what you want to have and start striving for it. You can make a calendar and to check every day which is good or there's something good happened during it. Step by step you will see everything goes better and better. And the best you can do is to live for Jesus! Have a personal relationship with Him by praying and asking him questions. He always answers the prayers.
Watch the ';Secret'; and it will tell you how to make a vision board. Go to Barnes and Noble and look at all the books and gravitate to what you are attracted to and what makes you feel joy. Everyone is a genius in some way, find your genius..
First things first. It's a fact that anything you spend a solid hour a day doing, you'll get pretty good at. Pick a bad habit you have (watching too much TV is a common one) and spend an hour a day doing SOMETHING related to where you want to go with your life.
What I'd suggest as a good starting place is to change who you are inside. Meditate, learn self hypnosis, learn astral projection and lucid dreaming. Turn your brain from an enemy into your best friend. There's a million ways to do it, and they are all worth it.
The main thing is to know that how you react to the world is as important as what the world throws at you.
HOW TO WIN FRIENDS %26amp; INFLUENCE PEOPLE was an old self help book that's been around since the 1950s. Dealing with people is just like any other skill. There are rules, you can learn them and ';play the game'; to win. It'll tell you the RIGHT way to get people to listen to you.
THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING by Norman Vincent Peale. It's a classic on how to stop worrying about things and start really living. Any library will have copies. It's more Christian than Ned Flanders, but don't let that put you off right away, give it a chance. It's about how what WE CHOSE TO THINK ABOUT is more important than what happens to us. Having the right attitude makes all the difference.
Diaries are good. Every day be sure to write down 5 things that went RIGHT, that you're grateful for. That keeps your mind focused on what is good in your life each day. That's important.
Speaking of diaries, I have some ';homework'; for you. Try this. Remember the cursed diary in HARRY POTTER AND THE CHAMBER OF SECRETS? Write a cursed diary. Think of a negative thought or bad memory you want to get rid of. Feel it like a dark sludge stuck in your head you want to get rid of.
Feel the sludge ooze out of your head, down your arm, and out your hand as you write about the memory onto a piece of paper. Write the memory or thought until you feel the sludge has poured out of your body into the paper. The paper holds that evil thought now.
Take the paper holding that thought and destroy it. Tear it up, burn it, scatter the ashes to the wind. That evil thought is now gone from your mind and your life.
Trust me, it works.
First, get to the roots which make your life miserable. Do some analyzing... ';What did I fail to do?'; or ';Did I made a right decision?'; ...
You can't just change your life in just one snap. Damages have been done... but you can still do something about that. Try making up for the things you had failed to do.
And lastly, have you heard the LAW OF ATTRACTION?
*If you always think about negative things, you'll automatically attract negative things.
* If you always think positive, then you'll only attract POSITIVE THINGS. ;-)
Take it from me, it's proven. ;-)
And always have faith in God. Everything has a purpose. ;-)
Uh, since you haven't given ANY indication of what you want to change, it's impossible to say.
Why don't you try asking again, but give relevant details.
Do you not like your job (if you have one)? If so, why not, and what do you want to do?
Are you in a bad relationship? If so, explain what's wrong with it.
We're not the Psychic Friends Network -- you need to tell us what's going on for us to be able to help you.
How can I change my life?
I want to be a writer. Maybe go to graduate school. I'd like to have a house with pets. It feels so impossible right now. My job is SO BORING! I have no savings and am locked into a yearly lease. How can I take steps toward my dreams?How can I change my life?
Hmmm... I'd have to say, try and plan around your lease as much as possible. So that when that is done you can start your new dream. I'd say though start writing now. that's something you can start whenever you want, learn how to get your thoughts down, like it's second nature.
As for teh boring job... is it providing enough for you to save up? if not, it will be really tough but you may have to find something that will help you save up some money... look for a career based position. If you are set on going to graduate school you may have to start looking. but there is no reason why you can't have a career and be a writer, that's the great thing about art, you can do it whenever you want.
As far as you dream? I'm in the same position, I say go for it... it won't all fall into place at once, but you can start to try, it WILL be hard at points where you won't think you can go on, but if you look at anyone who followed their dream and is successfull, you will see they took chances, not to mention it will give you personal experience to write about.How can I change my life?
Meditate
www.meditationthai.org
It will take some time, but first thing that you must do is start saving money!!!!!
Start with God. pray for a while. Cut out unnecessary expenses. don't get married or have children. Save up a few thousand dollars. Move back home with mom and dad. Explain your situation. Ask your employer to help you pay for college. Eat a good meal at your favorite restaurant to get your head strait. And finally make a good plan and stick to it.
write goals down on paper and attach to frige door. prioritize them, this makes them more real. remember to take one step at a time and have faith in yourself. accomplishing even one goal is a step in the right direction. It works!!! Good luck!!!!
Hmmm... I'd have to say, try and plan around your lease as much as possible. So that when that is done you can start your new dream. I'd say though start writing now. that's something you can start whenever you want, learn how to get your thoughts down, like it's second nature.
As for teh boring job... is it providing enough for you to save up? if not, it will be really tough but you may have to find something that will help you save up some money... look for a career based position. If you are set on going to graduate school you may have to start looking. but there is no reason why you can't have a career and be a writer, that's the great thing about art, you can do it whenever you want.
As far as you dream? I'm in the same position, I say go for it... it won't all fall into place at once, but you can start to try, it WILL be hard at points where you won't think you can go on, but if you look at anyone who followed their dream and is successfull, you will see they took chances, not to mention it will give you personal experience to write about.How can I change my life?
Meditate
www.meditationthai.org
It will take some time, but first thing that you must do is start saving money!!!!!
Start with God. pray for a while. Cut out unnecessary expenses. don't get married or have children. Save up a few thousand dollars. Move back home with mom and dad. Explain your situation. Ask your employer to help you pay for college. Eat a good meal at your favorite restaurant to get your head strait. And finally make a good plan and stick to it.
write goals down on paper and attach to frige door. prioritize them, this makes them more real. remember to take one step at a time and have faith in yourself. accomplishing even one goal is a step in the right direction. It works!!! Good luck!!!!
I've wasted 5 years of my life. How can I change now?
I've wasted the last 5 years of my life, simply by focusing too much on school and my academics.
My life revolves around my school, and my social skills are horrible, because I spend most of my time working alone.
How can I change my life? I just have to finish this year, and graduate.I've wasted 5 years of my life. How can I change now?
Hi
At any given time you can turn your whole life around. You have the power within you to change. Remember that! %26lt;smile%26gt;
You have not wasted 5 years of your life. What you have done over the past 5 years is lay down some solid foundations on which you can now build upon. For the sake of another year persevere with your studies so that you can graduate.
Like you I have spent the past 5 years studying. Consequently I have brought about positive changes to my life and opened up new horizons. I now have my own business in which I would never have been able to materialize had I not studied.
Like you family and friends were put on the back burner so that I could concentrate on my studies. But...! Don't cut your family and friends completely out of your life. It is still important to spend some quality time with them, even if it is only once a week, once a month, or once in a while.
You should congratulate yourself and be proud of what you have achieved to date. You are working very hard in order to build a better life for yourself.
It is good that you want to develop your social skills but try not to worry unduly about them. Instead focus on raising your self-confidence, self-esteem and self-worth. As you gain more confidence in yourself you will gradually learn good social skills. When you go out into the world, go out to work, you will meet new people thus widening your network of friends.
A day will come when you will be glad that you made the effort and studied long and hard. You will soon reap your rewards for what you have accomplished over the past 5 years. You will! %26lt;smile%26gt;
Blessings and Love xI've wasted 5 years of my life. How can I change now?
I wish I knew...
Granted most people these days have the ability to live to 80 and above I'd say you have plenty of time to refine your social skills.
Try joining online communities to search for people in your town. Also try a new hobby, people who share hobbies with you are usually the easiest to talk to.
Good luck.
Stay focused but let lose. HAVE SOME FUN!
Get on MTV MADE! Tell them you want to be made into Ms. 12th grade or something.
I wouldn't say you have wasted five years of your life. You have almost earned a degree. Congratulations. Now you will just start a different phase of your life. You can start with simply Hi to people you see on campus, in a coffee shop, or in your job when you get one. It takes time to develop social skills. You can read books if you need some hints on what is appropriate. You can change your life a little at a time. You have time, just take it slowly. Rushing a change will do nothing but frustrate your efforts.
I did the same thing in college. I had no fun, did nothing but work at school and at work, and now I regret it. I am happy in a way since I graduated in 2001 before 9/11. But if I would have waited one more semester I wouldn't have had a job most likely. So, I am definitely happy I did it for that reason. But other than that, my love life, social skills, and health were put on the back burner until I graduated. I don't see 9/11 happening again, so feel free to kick back a bit and have some fun. You will regret it if you don't.
keep at school till you fiqure our what it is you need out of life..
social skills will not pay your rent or let you retire in comfort
your education will....
You definitely did not waste those years by focusing on school. Think of any hobbies you have and join a class or group. Go to a yoga class, craft class at a local Michaels, volunteer or get involved with an organization or a book club at a local book store for example. Say hi to people you meet; put yourself out there and do not be afraid of getting a less than favorable response. You will get a lot of positive and negative responses whether you have good social skills or not. When you are looking for a job after graduation, give yourself a pep talk before you go in and make sure you stay light and friendly. When you do get a job, make friends with people at work.
Well, if you put all those years to putting effort into school and you have good grades, they haven't gone to waste exactly, have they?!
What I would suggest is you take a break. Either relaxing or fun. Whatever you feel like.
Now you have nearly graduated, don't lose focus, you can get that dream job now you've put all your time into it.
Have a nice life!crying relate to beauty top 10 myspace
My life revolves around my school, and my social skills are horrible, because I spend most of my time working alone.
How can I change my life? I just have to finish this year, and graduate.I've wasted 5 years of my life. How can I change now?
Hi
At any given time you can turn your whole life around. You have the power within you to change. Remember that! %26lt;smile%26gt;
You have not wasted 5 years of your life. What you have done over the past 5 years is lay down some solid foundations on which you can now build upon. For the sake of another year persevere with your studies so that you can graduate.
Like you I have spent the past 5 years studying. Consequently I have brought about positive changes to my life and opened up new horizons. I now have my own business in which I would never have been able to materialize had I not studied.
Like you family and friends were put on the back burner so that I could concentrate on my studies. But...! Don't cut your family and friends completely out of your life. It is still important to spend some quality time with them, even if it is only once a week, once a month, or once in a while.
You should congratulate yourself and be proud of what you have achieved to date. You are working very hard in order to build a better life for yourself.
It is good that you want to develop your social skills but try not to worry unduly about them. Instead focus on raising your self-confidence, self-esteem and self-worth. As you gain more confidence in yourself you will gradually learn good social skills. When you go out into the world, go out to work, you will meet new people thus widening your network of friends.
A day will come when you will be glad that you made the effort and studied long and hard. You will soon reap your rewards for what you have accomplished over the past 5 years. You will! %26lt;smile%26gt;
Blessings and Love xI've wasted 5 years of my life. How can I change now?
I wish I knew...
Granted most people these days have the ability to live to 80 and above I'd say you have plenty of time to refine your social skills.
Try joining online communities to search for people in your town. Also try a new hobby, people who share hobbies with you are usually the easiest to talk to.
Good luck.
Stay focused but let lose. HAVE SOME FUN!
Get on MTV MADE! Tell them you want to be made into Ms. 12th grade or something.
I wouldn't say you have wasted five years of your life. You have almost earned a degree. Congratulations. Now you will just start a different phase of your life. You can start with simply Hi to people you see on campus, in a coffee shop, or in your job when you get one. It takes time to develop social skills. You can read books if you need some hints on what is appropriate. You can change your life a little at a time. You have time, just take it slowly. Rushing a change will do nothing but frustrate your efforts.
I did the same thing in college. I had no fun, did nothing but work at school and at work, and now I regret it. I am happy in a way since I graduated in 2001 before 9/11. But if I would have waited one more semester I wouldn't have had a job most likely. So, I am definitely happy I did it for that reason. But other than that, my love life, social skills, and health were put on the back burner until I graduated. I don't see 9/11 happening again, so feel free to kick back a bit and have some fun. You will regret it if you don't.
keep at school till you fiqure our what it is you need out of life..
social skills will not pay your rent or let you retire in comfort
your education will....
You definitely did not waste those years by focusing on school. Think of any hobbies you have and join a class or group. Go to a yoga class, craft class at a local Michaels, volunteer or get involved with an organization or a book club at a local book store for example. Say hi to people you meet; put yourself out there and do not be afraid of getting a less than favorable response. You will get a lot of positive and negative responses whether you have good social skills or not. When you are looking for a job after graduation, give yourself a pep talk before you go in and make sure you stay light and friendly. When you do get a job, make friends with people at work.
Well, if you put all those years to putting effort into school and you have good grades, they haven't gone to waste exactly, have they?!
What I would suggest is you take a break. Either relaxing or fun. Whatever you feel like.
Now you have nearly graduated, don't lose focus, you can get that dream job now you've put all your time into it.
Have a nice life!
How to change my life?
I'm fifteen and have problems with self harm and depression. My girlfriend recently broke up with me. Over the summer I really want to change my life. I am on the edge of a group of friends and I would really like to be a proper member of their group. I want to lose weight and just come back after the summer with everyone going...wow. I want to feel really good about myself.
What can I do to change my life?
xxHow to change my life?
';Give me the strenth to change what I can, the courage to accept what I can't, and the wisdom to know the difference.';
You need to start small. You are taking a really big ';bite'; and it may be very hard to chew. The best thing to do right now is start accepting who you are. Next, you can change your diet, start exercising at least 3 times a week, and start opening yourself to new relationships within this group of people. You will notice that in a few weeks there will be changes physically, mentally, and emotionally. Good luck...How to change my life?
In order to change your life you need to except yourself for who you are.
just do things that once made you happy because when we are bad we forget to do things that made us happy and we focus too much on the bad things.
go out and play with your friends it will help you forget things a little. do sport whatever make you happy, you are the only one who know what mde you happy and can make you happy again. go back to the things you were doing that make you happy before you met her, that's what we all do when someone break up with us. we simply go back and do things we used to do before we met them simple.
see it as she is the loser to break up with you and say that there are someone better then her.
you are not alone we all had break ups. go out and play with your friends do positive things that used to bring joy to you before you met her. we are do that
First of all if you want to change, loose weight etc. Do it for YOU no one else. Also if your on the edge of a group of friends, maybe you should ask yourself why you are on the edge. Are they your real friends, you might deserve a groupd of friends who are better. In general and beleive me I know this is not easy when you are going through depression but try to think positive.
if you want to change your life, change your attitude.
find a friend or family member that supports you, and develop a weight loss plan that you can both do.
What can I do to change my life?
xxHow to change my life?
';Give me the strenth to change what I can, the courage to accept what I can't, and the wisdom to know the difference.';
You need to start small. You are taking a really big ';bite'; and it may be very hard to chew. The best thing to do right now is start accepting who you are. Next, you can change your diet, start exercising at least 3 times a week, and start opening yourself to new relationships within this group of people. You will notice that in a few weeks there will be changes physically, mentally, and emotionally. Good luck...How to change my life?
In order to change your life you need to except yourself for who you are.
just do things that once made you happy because when we are bad we forget to do things that made us happy and we focus too much on the bad things.
go out and play with your friends it will help you forget things a little. do sport whatever make you happy, you are the only one who know what mde you happy and can make you happy again. go back to the things you were doing that make you happy before you met her, that's what we all do when someone break up with us. we simply go back and do things we used to do before we met them simple.
see it as she is the loser to break up with you and say that there are someone better then her.
you are not alone we all had break ups. go out and play with your friends do positive things that used to bring joy to you before you met her. we are do that
First of all if you want to change, loose weight etc. Do it for YOU no one else. Also if your on the edge of a group of friends, maybe you should ask yourself why you are on the edge. Are they your real friends, you might deserve a groupd of friends who are better. In general and beleive me I know this is not easy when you are going through depression but try to think positive.
if you want to change your life, change your attitude.
find a friend or family member that supports you, and develop a weight loss plan that you can both do.
I want to change my life, identity, and citizenship. Any1 know how I can do this without leaving a trace?
I don't want to leave any trace for someone to find me. I'm not liking the way this country is turning into and I'm wanting to move and live in another country.I want to change my life, identity, and citizenship. Any1 know how I can do this without leaving a trace?
I was going to suggest the Loompanics Unlimited website, but just found out they went out of business two years ago ... a similar site, though, is Paladin Press ... they have a whole section on new identity and all that.
Check it: http://www.paladin-press.com/SearchResulI want to change my life, identity, and citizenship. Any1 know how I can do this without leaving a trace?
Well you could maybe go to another english speaking country, marry someone get citizenship, change your name and take your future husband last name :D
Yeah, kill yourself
Open a swiss bank account and head to Switzerland. You can buy id I heard from about any street in any city. That's what the big wigs do.
Go to Mexico with no money and no dcts..in one week you'll be calling ur mommy ..
too late. You have already asked the question on the world wide web. now everyone already knows you are trying to disappear......and they will know all your idea on how to do it!
Good question; you have enough money for me to join?
What makes you think your life will be any better someplace else? Until YOU deal with the root of your problems, you will be miserable wherever you go. Sorry, but it's the truth!
The only currently legitimate vehicle for doing what you outline is to join the Foreign Legion. They still give you another ID and a French passport if you finish your contract with them.
Of course, you may spend some time in places that leave a lot to be desired, but you'll be changing your life a lot. Good luck.
There are many ways but all illegal %26amp; i will not recommend you. The only possibility i see is....you can go to any south american country and get married with changed name.
You can find some good international lawyer and he might help you in a better way.
Best of luck
The only way to do this is to abandon all semblance of your current life, and leave behind any kind of identification for yourself. Liquify all your assets, and leave. If you don't want anyone to find you, give misleading information, and if you're capable enough, have a hacker delete any information available about you in any site you might have registered. Somehow get a hold of your birth records and blood/DNA/medical records, and destsroy them all. Even if you manage to accomplish all this, there's no real way to erase your identity, much less without raising suspicion. And possibly the only way to become truly invisible is to be declared legally dead.
I hope that before you make such a move, you plan ahead properly. Starting anew anywhere with an identity is hard enough. I wish you good luck with whatever you decide to do.
I was going to suggest the Loompanics Unlimited website, but just found out they went out of business two years ago ... a similar site, though, is Paladin Press ... they have a whole section on new identity and all that.
Check it: http://www.paladin-press.com/SearchResulI want to change my life, identity, and citizenship. Any1 know how I can do this without leaving a trace?
Well you could maybe go to another english speaking country, marry someone get citizenship, change your name and take your future husband last name :D
Yeah, kill yourself
Open a swiss bank account and head to Switzerland. You can buy id I heard from about any street in any city. That's what the big wigs do.
Go to Mexico with no money and no dcts..in one week you'll be calling ur mommy ..
too late. You have already asked the question on the world wide web. now everyone already knows you are trying to disappear......and they will know all your idea on how to do it!
Good question; you have enough money for me to join?
What makes you think your life will be any better someplace else? Until YOU deal with the root of your problems, you will be miserable wherever you go. Sorry, but it's the truth!
The only currently legitimate vehicle for doing what you outline is to join the Foreign Legion. They still give you another ID and a French passport if you finish your contract with them.
Of course, you may spend some time in places that leave a lot to be desired, but you'll be changing your life a lot. Good luck.
There are many ways but all illegal %26amp; i will not recommend you. The only possibility i see is....you can go to any south american country and get married with changed name.
You can find some good international lawyer and he might help you in a better way.
Best of luck
The only way to do this is to abandon all semblance of your current life, and leave behind any kind of identification for yourself. Liquify all your assets, and leave. If you don't want anyone to find you, give misleading information, and if you're capable enough, have a hacker delete any information available about you in any site you might have registered. Somehow get a hold of your birth records and blood/DNA/medical records, and destsroy them all. Even if you manage to accomplish all this, there's no real way to erase your identity, much less without raising suspicion. And possibly the only way to become truly invisible is to be declared legally dead.
I hope that before you make such a move, you plan ahead properly. Starting anew anywhere with an identity is hard enough. I wish you good luck with whatever you decide to do.
How did you change your life when u turned 30?
I just turned 30 and I feel like I want to do something drastic like move to another state, get married, have a kid, or jump off a plane. I'm serious.. I want to do something drastic.. I feel it.. but I don't know what. Probably not the kid or marriage part as I don't have a steady guy in my life lolHow did you change your life when u turned 30?
don't get married.
How about starting on a PhD?
Or try to get a job as a contract killer. Is that enough excitement for you?How did you change your life when u turned 30?
I will tell you in 2 years when I turn 30
I just turned 30 in July. I felt like I needed to grow up as a person. Trust in myself and my abilites as a person and a woman. Become physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually connected. Grow up and think more rationally as an adult. My world changed and doors opened mentally that I would not have thought of in my twenties. It is a beautiful but scary thing. I am pregnant and love my husband and kids. Maybe you should consider settling down. Or just living life responsibly.
When I was 30 I caught my ex-wife in an affair....yeah, that was great!
mid life crisis..then..go do all those things..';get to livin' or get to dyin'';
I got sober but then 9yrs lat i got married.
You may try traveling, within the country or outside the country.
That's what me and my family are planning within the next year.
Well I just turned 33, and the change I made is I gave my life to the Lord Jesus Christ. So Since I have lived my worldly life, it's time to live for him now. May you can try that and see how you feel after-wards. Hope I answered your question. God Bless You!
i bought myself my first new car.
At 30, I was married with two kids and a mortgage, so I just went to work. It was the same at 40, and yes I recently turned 50 and went to work as well.
I'm not complaining, but you should celebrate while you can. I guess if I were in your situation, I would travel. Plan that exotic trip you always wanted to take. Don't wait.
Good luck! My EX lost her mind when she turned 30..... THAT DAY. Needless to say, it didn't exactly work out for us....
don't get married.
How about starting on a PhD?
Or try to get a job as a contract killer. Is that enough excitement for you?How did you change your life when u turned 30?
I will tell you in 2 years when I turn 30
I just turned 30 in July. I felt like I needed to grow up as a person. Trust in myself and my abilites as a person and a woman. Become physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually connected. Grow up and think more rationally as an adult. My world changed and doors opened mentally that I would not have thought of in my twenties. It is a beautiful but scary thing. I am pregnant and love my husband and kids. Maybe you should consider settling down. Or just living life responsibly.
When I was 30 I caught my ex-wife in an affair....yeah, that was great!
mid life crisis..then..go do all those things..';get to livin' or get to dyin'';
I got sober but then 9yrs lat i got married.
You may try traveling, within the country or outside the country.
That's what me and my family are planning within the next year.
Well I just turned 33, and the change I made is I gave my life to the Lord Jesus Christ. So Since I have lived my worldly life, it's time to live for him now. May you can try that and see how you feel after-wards. Hope I answered your question. God Bless You!
i bought myself my first new car.
At 30, I was married with two kids and a mortgage, so I just went to work. It was the same at 40, and yes I recently turned 50 and went to work as well.
I'm not complaining, but you should celebrate while you can. I guess if I were in your situation, I would travel. Plan that exotic trip you always wanted to take. Don't wait.
Good luck! My EX lost her mind when she turned 30..... THAT DAY. Needless to say, it didn't exactly work out for us....
How did you change my life?
You know that theory that everyone affects our life in some way. Even those you've never met, such as the person who took the last seat on the bus so you had to wait for the next one...you know? What do u think you changed in my life? Kept me from getting hit by a car? Led me to the love of my life? Got me an A on a test? It's all up to you...How did you change my life?
I was there for you when you wanted to run away from home. You felt your parents didn't understand you and that anythin g was better then living there.
You almost did it, but you called me first, and we talked.
I hope you are not sorry for this, because you are special, and I don't want you to get hurt out there, or even killed.
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.How did you change my life?
i probably led you to meeting your best friend.
Is your name victoria? That's my name too!
I was there for you when you wanted to run away from home. You felt your parents didn't understand you and that anythin g was better then living there.
You almost did it, but you called me first, and we talked.
I hope you are not sorry for this, because you are special, and I don't want you to get hurt out there, or even killed.
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.How did you change my life?
i probably led you to meeting your best friend.
Is your name victoria? That's my name too!
How did you change my life?
You know that theory that everyone affects our life in some way. Even those you've never met, such as the person who took the last seat on the bus so you had to wait for the next one...you know? What do u think you changed in my life? Kept me from getting hit by a car? Led me to the love of my life? Got me an A on a test? It's all up to you...How did you change my life?
i answered this question, so you decided to give me best answer instead of the person under meHow did you change my life?
You now want my avatar. You are now breathing manually.
You ate an apple instead of a banana the other day. I took the last banana at my friendly Safeway so your town's Safeway was feeling good and decided to supply my Safeway with the rest of their bananas so when you went to your store there were no more bananas in stock. It was a good banana, so thanks. :0)
because i'm that amazing! lol jk
well i hope i at least made u smile! =)
I used to pray that my life would simply end without me ever making any impact on anything .... that I would be beyond forgotten.... that it would be as if I'd never existed at all. I used to wish that more than anything.
Now, I'm happy if I can feed a small bird a french fry, make a dog's tail wag, or say a kind word to someone who's having a bad day. Now and then, I'll give a homeless person a $10 bill. Many people have been very kind to me - I'll do my best to pass it along.
So I'll ask you for this favor: I don't want to be forgotten. Many years from now, let something remind you of me - %26gt;%26gt;???%26lt;%26lt;, that guy from Y!A. Think of me when you cut a lime, prick your finger with a needle, or pet a small dog. Just think of me so I won't be forgotten.
Thanks.
I changed your life by clicking on this question. You're a very insightful, thoughtful person. That's a great personality quirk to have, I'm sure you're very smart...you sure sound like it to me! :D You also seem kind of fun to hang around, not gonna lie!
I hope that makes you a little happier tomorrow, which in turn, will make someone else happen, and someone else, and someone else...
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i answered this question, so you decided to give me best answer instead of the person under meHow did you change my life?
You now want my avatar. You are now breathing manually.
You ate an apple instead of a banana the other day. I took the last banana at my friendly Safeway so your town's Safeway was feeling good and decided to supply my Safeway with the rest of their bananas so when you went to your store there were no more bananas in stock. It was a good banana, so thanks. :0)
because i'm that amazing! lol jk
well i hope i at least made u smile! =)
I used to pray that my life would simply end without me ever making any impact on anything .... that I would be beyond forgotten.... that it would be as if I'd never existed at all. I used to wish that more than anything.
Now, I'm happy if I can feed a small bird a french fry, make a dog's tail wag, or say a kind word to someone who's having a bad day. Now and then, I'll give a homeless person a $10 bill. Many people have been very kind to me - I'll do my best to pass it along.
So I'll ask you for this favor: I don't want to be forgotten. Many years from now, let something remind you of me - %26gt;%26gt;???%26lt;%26lt;, that guy from Y!A. Think of me when you cut a lime, prick your finger with a needle, or pet a small dog. Just think of me so I won't be forgotten.
Thanks.
I changed your life by clicking on this question. You're a very insightful, thoughtful person. That's a great personality quirk to have, I'm sure you're very smart...you sure sound like it to me! :D You also seem kind of fun to hang around, not gonna lie!
I hope that makes you a little happier tomorrow, which in turn, will make someone else happen, and someone else, and someone else...
See what I mean?
How do you change 39 years of behavior and learn how to speak when that is not my past experience in life?
I have been very selfish and not been aware of my partners feelings for nearly 10 years and ours lives are at the point where we are so apposing in our growing up experiences, me having having no ongoing friendships and becoming more introspective since becoming the househusband. I don't contact the friends we do have and am on a downward slide with our relationship. How do I change when I don't have a life changing experience anywhere approaching that could possibly change my whole outlook on life from extreme apathy to revelation?How do you change 39 years of behavior and learn how to speak when that is not my past experience in life?
Give yourself credit. It sounds like you are on the right path. Don't buy into the misconception that you have to have a ';life changing experience'; to truly change your idiosyncrasies. Revelations or ';ah-ha'; moments require reflection and lots of time and work. You don't DO better until you KNOW better. It sounds like you are beginning to ';know better';, now you need to focus on ';doing better.'; Read self-help books, talk to a professional/preacher/friend, join support groups etc. for tips on how to change the behaviors that are limiting personal growth.How do you change 39 years of behavior and learn how to speak when that is not my past experience in life?
pray for help. then decide to change only for the better. we are not made to be everthesame. change! it's fun. and nessesery to find happyness
Give yourself credit. It sounds like you are on the right path. Don't buy into the misconception that you have to have a ';life changing experience'; to truly change your idiosyncrasies. Revelations or ';ah-ha'; moments require reflection and lots of time and work. You don't DO better until you KNOW better. It sounds like you are beginning to ';know better';, now you need to focus on ';doing better.'; Read self-help books, talk to a professional/preacher/friend, join support groups etc. for tips on how to change the behaviors that are limiting personal growth.How do you change 39 years of behavior and learn how to speak when that is not my past experience in life?
pray for help. then decide to change only for the better. we are not made to be everthesame. change! it's fun. and nessesery to find happyness
People say if you really want to change your life you can, but how?
I'm not happy with my life I kinda don't want it to go on. I'm not suicidal, but I don't know how to make the changes required. I just know the aspirations that I once had did not become reality.People say if you really want to change your life you can, but how?
We all need something new, a dream, a goal in order to be excited about life. It sounds like maybe? you have that dream, but aren't sure how to get to it?
If not, do some thinking so you can point yourself in the direction you want to go.
If you know where you want to go, remember what Jon Cabat-Zinn once said, ';It's simple, but not easy.';
Then it becomes a matter of walking every day in the direction of your dream. Even one act every day to take you toward your goal will keep your momentum going and will eventually get you to some results. Teaching yourself to do a little each day is good discipline and will ';feed'; itself. Soon, you will find yourself doing more and more. The only magic here is in your perserverence. Start moving in the direction of your dreams!
Attached is a link to an article about how MC Hammer can help you reach goals. I wrote it for mentors, but think it applies to all of us. Good luck and keep moving!People say if you really want to change your life you can, but how?
you can always take into consideration the cutting of your hair, as our father did.
though going emo on your hair isnt the best solution.
why dont you try doing the opposite of the things you dont like.. or the things u just do in general...
You could also try moving to a different city.. or traveling the world :)
and then you can go to the beach and.. BUILD SAND CASTLES!!! WOOOOOO!!
You can't.
It's just a hopeful society is far better society (and consumes more stuff and spends more money) than a hopeless one.
We don't have the american dream in britain..and there is significant pressure for us all ';to know our place';. Our prince is even actually against an aspirational society
whats really stopping you?
your life is yours to create
Visual what you want your life to be like. Then figure out what you can do now to start taking steps to get there. If you want a certain career, start the education or training. If you want to live a certain place, find out what it would take to get there, places to live, jobs, etc. Once you start making a move to your goal, you will feel invigorated and able to take even more steps. Just realize that if you don't end up exactly where you planned, at least you will get closer. The key is to look at where you end up versus where you started and how much you have done, rather than how far you are from your goal, which can be depressing. Start with little, simple things, then when you get those done, start with the bigger ones.
start with reading books like ';life strategies'; by dr. phillip mcGraw
and ';the seven spiritual laws of success'; by deepak choprah. you have to start making different types of decisions in your life and really think things through. believe an expert in this area..it CAN happen if you really want it to. I've done it with odds stacked against me but I was determined to change things entirely around. good luck.
its mind over matter, maybe you can start with finding a religion, if you have one then maybe you should start looking a little into the religion you have chosen.
You are unhappy in your current situation, and want change. This is the first step, accept the problem and confront it head on. The second step is to decide what to change, and then how to go about making the adjustments.
Also what are your thought patterns? aer you thinking negatively all the time? Think about what you are thinking about, become aware of your thoughts. Talk to yourself, change your internal thoughts, think positively.
If you are unhappy with your current situation, put it behind you. Move on. Decide what is a realistic goal. What do you really enjoy? Do what makes you happy. Stay away from whatever or perhaps whoever it is that brings you down.
We all need something new, a dream, a goal in order to be excited about life. It sounds like maybe? you have that dream, but aren't sure how to get to it?
If not, do some thinking so you can point yourself in the direction you want to go.
If you know where you want to go, remember what Jon Cabat-Zinn once said, ';It's simple, but not easy.';
Then it becomes a matter of walking every day in the direction of your dream. Even one act every day to take you toward your goal will keep your momentum going and will eventually get you to some results. Teaching yourself to do a little each day is good discipline and will ';feed'; itself. Soon, you will find yourself doing more and more. The only magic here is in your perserverence. Start moving in the direction of your dreams!
Attached is a link to an article about how MC Hammer can help you reach goals. I wrote it for mentors, but think it applies to all of us. Good luck and keep moving!People say if you really want to change your life you can, but how?
you can always take into consideration the cutting of your hair, as our father did.
though going emo on your hair isnt the best solution.
why dont you try doing the opposite of the things you dont like.. or the things u just do in general...
You could also try moving to a different city.. or traveling the world :)
and then you can go to the beach and.. BUILD SAND CASTLES!!! WOOOOOO!!
You can't.
It's just a hopeful society is far better society (and consumes more stuff and spends more money) than a hopeless one.
We don't have the american dream in britain..and there is significant pressure for us all ';to know our place';. Our prince is even actually against an aspirational society
whats really stopping you?
your life is yours to create
Visual what you want your life to be like. Then figure out what you can do now to start taking steps to get there. If you want a certain career, start the education or training. If you want to live a certain place, find out what it would take to get there, places to live, jobs, etc. Once you start making a move to your goal, you will feel invigorated and able to take even more steps. Just realize that if you don't end up exactly where you planned, at least you will get closer. The key is to look at where you end up versus where you started and how much you have done, rather than how far you are from your goal, which can be depressing. Start with little, simple things, then when you get those done, start with the bigger ones.
start with reading books like ';life strategies'; by dr. phillip mcGraw
and ';the seven spiritual laws of success'; by deepak choprah. you have to start making different types of decisions in your life and really think things through. believe an expert in this area..it CAN happen if you really want it to. I've done it with odds stacked against me but I was determined to change things entirely around. good luck.
its mind over matter, maybe you can start with finding a religion, if you have one then maybe you should start looking a little into the religion you have chosen.
You are unhappy in your current situation, and want change. This is the first step, accept the problem and confront it head on. The second step is to decide what to change, and then how to go about making the adjustments.
Also what are your thought patterns? aer you thinking negatively all the time? Think about what you are thinking about, become aware of your thoughts. Talk to yourself, change your internal thoughts, think positively.
If you are unhappy with your current situation, put it behind you. Move on. Decide what is a realistic goal. What do you really enjoy? Do what makes you happy. Stay away from whatever or perhaps whoever it is that brings you down.
How can I change my life?
I am very depressed on on medication. I am applying for Disability this coming week. I currently have a live in boyfriend. We are suppose to get married. I still love my ex husband although things did not work out. I feel like it is all my fault and it isn't I guess. I just can't get over it. I feel trapped in my mind like the only thing that could help me was him and now he is gone from me.How can I change my life?
You should go to a therapist and get some professional help. It is hard to deal with depression and disability and the break up of your former boyfriend. I wish you the best and here are some tips on how to deal with depression.
10 Tips to Support Your Depression Treatment
By actively working in partnership with your health care professional, you may improve your chances of achieving and maintaining remission from depression.
Taking an active role in your treatment also means taking care of yourself. This page includes tips on managing stress and making healthy lifestyle choices.
Set realistic goals. Increase your responsibilities gradually. Celebrate small victories along the way instead of searching for immediate success.
Try to reduce stress whenever you can. Be realistic about what you can and can't do. Accept that there will always be some level of stress in your life, but take steps to manage it as well as you can.
Break large tasks into manageable parts. Decide what is most important, and do what you can, as you can. Remember, it is normal to have good days as well as bad days.
Let your family and friends help you. When everyone works together to help you get through hard times, everyone benefits.
Open up to someone you trust. It is usually better than keeping your feelings to yourself.
Participate in activities that matter most to you. Don't forget to take time for yourself and your own interests.
Consider talk therapy (psychotherapy). Certain types of counseling, when combined with medication, can help you manage symptoms of depression. Talk with your doctor about these potential options.
Get advice on important decisions. If you have important decisions to make, listen to the advice of family and friends, who may have a different perspective on your situation right now.
Check in with family members. They can point out changes in your behavior that may be signs of progress as you manage the symptoms of depression.
Keep a personal journal of your feelings, sleep patterns, and other activities. This will make it easier to keep track of how you're responding to your treatment. Share this information with your health care professional.
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Go see a therapist, no one on yahoo answers can really help with too deep of issues.
First of all you should not marry your current boyfriend. It wouldn't be fair to him and it would only cause you more stress. So my advice is just tell him how you truely feel and if he's a good friend he'll understand. Secondly, see a therapist about the depression. No one deserves to live like that. And about your ex husband, its always hard to get over someone that you were very close with, it takes time, you cant expect pain like that to disappear quickly, and as much as it sucks you just have to take baby steps to move on from him. Marrying someone else would not be a baby step. But dating is, bravo for you, So please talk to a friend or see a counselor, they'll help you out so much. Good luck sweetie!
I am in the same boat,the only thing that could help me was her and now she is gone from me.
The break up of a marriage happens for many different reasons with chronic depression being one of the leading causes of divorce around the world. A depressed person will be very moody and down in the dumps and hard to be around and relate to. Depression often goes undiagnosed and the depressed person's behavior is often more than a spouse can bear. Can depression cause divorce? You bet it can!
Depression is ugly and puts tremendous strains on a marriage, especially if you are not sure the condition exists or even how severe it is. Depressed moods and symptoms can have a way of hiding at times and then being full blown the next instant, especially at the initial stages.
Often the depressed spouse pulls back from the relationship, not wanting to do the same things that were always done as a couple. Their belief that nothing will be fun is so strong that they even start missing family events. Sometimes the simplest life tasks go for days without being completed. Even personal hygiene can become an issue as the depressed person pulls away from the world and spends most of their time in a dark room alone.
Many times it's the depressed person pushing all the right buttons to set a divorce in motion because they have no self worth and feel they are very undeserving. They may be the first one to bring up the subject of divorce. Living with depression is a very scary place to be. The depressed person may think that everything is a waste of time and this may start to create problems for the non-depressed spouse.
Life is still the same for the non-depressed spouse and frequently they do not understand what could be causing the changes. Communication at this point is at an all time low, with niceties being a thing of the past. This may be when the first thoughts of divorce are being contemplated and considered a solution.
If this is you and you are living with a depressed person you need to do a few things to save your marriage. Even more important is saving both of you a lot of unnecessary grief. Understand depression by doing some research. There is a massive amount of information all around you, both on the internet and speaking with your doctor. Living with a depressed person is very difficult, but with the right information and medication depression can be treated.
Does depression cause divorce? The answer: Only if you let it. If depression has struck the one you love, there are many things that you can do - but first and foremost understand that depression is a disease, a disease that can be treated. But many times, these marriages do end in divorce because they become too unbearable.
Surviving Divorce
Developing your self-esteem is an important step in living through separation and divorce. You should focus on your personal strengths and not be distracted by situations that decrease your confidence.
Confidence does not come automatically. It requires a repetition of well-done tasks. Just as a series of failures can destroy your confidence, a series of small successes will build it. Do not view your divorce as a failure, view it as a learning experience. One success leads to another, and the positive effect on your self-image is cumulative and unique to you.
Typically, one spouse seems to become trapped by perpetuating their low self-esteem. The result is that they are treated the way they allow themselves to be treated, based on how they feel about themselves.
A healthy dose of assertiveness will cure that syndrome. Assertiveness is not aggressiveness. Assertiveness means standing on your own two feet and being your own best advocate. Assertiveness contributes to optimum mental health.
Staying Healthy Through Your Divorce:
Walking is an anywhere, anytime activity and a social sport. Grab a friend or two at lunch, slip off your heels or loafers and put on your walking shoes for a trek through the great outdoors. It beats slouching around the coffee machine.
Good nutrition goes hand-in-hand with an exercise routine. What you eat and drink affects your entire physical-mental self. Like a car low on fluids, the body gives signals of distress when it is not well-nourished. If you exist on cola and sugar, your mood swings or episodes of hyperactivity probably rule your productivity and sense of well-being. Like a car, your body can't operate well on low-quality fuel. Good nutrition goes a long way toward taking care of yourself.
You should go to a therapist and get some professional help. It is hard to deal with depression and disability and the break up of your former boyfriend. I wish you the best and here are some tips on how to deal with depression.
10 Tips to Support Your Depression Treatment
By actively working in partnership with your health care professional, you may improve your chances of achieving and maintaining remission from depression.
Taking an active role in your treatment also means taking care of yourself. This page includes tips on managing stress and making healthy lifestyle choices.
Set realistic goals. Increase your responsibilities gradually. Celebrate small victories along the way instead of searching for immediate success.
Try to reduce stress whenever you can. Be realistic about what you can and can't do. Accept that there will always be some level of stress in your life, but take steps to manage it as well as you can.
Break large tasks into manageable parts. Decide what is most important, and do what you can, as you can. Remember, it is normal to have good days as well as bad days.
Let your family and friends help you. When everyone works together to help you get through hard times, everyone benefits.
Open up to someone you trust. It is usually better than keeping your feelings to yourself.
Participate in activities that matter most to you. Don't forget to take time for yourself and your own interests.
Consider talk therapy (psychotherapy). Certain types of counseling, when combined with medication, can help you manage symptoms of depression. Talk with your doctor about these potential options.
Get advice on important decisions. If you have important decisions to make, listen to the advice of family and friends, who may have a different perspective on your situation right now.
Check in with family members. They can point out changes in your behavior that may be signs of progress as you manage the symptoms of depression.
Keep a personal journal of your feelings, sleep patterns, and other activities. This will make it easier to keep track of how you're responding to your treatment. Share this information with your health care professional.
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Go see a therapist, no one on yahoo answers can really help with too deep of issues.
First of all you should not marry your current boyfriend. It wouldn't be fair to him and it would only cause you more stress. So my advice is just tell him how you truely feel and if he's a good friend he'll understand. Secondly, see a therapist about the depression. No one deserves to live like that. And about your ex husband, its always hard to get over someone that you were very close with, it takes time, you cant expect pain like that to disappear quickly, and as much as it sucks you just have to take baby steps to move on from him. Marrying someone else would not be a baby step. But dating is, bravo for you, So please talk to a friend or see a counselor, they'll help you out so much. Good luck sweetie!
I am in the same boat,the only thing that could help me was her and now she is gone from me.
The break up of a marriage happens for many different reasons with chronic depression being one of the leading causes of divorce around the world. A depressed person will be very moody and down in the dumps and hard to be around and relate to. Depression often goes undiagnosed and the depressed person's behavior is often more than a spouse can bear. Can depression cause divorce? You bet it can!
Depression is ugly and puts tremendous strains on a marriage, especially if you are not sure the condition exists or even how severe it is. Depressed moods and symptoms can have a way of hiding at times and then being full blown the next instant, especially at the initial stages.
Often the depressed spouse pulls back from the relationship, not wanting to do the same things that were always done as a couple. Their belief that nothing will be fun is so strong that they even start missing family events. Sometimes the simplest life tasks go for days without being completed. Even personal hygiene can become an issue as the depressed person pulls away from the world and spends most of their time in a dark room alone.
Many times it's the depressed person pushing all the right buttons to set a divorce in motion because they have no self worth and feel they are very undeserving. They may be the first one to bring up the subject of divorce. Living with depression is a very scary place to be. The depressed person may think that everything is a waste of time and this may start to create problems for the non-depressed spouse.
Life is still the same for the non-depressed spouse and frequently they do not understand what could be causing the changes. Communication at this point is at an all time low, with niceties being a thing of the past. This may be when the first thoughts of divorce are being contemplated and considered a solution.
If this is you and you are living with a depressed person you need to do a few things to save your marriage. Even more important is saving both of you a lot of unnecessary grief. Understand depression by doing some research. There is a massive amount of information all around you, both on the internet and speaking with your doctor. Living with a depressed person is very difficult, but with the right information and medication depression can be treated.
Does depression cause divorce? The answer: Only if you let it. If depression has struck the one you love, there are many things that you can do - but first and foremost understand that depression is a disease, a disease that can be treated. But many times, these marriages do end in divorce because they become too unbearable.
Surviving Divorce
Developing your self-esteem is an important step in living through separation and divorce. You should focus on your personal strengths and not be distracted by situations that decrease your confidence.
Confidence does not come automatically. It requires a repetition of well-done tasks. Just as a series of failures can destroy your confidence, a series of small successes will build it. Do not view your divorce as a failure, view it as a learning experience. One success leads to another, and the positive effect on your self-image is cumulative and unique to you.
Typically, one spouse seems to become trapped by perpetuating their low self-esteem. The result is that they are treated the way they allow themselves to be treated, based on how they feel about themselves.
A healthy dose of assertiveness will cure that syndrome. Assertiveness is not aggressiveness. Assertiveness means standing on your own two feet and being your own best advocate. Assertiveness contributes to optimum mental health.
Staying Healthy Through Your Divorce:
Walking is an anywhere, anytime activity and a social sport. Grab a friend or two at lunch, slip off your heels or loafers and put on your walking shoes for a trek through the great outdoors. It beats slouching around the coffee machine.
Good nutrition goes hand-in-hand with an exercise routine. What you eat and drink affects your entire physical-mental self. Like a car low on fluids, the body gives signals of distress when it is not well-nourished. If you exist on cola and sugar, your mood swings or episodes of hyperactivity probably rule your productivity and sense of well-being. Like a car, your body can't operate well on low-quality fuel. Good nutrition goes a long way toward taking care of yourself.
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